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I am an ordinary office worker, 32 years old, and my wife and I have been married for 5 years. We love each other as a family, and our lives are plain and happy. I work as a marketing manager in a foreign company, and the salary is okay. The wife is a housewife at home, and she is a virtuous and capable good wife.
My wife's name is Xiaohong, and her parents are farmers of the older generation, and when we got married, we were required to be filial to them. I have always respected my parents-in-law and tried to accommodate their requests. Xiaohong's brother-in-law is called Xiao Ming, 25 years old this year, he has been regarded as the pearl of the family since he was a child, and he is a little willful.
"Xiao Ming is a spoiled child. The mother-in-law often complained, "Since I was a child, we have never disciplined him harshly, so he is so unproductive now." "
A few days ago, Xiao Ming did another thing that gave our family a headache. He went on a shopping spree online and maxed out all his bank cards. That night, my mother-in-law called me to the living room and said to me with a serious face, "Xiao Zhang, you have to do me a favor." Xiao Ming's kid spent money again, and his card was maxed out when he bought things online. You go to his account and empty the cart and don't let him buy it again. "
I was a little hesitant and felt that this was not the right thing to do. I tentatively said, "But it's not the right place for me to get into his account, is it? "
The mother-in-law immediately frowned, and her tone became tougher: "What is too much? He is just a child who has not grown up, and he has to be disciplined by his elders." You're his brother-in-law, and you're a member of the family, what's wrong with helping?"
I still felt that something was wrong, so I said tactfully: "However, Xiao Ming is 25 years old after all, and he is not young." He should be in charge of his money and online purchases, right? Wouldn't it be too abrupt for me to do that?"
But the mother-in-law said categorically: "That is his mistake, and we have the responsibility to correct him." Besides, you are his brother-in-law, so much older than him, of course you should discipline him. If you don't listen to me, then our family will have no discipline!"
At this time, Xiaohong also joined the debate. She saw the difference between the two of us, so she tried to mediate: "Mom, I think what Dad said also makes sense. Although Xiao Ming is a little willful, he is already an adult after all. He may be disgusted by our forcible interference in his private affairs. "
The mother-in-law shook her head, her tone a little impatient: "That is, you are spoiled by him." Growing up, he was a spoiled child. If he is not disciplined, he will only become more and more willful. "
Red wanted to say something more, but I took her hand and motioned for her to stop talking for the time being. I gave her a look and said we should not make my mother-in-law angry for the time being.
Xiaohong nodded knowingly and stopped talking. She knew that the matter had escalated to the point of authority of the parents, and we young people could not tell.
That night, Xiaohong said to me in the bedroom: "Mom is just too stubborn, always thinking that what the elders say is right." But Xiao Ming has grown up after all, will we do this too much?"
I patted the back of Xiaohong's hand and comforted, "I feel the same way." But you also know that as sons-in-law and daughters-in-law, we still have to respect something in front of your parents. Even if we have different opinions, we can't confront our elders face to face. "
Xiaohong sighed and nodded. I continued, "But don't worry, I'll take care of it." I won't really touch Xiao Ming's account, that's really inappropriate. But I'll try to get your mother to change her mind. "
The mother-in-law frowned, and seemed to be a little unhappy: "What? Don't you want to help?
I quickly explained, "That's not what it meant. Of course, I hope that Xiao Ming can be sensible and not spend money indiscriminately. It's just that I think it's a bit out of the box to move his account directly. It's about his privacy and autonomy, after all. "
"You young people just spoil that kid too much!" The mother-in-law reprimanded, "I haven't disciplined him harshly since I was a child, so he's so useless now." "
I patiently said, "I understand your good intentions, mother-in-law, but I don't think it's appropriate. After all, Xiao Ming is 25 years old and an adult. If we do this, he will only be more disgusted and the relationship with us will break down completely. "
"Then you say, what are we going to do?" The mother-in-law asked helplessly.
I thought for a moment and said, "Well, let's not be so tough." I can have a good talk with Xiao Ming first, so that he can realize the harm of spending money indiscriminately. If he is still stubborn, then consider other options. But in any case, we must respect his will and not completely suppress him. "
The mother-in-law was silent for a long time, and finally nodded and said, "Okay, then follow your opinion first." But you have to discipline the boy well, and don't let him go on any longer. "
Out of respect for my mother-in-law, I didn't say anything more. I just hope in my heart that through my persuasion, Xiao Ming can correct some wayward mistakes.
When I got home, I asked Xiao Ming out, and the two of us sat on a chair in the community and chatted.
"Xiao Ming, I heard that you have been shopping online again recently?" I'll get straight to the point.
Xiao Ming touched his nose a little embarrassed: "Well, there are some." But it's not a big deal, just bought some gadgets. "
"But I heard from your sister that your card has been maxed out?" I shook my head helplessly, "It's not okay to spend money like this." You should learn to spend wisely and spend your money wisely. "
Xiao Ming pursed his lips, a little disapproving: "How can it be so serious? Besides, spending money is my freedom, you can't care about it, right?"
I said earnestly, "Of course, you're an adult and have the power to dispose of your belongings. But we're all family, and of course I hope you're sober. If you spend money like this, when will you save enough for a down payment on a house?"
"Buying a house? Xiao Ming said with a hippie smile, "I'm only 25 years old now, I'm still young, let's talk about it in the future." "
I shook my head helplessly, it seemed that it would take some work to get this wayward boy to correct his mistakes. But I was not discouraged, but patiently continued to persuade him.
I continued to persuade: "Xiao Ming, although you are not very old now, you will have to live independently one day in the future. You have to learn to spend wisely and spend your money on the right path to lay the foundation for your future life. "
Xiao Ming still didn't care: "Let's talk about the future in the future, now is to enjoy life." You elders are too old-fashioned, and they only know how to force us to work hard to make money. "
It seems that my persuasion alone is not enough, I have to come up with some concrete data and cases to convince him. So I said, "Listen to me, if you spend your money like this every month now, you won't be able to save enough for a down payment by the time you're 35." "
"I calculated that if you start saving 5,000 yuan a month now, plus normal salary growth, you can save a down payment of 300,000 yuan by the age of 35 or so. But if you continue to spend money like this, don't think about buying a house when the time comes. "
Xiao Ming finally shook a little, he frowned and thought for a moment, and said, "But saving 5,000 yuan a month is too much, right? "
"That's all the more about saving. "I'll strike while the iron is hot," you look at the things you've recently bought online, most of them either don't use them at all, or they're quickly forgotten. You save that money and save a few more years for a down payment. "
Xiao Ming nodded thoughtfully, as if moved by my words. I went on to say, "Besides, if you start saving now, you will earn a lot more interest in the future." If you wait until your 30s to start saving, you'll get much less interest in the future. "
"So what the hell am I supposed to do?" Xiao Ming finally asked. It seems that he is really starting to pay attention to this issue.
"It doesn't sound easy, but if you're determined, you can do it. You need to learn to strive for long-term goals rather than focusing on immediate pleasures. I said earnestly.
Xiao Ming nodded seriously, and it seemed that he had finally begun to pay attention to this issue. I secretly rejoiced that it seemed that through patient persuasion, he was finally willing to correct some wayward faults.
At this moment, Xiaohong called, saying that her mother was reprimanding Xiao Ming for his online shopping behavior at home. Hearing this, I could only leave for the time being, and go back to calm my mother-in-law's emotions first.
As soon as I entered the house, I heard my mother-in-law's angry roar in the living room: "Xiao Ming, Xiao Ming, you are a loser!
When she saw me enter the door, my mother-in-law immediately pointed the finger at me: "How is it? Have you persuaded that stinky boy well? What is he going to do?"
I hurriedly explained, "Mother-in-law, I have already had a good talk with Xiao Ming just now. He now does realize the seriousness of the problem and says he wants to fix the waste of money. "
"That kid is still too willful. The mother-in-law still shook her head, "You young people are just too used to him to spoil him like this." "
Xiaohong hurriedly said, "Mom, don't always say that." Although Xiao Ming is a little willful, now he has realized the problem and said that he will correct it. Let's give him a chance. "
"If he is willful, you must not get used to him!" Mother-in-law admonished.
I also said: "Don't worry, mother-in-law, if Xiao Ming is still stubborn, we will definitely continue to discipline him and will never indulge him." "
Seeing my mother-in-law gradually calm down her anger, I was secretly glad that the turmoil had finally subsided temporarily. However, I also realized that it would take a process to completely correct Xiao Ming's wayward faults. We all need to work together as a family to guide him on the right path with love and patience.
In this way, the family started a long education process on Xiao Ming's "online shopping freak" problem.
"Xiao Ming, although you are still young now, you will have to live independently one day in the future. You have to learn to save money and save enough for a down payment before you can buy a house and start a family in the future. "
Xiao Ming muttered a little reluctantly: "But it's too difficult to save so much money, my salary is not high, and the cost of living is already expensive enough." "
Xiaohong shook her head and sighed: "If you look at the things you have purchased online recently, most of them are either not used at all, or they will soon be forgotten." If you save that money, you'll be able to save a lot more. "
Xiao Ming lowered his head and pondered for a moment, then finally nodded and said, "Sister, you have a point. I have indeed bought a lot of useless things online in the past few months, and I have wasted a lot of money. In the future, I will definitely pay attention to rational consumption. "
Xiaohong happily patted the back of Xiao Ming's hand and said sincerely: "That's good, as long as you really want to correct it, you will be able to do it." I believe you are a good boy with a sense of responsibility. "
Since then, Xiao Ming has begun to strictly control his online shopping spending. Every month, he would save part of his salary to save for a down payment in the future. Sometimes he receives coupons from some shopping websites, and he will feel a little excited. But he held it all and insisted on saving the money.
Seeing Xiao Ming's determination, Xiao Hong and I are also sincerely happy. Xiaohong often said to me: "Xiao Ming is finally sensible, and our persuasion is useful." "
However, my mother-in-law still doubted whether Xiao Ming's determination could last, and she always told us to continue to supervise Xiao Ming and not relax.
"You young people are just too used to that kid, that's why he's so willful. If he continues to indulge, sooner or later he will repeat the same mistakes. "Mother-in-law always said that.
In order to prove that he has really reformed himself, Xiao Ming took the initiative to tell me and Xiaohong the password of his deposit account, so that we can supervise it at any time. At the end of each month, he takes out his passbook and lets us check his savings for the month.
In this way, a month, two months, and three months have passed, and Xiao Ming has always adhered to the habit of fixed monthly deposits and has never relaxed at all. Seeing him so determined, Xiaohong and I were also impressed with him, and felt that he had finally really grown up.
Once, Xiao Ming took the initiative to ask me out for a drink and chat. In the tavern, he said to me with some shame: "Uncle, I was indeed too willful before, and I caused you a lot of trouble. Now that I think about it, it's so premature. "
I hurriedly waved my hand and said, "It's nothing, it's all in the past." Now that we see you so sensible, we are relieved. "
Xiao Ming raised his head and took a big sip of beer, sighed and said, "Yes, if I continue to be so willful, how can I start a family in the future? "
"In the future, I must continue to work hard and save enough money for a down payment so that I can buy a house and start a family in the future. Xiao Ming said with a determined face.
Looking at his appearance, I was sincerely grateful. Xiao Ming is finally no longer the spoiled child, he has really grown up and started to fight for his future.
Since then, Xiao Ming's deposit account balance has been climbing. Two years later, he had saved more than $200,000 for a down payment. Seeing this number, even her mother-in-law finally let go of her worries and was sincerely proud of Xiao Ming's growth.
"It's our little bit of education that works. My mother-in-law used to say to me, "If we indulge him any longer, he will be completely useless." "
As an uncle, I am also sincerely happy for Xiao Ming. Seeing him transform from a willful teenager to a responsible man, I feel that he has a bright future and will definitely be able to start a family and live a happy life.
Life is like this, under the love and guidance of our parents and elders, and with the care and help of relatives and friends, we will gradually grow up and learn to be independent. Xiao Ming is the best example of this.