Contributor: Mr. Yao (Disclaimer: This article is not my own experience, but is based on the narrator's words)
The word "big tree" is very suitable for use in our family.
My second uncle was hospitalized due to illness, and I put down my business and drove to the hospital overnight.
Because of the severity of my condition and the high cost of surgery, I first went to the bank to withdraw money before going to my second uncle's ward.
Before I could catch my breath, my uncle was in the ward, asking everyone to raise money together to treat my second uncle.
Of course I agree, but my uncle's next sentence made me very uncomfortable.
"Xuanxuan, you have a lot of money in your hand, you have to take out 10,000 yuan. ”
What is this called, everyone raises money together, which family wants to pay as much as they want, they can pay as much as they want, the second uncle was sick and didn't speak, what qualifications does the uncle have to ask me to give money, I said unceremoniously: "Do you give 100,000?"
01
My mom has five siblings, and my mom is the youngest.
Because she is the youngest and a daughter, her grandparents don't pay much attention to her mother.
My mother told me that when she was 13 years old, she went to work in the city for her aunt, her aunt.
The taste under the fence is not comfortable, and the emotional life of my aunt is not smooth.
When my mother went to my aunt's house, my aunt was getting a divorce and quarreling every day, and she didn't have time to care about her mother.
After my aunt completely divorced, I enrolled my mother in a class to learn beauty salons.
The tuition fee is out of my aunt, I don't even think about the living expenses, and my mother doesn't dare to ask for money, and I don't even have the money to take the bus to go to class every day, so I walk to it.
The mother called her grandparents to ask for living expenses, but she was refused, because the uncle's family wanted to build a house and had no money in hand, and accused her mother of living in the city, eating well and dressing well, not to mention subsidizing the family to give some money.
In the whole family, only the second uncle felt sorry for his mother and knew his mother's difficulties.
The second aunt is also a very good person, but the eldest aunt is very strong, she can't speak at home, and when she learned that her mother was having a difficult time in the city, the second uncle and the second aunt discussed it and decided not to have children first, and sent a part of the money from farming and selling it to my mother.
In this way, the mother was able to gain a foothold in the city.
And the mother changed her fate because she married her father.
My father's family is well-off, my grandfather is a businessman, my grandmother is a teacher, and my father is an only son, and the money in their hands is basically provided for our family.
The mother is very beautiful, and the father falls in love with her at first sight.
At that time, my mother had just practiced her craft, and because her mouth could speak, she was beautiful and beautiful, so many customers liked to ask her mother to cut her hair, and even if she didn't cut it well, no one would get angry.
I still remember my father said that although he was amazed by his mother's appearance, her craftsmanship was too bad, and he was moved and angry.
Although the father was very apprehensive about his mother's craft, who made the father move first?
In order to have more contact with his mother, he had to talk to him every once in a while, and finally asked for contact information.
Grandparents dot on their father very much, they don't have any requirements for their father's marriage, as long as their father likes it, although the family is not rich, as long as the father does not eat, drink, prostitute and gamble, it is definitely enough for him to spend.
My mother knew that my father's family was well-off, but she didn't know that the family was so rich.
When she learned about it, her mother retreated a little, firstly, because she was a girl from the countryside, uneducated, and her mother's family did not love her.
But couldn't stand his father's sweet words and fierce pursuits, and the two finally got married.
When my mother got married, the bride price was a few thousand yuan at that time, but my grandfather gave 50,000 yuan, and my grandparents couldn't close their mouths happily, and the happiest one was my uncle, as if the 50,000 yuan was about to go into his pocket.
The entanglement of interests of the older generation does particularly affect the relationship between our juniors.
I don't have a close relationship with my uncle and two aunts, because the three of them are really not fuel-efficient lamps.
02
Uncle takes his parents' things very seriously, and everything must be given to his uncle first, otherwise it will be noisy.
The second uncle grew up under the control of the eldest uncle since he was a child, and he didn't know how to resist at all, and he was always very humble, and he had to listen to the eldest brother if he felt that it was the eldest brother.
The eldest aunt is also the eldest in her mother's family, she is very strong, and she will say everything she does.
Basically, as long as there is something good for my grandparents, they will definitely send it to my uncle's house first, and only if my uncle doesn't want it, I will give it to my second uncle's house.
When the uncle split up, he basically took away all the good things in the family, and didn't care about the lives of other brothers and sisters, and his grandparents couldn't help it, thinking that his eldest son wanted it, so he gave it, and then gave it to his second son when he made money in the future.
What I don't like the most is my aunt, who makes my mother very sad.
The mother did have a good life and married a man who loved her and was rich, but the fate of the aunt was not bad, and her first husband was very kind to her, and he cared about her meticulously.
The ex-uncle's family conditions are good, his parents are both public officials, he has a pension, and the ex-uncle's own family graduated from college and was admitted to a state-owned enterprise.
Before getting married, my ex-uncle's family prepared a house and a car, and I married my aunt home in a beautiful way.
Auntie was not to mention how proud she was at the time, her mother said that she was most envious of her aunt, marrying someone she liked, and she liked herself so much, the conditions were good, after the aunt got married, there was a temporary position in the aunt's husband's unit, and she directly let the aunt in.
Because of her strong work ability, my aunt passed the regular examination and became a regular worker.
At that time, many people in the village envied the aunt.
The uncle had the best relationship with the aunt, and the uncle was particularly courting the aunt at that time, and for this reason, the aunt bought a lot of things for the children of the uncle's family.
But when her mother got married, her aunt felt a sense of disparity in her heart, and every time she talked to her mother, she was always yin and yang, and she always wanted to get some benefits from her mother.
My aunt is unwilling, but she always brings her cousin to my house, my mother is very emotional, she respects her sister very much, no matter what the aunt wants, or what jewelry she likes from her mother, her mother gave it to her aunt without saying a word.
But the aunt was still not satisfied, she actually divorced her uncle, because she felt that her uncle's earning ability was not good, and he couldn't buy a good car if he got a dead salary in a state-owned enterprise.
My grandparents are very angry about my aunt's behavior, what should she do with work after her divorce, two people work in a company, although there are many people, but there is always a time to meet.
My aunt doesn't care so much, she is very willful, and three years after the divorce, she found a boyfriend, who is my current aunt-in-law.
My aunt is in business, although she is not as rich as my family, but she is indeed a leader in ordinary people, with a car of more than 600,000 yuan and a villa in the suburbs.
The aunt was very satisfied, thinking that she was really right to divorce.
For such a selfish behavior of my aunt, my mother disagrees very much, and the harm to my cousin is too great.
So much so that until now, my cousin has not forgiven my aunt, and I don't even shout my mother.
But the aunt was very ruthless, she didn't care about her cousin's feelings at all, and she had another child with her uncle.
I don't know if it's God's punishment for her, this child is autistic and can't take care of herself at all.
But the aunt loves the aunt very much, and the two of them spent a lot of money on the treatment of autism for the child, and they are still being treated, although the cost is high, it is nothing for their family.
The second aunt is a debt collector, she is not polite to everyone in the family, and her personality is very similar to that of her uncle.
But the second aunt's marriage is very bad, the second aunt's husband has no ability, and always complains that the second aunt can't make money.
The second aunt has been brainwashed by the second aunt's husband, and she never thought that the second aunt had a problem, and all the money she earned was posted on her husband's body.
Seeing that the two sisters had money at home, they just bought what they wanted, owed credit cards, several cards went back and forth, and when they couldn't supply it, they asked my mother for money.
My mother rarely refuses, and when I grew up, I felt that my mother was wrong to do this, and completely spoiled my second aunt, and I didn't work hard, relying on gnawing on the family.
But my mother refused one of the few, and the second aunt didn't have any face at all, and asked my dad directly for money, and the second sister begged for her head, and there was not much money, so my dad would definitely give it.
My mother has a strong self-esteem, since marrying my father, she has been studying and studying, trying to stand by my father's side, and my mother felt quite uncomfortable when she learned that her sister asked her husband for money.
For this matter, my mother quarreled with my second aunt, but the attitude of the family, except for my second uncle, really no one looked at my mother, and said that my mother was so rich, and she was so stingy with her family, not just a few thousand yuan, and it was a matter of sprinkling water on our family.
03
The second uncle is an understanding person, which may also have something to do with his character, he feels that he is an older brother, and even if his sister is rich, she can't take advantage of her sister.
The second uncle and the second aunt are hardworking and capable people, and they are usually very good to their mother, and when they have souvenirs at home, they send them to our house, all of which are good things, and he keeps cheap things for his own family to eat.
Therefore, my mother's help to my second uncle was sincere.
My cousin and I (my second uncle's child) are the same age, and my mother moved my cousin's household registration to our house for the sake of the child's future, so that elementary school and junior high school are better in the city.
My cousin is also competitive, and his academic performance is particularly good, and he is often the first and second in the class.
The second uncle is especially grateful to his mother for this, but if he spends money on college, if he only relies on farming in the village, he is still a little struggling, so his mother paid for the second uncle and the second aunt to open a department store and a husband-and-wife store, and the business is very good.
Later, after e-commerce became popular, the second uncle turned the department store into an express station, with an income of more than 10,000 yuan a month.
I especially admire the quality of my second uncle, and I have the best relationship with my second cousin, often playing ball and eating together.
No, my second uncle was sick, I was very anxious, I put down the business in my hand directly, and hurried home, but I didn't expect my uncle to be so aggressive, and asked me to give 10,000 yuan by name.
The second uncle's disease, as long as the operation is successful, avoid fatigue in the future, there is no big problem, that is, the cost of the operation is about 60,000 yuan, plus the follow-up recuperation, it is estimated that it will take 100,000 yuan.
I know that my second uncle's family is in difficulty, my cousin's marriage has almost hollowed out the family, this second uncle is sick and the express station is all supported by the second aunt, this 100,000 yuan is really not a lot of money for my uncle's status in my heart, even if I let me take it all, I have no opinion.
When my uncle heard my words, he stopped talking for a moment, but my aunt persuaded me to argue with my uncle.
In the end, I gave 100,000 yuan to my second aunt, and the money is all outside the body, which is not as good as our family affection, and I am willing to give this money.