Some time ago, Dou Jingtong attracted a lot of attention.
The reason is the exposure of stills from "Her Way of Survival", in which Dou Jingtong has long hair and plays a couple with Wang Chuanjun.
This stunned a group of netizens, and all kinds of questions and discussions came one after another:
"How did you convince Dou Jingtong to play this role?"
"If you don't look at the name, you can't imagine it's her!"
"It's a combination I've never thought of in my life......"
There are even netizens who directly "shouted" Faye Wong:
"Faye Wong, please pay more attention to whether the child owes money outside, and I dare not say. ”
It is understandable that netizens are so shocked, after all, in everyone's impression, Dou Jingtong has always been "deviant".
For example, eye-catching tattoos:
Various exaggerated hair colors:
There are also "unconventional" hairstyles that change every once in a while:
It was even rumored that he had married female director Li Mengqiao abroad.
These images can't be connected with the current Dou Jingtong.
But in fact, as the "second generation of stars" that has attracted much attention, Dou Jingtong has stepped out of the aura of his parents and become an independent and self-consistent individual.
The daughter of the queen of heaven is not good
's mother is Faye Wong, and her father is the talented Dou Wei, coupled with an unstable family environment.
Since birth, Dou Jingtong has been destined to live in the spotlight.
was expected by everyone when he was still in infancy: "Tongtong, the whole music scene is waiting for you to grow up."
When she was two years old, Faye Wong and Dou Wei divorced, and since then, she sometimes follows her mother, sometimes lives in her aunt's house, Beijing, Hong Kong, the United States, and "wanders" everywhere in the world.
In her childhood, she was used to being tightly hugged by her mother through the siege of media reporters, and she would help her mother block the camera:
When Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse fell in love, the Hong Kong media went to the kindergarten to find Dou Jingtong in order to get exclusive information:
"Do you want your mother to remarry Nicholas Tse?
But how could a 3-year-old child answer such a question, the little Dou Jingtong was directly frightened and cried by the reporters who surrounded him.
Later, Dou Jingtong's missing father's love was fulfilled by Li Yapeng, and he also entered Beijing No. 4 Middle School to study.
However, in the face of this kind of school full of top students, Dou Jingtong, who does not like to read, has the psychology of dropping out of school under great pressure.
After discussing with his mother, Dou Jingtong dropped out of Beijing No. 4 Middle School and was admitted to Berklee College of Music in the United States.
But two years later, Dou Jingtong found that the learning form in school was not suitable for him, so he chose to drop out.
In the eyes of outsiders, the complexity of the original family and the maverick character of her biological parents make her "rebellion" seem taken for granted.
15岁那年，窦靖童带着一首英文歌《With you》出道。
But the outside world does not pay attention to the style and voice, but ridicules her image as "ugly", "earthy" and "round".
It's not that she hasn't been anxious when she is not deeply involved in the world, but facing the camera, she doesn't want to be rumored to be the news of "Faye Wong's daughter bursting into foul language".
After all, no one knows better than her that the daughter of a diva is not good.
So even when asked the malicious question of "which of the three dads is the best", she just looked helpless and said honestly:
"I don't know how to answer. ”
Later, her various "weird" dresses and hairstyles have been criticized by netizens for "grandstanding", but only she knows:
"I'm doing what I want to do, and I'm not sure what the future holds...... Rebellion for the sake of rebellion seems stupid to me. ”
Do Dou Jingtong himself
A reporter once asked Dou Jingtong:
"Some people say that you make music because you are stained with the light of your parents, will you feel bitter for this kind of remarks?"
Dou Jingtong just smiled and replied:
"My father is Dou Wei, my mother is Faye Wong, they both make music, this is a fact. I can't deny or change this fact, I can't just prove myself and retrain with my number, right?"
She couldn't choose the beginning of her life, so she chose: to be a good Dou Jingtong herself.
Few people understand that Dou Jingtong, who has put aside the halo of his parents, is actually delicate, mature and gentle.
In order to create her ideal music, she refused any packaging, and also refused to enter the company of her mother's then-boyfriend Nicholas Tse, accumulating experience without hurry.
Actor Huang Jue, who has worked with her, once praised her: "Talented, charming, capable, much more mature than her peers!"
In order to become independent as soon as possible, Dou Jingtong once went to work in a coffee shop, and when pouring boiled water for customers, he would intimately ask the other party whether he wanted room temperature or ice.
After she first started making music and making money, she wanted to buy herself a car, but later she helped her aunt share the tuition fees of her younger siblings.
As a daughter and sister, Dou Jingtong is just right.
Faye Wong once said: "At home, Dou Jingtong is the eldest sister, Li Yan is the second sister, and I am the younger sister." ”
Li Yan, the "second sister" who just knew how to love beauty, once felt inferior to her rabbit lips, so the "eldest sister" Dou Jingtong tattooed a vertical line from her chin to her neck, and then told her:
"Now we're the same. ”
Regarding the rumors from the outside world, Dou Jingtong has also been silently responding in a warm and powerful way.
In 2018, Faye Wong and Na Ying sang "Meet Ninety-Eight" on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and Dou Jingtong posted a photo of her mother when she was young:
"See, this is my mother, isn't it?"
Dou Wei's decadent appearance when he took the subway went viral all over the Internet, and he was ridiculed by the group for turning the former rock star into a greasy uncle.
In the face of the malice of the outside world, Dou Jingtong silently posted a selfie of himself taking the subway to support his father in the air.
There is no accompanying text and no explanation, but everyone can read her attitude: everything is not important.
Dou Jingtong, who has grown up in the eyes and expectations of everyone since he was a child, has already practiced inner self-consistency and calmness.
"You can be bad, but you can't learn badly"
Today's Dou Jingtong has begun to dominate the course of his life.
Her sense of relaxation and gentle and kind personality have attracted a lot of fans.
And all of this is closely related to the education of her parents, especially her mother Faye Wong, who gave her endless support and encouragement.
Although she rarely talks about her parenting experience publicly, Faye Wong also has her own ideas about the guidance of children.
When Dou Jingtong was young, Faye Wong talked about her expectations for her daughter:
"My greatest wish for my child is that she will be safe and happy. ”
In the eyes of outsiders, she is unreliable in raising a baby, lacks a sense of responsibility, and is even "unworthy of being a mother".
But the companionship and love she gave her daughter has never been less.
The song "Tong", written by Faye Wong and arranged by Dou Wei, is dedicated to Dou Jingtong.
The lyrics "You can't learn badly, you can not be very well-behaved" directly reflects the two people's educational concept of Dou Jingtong:
I hope that my daughter can maintain correct values and not learn badly, and at the same time, she can not be too conformist and can grow up freely according to her own preferences.
When her career was in full swing, Faye Wong was never absent from Dou Jingtong's growth.
One second she was still a radiant singer on the stage, and the next second she returned backstage and became a happy nursery rhyme mother:
When he grew up, Dou Jingtong became the harmony of the diva concert, and the small interaction between mother and daughter singing on the same stage made fans shout "It's so loving!"
And every move that Dou Jingtong seems to be deviant has also been discussed with Faye Wong.
Even when she was 16 years old and tattooed on her body, Faye Wong only said one sentence after learning about it: "You won't regret it." ”
Regarding the withdrawal from school, Faye Wong's response was: "Just think about it." ”
The real relationship between mother and daughter is built on the foundation of equality and respect.
Perhaps to outsiders, this parent-child relationship seems too loose and tolerant.
However, Faye Wong, as a mother, did not let her daughter grow up savagely alone.
Instead, we will give guidance and care at the right time to ensure that our daughter is both free and steady on the road to growth.
Last year, Dou Jingtong released a new album, one of which was "Fireworks" for her mother, she sang:
"Mom, I've grown up and I don't need everyone to please me anymore, I don't need to be surrounded by people to smile at me. ”
Now 27-year-old Dou Jingtong is growing vigorously and enthusiastically.
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Write at the end ·
There is a good saying:
"The more confident a child is, the more successful the adult is. ”
Some people may think that the reason why Dou Jingtong can be so "willful" is because he has a solid family background.
But in fact, as parents, the most precious gift to their children is not abundant wealth and material resources, but deep love and endless tolerance.
Someone asked, "What is it like to have a diva mother?"
Dou Jingtong's answer was:
"The most special gift my mother ever gave me was to teach me how to appreciate a rainbow. ”
Children can grow an independent and stretched soul, and the cornerstone of everything is the love and freedom of parents to grasp the scale.