#春日生活打卡季#
Author: Man Xiaojing (rich book author)
Whenever the holiday is coming to an end, the circle of friends will always brush up on a wave of "spiritual internal friction":
"Don't want to go to work",
"I don't want to leave the bed",
"I don't want to face high-pressure work......
Our brains are looking for the most comfortable way for us every moment, and everyone longs for stability and peace.
In our comfort zone, we feel at ease, but it often paralyzes us and makes our brains uncomfortable and content with the status quo.
American writer Neil Connor Washch once said, "True life begins when you step out of your comfort zone." ”
People who really live transparently know how to expand their comfort zone.
The comfort zone is not to win by lying down, but to slowly become wasted
Anders Erikson said in "Deliberate Practice": "If you never push yourself out of your comfort zone, you will never improve." ”
After graduating from Xiaofei's prestigious school, she hastily chose to work in a small company with less than 10 people, close to home, and a slightly higher salary than her peers.
The company helps Taobao store master retouching pictures every day, and after Xiaofei did it for a few months, she basically figured out a set of fool-like retouching processes and completed the retouching work in batches.
As Xiaofei's operation became more and more proficient, this job no longer had any technical content for her, but Xiaofei did not think of expanding new skills on the original basis.
After repeating this kind of work for a few years, the company went bankrupt, and Xiaofei, who lost her iron job bowl, interviewed several companies, all of which did not meet the requirements of others.
Because Xiaofei not only has no new skills, but even her most "good" retouching skills are not as good as a newcomer who has just graduated.
Xiaofei became wasted in the comfort zone she created.
Thoreau once said, "You can draw as many radii as you can from the center of a circle, and you can live in as many ways." ”
In the program "Starry Sky Speech", Liu Xuan, the former gymnastics queen, proved to everyone with her words and deeds that people who dare to step out of their comfort zone live a strong life.
Liu Xuan was selected for the Hunan Provincial Gymnastics Team at the age of 5 and won various team and individual all-around championships at the age of 12.
In the Sydney Olympics, he won the balance beam championship and completed the breakthrough of the Chinese team in this event.
After retiring, Liu Xuan did not stagnate, but chose to go to Peking University for further study, and she only had a junior high school level, and she took the advanced mathematics test from 38 points to the passing line.
Liu Xuan never let her past achievements and brilliance imprison her thoughts, she constantly expanded her horizons, and also published the book "Xuanmu" as a writer.
Even the host she is not good at has been broken by her little by little, and standing with a professional host is not inferior.
Liu Xuan said: "Life will not be so lucky, not everything you want to do is what you like, you can't live in your comfort zone forever." ”
People who like to spin in their comfort zone are like trapped beasts who draw themselves as prisons, and regard the things they can touch as the whole world.
On the contrary, people who know how to expand their comfort zone can continue to break through and make themselves constantly iterative and upgraded.
To become stronger, one starts by expanding one's comfort zone.
Don't let the imaginary "circle of fear" limit you
The survival instinct of the human brain is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and they all subconsciously avoid things that threaten them, but many times, fear is only imagined by us.
The French writer Alexandre Dumas once said: "Whoever has a moment of timidity may let go of the bait that luck has extended to him in this moment." ”
My cousin just graduated from college this year, and her family introduced her to a stable job, and at the same time, she also received an offer from a Beijing company.
Faced with two completely different choices, my cousin hopes to develop in a big city on the one hand, but on the other hand, she is afraid that she will be in a strange place, doing a strange job, and the fear of facing the unknown will sweep over her.
The work is stable at home, with family and friends as the backing, and the work content is simple and easy.
The work in Beijing is intense, and in a large company, you have to face all kinds of interpersonal relationships, and if you encounter difficulties, you may be excluded by your colleagues.
The more I thought about it, the more scared my cousin became, and with the encouragement of the teacher, my cousin finally decided to give it a try in Beijing.
At first, my cousin was indeed a little timid in an unfamiliar field, but with the advantages and hard work of her profession, she quickly adapted to the internship work.
And the colleagues in the department took good care of her, and there was no imaginary deception.
Half a year later, my cousin, who was getting more and more mixed up, couldn't help but sigh that fortunately, she bravely chose to jump out of her comfort zone and choose to face challenges.
Dale Carnegie once said, "Fear arises mostly from ignorance and uncertainty." ”
The great director Ang Lee used to be a person who was extremely afraid of water, the towel must be wrung out, and if you take a shower for more than five minutes, you will experience dizziness.
When I was a child, I was thrown into the river and sank into the water all at once, and after being rescued, I had a fever and vomiting for two months before I got better.
Since then, Ang Lee has become very afraid of water, and methods such as seeing a psychiatrist, raising fish, and applying a mask have not worked, and in the end, he has failed.
In 1985, after Ang Lee's work "The Dividing Line" won an award at the New York University Film Screening, he did not create another work that could be released for six years.
One night, Ang Lee talked to his brother about the drowning that year, and suddenly remembered what the producer said to him during the day:
"Ang Lee, you are too restrained, you have to be crazy to make movies, you are not suitable!"
At this moment, Ang Lee decided that he would not only have to overcome the strange problem of being afraid of water, but also learn to dive!
He immediately signed up for a diving course in Malaysia.
Ang Lee first vomited breathlessly in the pool, and then was soaked in the sea water and peeled, red and painful, and in this state of physical and mental destruction, Ang Lee miraculously emerged infinite creative inspiration.
In 1990, Ang Lee, who had accumulated a lot of money, completed the two scripts of "Pushing Hands" and "The Wedding Banquet", and achieved a box office miracle.
Ang Lee remembers that he was learning to dive at that time and understood that what he was afraid of was not water, but more unknown fears.
When these unknowns are revealed one by one, the fear also dissipates, and the real world is not as scary as we imagined.
Many times we are afraid to step out of our comfort zone for the same reason, the fear of the unknown comes to mind, the more we think about it, the more afraid we become, the more we think about it, the more afraid we dare to act.
However, no matter how much we think about it, it is better to face it realistically, and most of our fears are imaginary.
People who are truly in control of their lives know how to expand their comfort zone
When you realize that growing up requires expanding your comfort boundaries and learning to face your fears, expanding your comfort zone also requires recognizing the following three points:
1. Distinguish your areas of competence
Huang Xiaolei played the role of "silly girl" in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes" and was well-known to many audiences, but her family was not optimistic about her as an actor and encouraged her to jump out of the "comfort zone".
So Huang Xiaolei jumped into the IT industry all of a sudden, but she didn't know anything about professional terms, and in a blink of an eye, she jumped to the hosting industry, and the result was not good.
In the end, she chose to return to the "comfort zone" and regain her profession as an actress.
Jumping to another unfamiliar area is recklessness, not bravery.
People who really know how to expand their comfort zone are centered on their own abilities, slowly expanding the radius, improving their abilities, and the comfort zone they can master is getting bigger and bigger.
2. Change the fixed thinking
Thai mahouts like to keep their young elephants on a leash when they are young.
The baby elephant is young, unable to use the strength, and has not been able to break free from the chain, over time, this state of being tethered has become the most comfortable state of the young elephant.
When an adult elephant has already had several times the strength to break free from the chain, it will not try again.
In real life, there are many people who, like the elephants in the mahout field, stay in a comfortable environment for a long time and no longer try to take a step to change.
You must know that the world outside the mahout field is far more exciting than the inside of the field, and people's horizons can only be seen wider as their comfort zone expands.
3. Make sustained efforts
If a small sapling wants to grow into a big tree, it can't do without these five conditions:
The accumulation of time, unwavering determination, deep roots, upward growth, positive sunshine.
The road of life is the same, there are not many shortcuts.
When you consciously expand your comfort zone, you will encounter obstacles to break the circle, and in the face of the fear of the unknown, you need to be more patient to face it.
Expanding your comfort zone is the same as cultivating a field, it will not happen overnight, you need to have the stamina to continuously upgrade yourself in order to meet the bigger world.
I like Mr. Fan Deng's sentence very much: "If a person wants to develop, that is, no matter what fate throws you to any point, you must search on the spot and do what you can." ”
People who have been staying in their comfort zone are difficult to improve their abilities and feel powerless.
It's like cave people will fight to the death to grab the flames, but they don't know that there is an inexhaustible supply of solar energy outside the cave.
And people who really live transparently know how to search on the spot in the original comfort zone and slowly expand their comfort zone.
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