Hi everyone, I'm Yumi MaMa
Have you ever observed the ratio of men and women in your child's class?
In the past, I could always hear parents complaining that "the ratio of men and women in their children's classes is seriously imbalanced". But there are 27 children in Yumi's class, 11 girls and 16 boys. The proportions are quite normal, so I haven't felt much about it.
However, two days ago, I swiped a video taken by a nursery teacher, and it can be seen that there are only 3 girls in the class out of 12 children, and the number of boys is three times that of girls! At that moment, I deeply realized the worries of the boys' parents.
After watching the video, the first reaction was: Is there such a big difference in the proportion of male and female treasures now?
I deliberately checked the latest census results, only to find that the difference has really always been there:
By the end of 2023, the mainland's male population reached 720.32 million, while the female population was only 689.35 million. In other words, there are 30.97 million more men than women on the mainland.
It seems that the stalk of "more than 30 million singles" often said on the Internet is not groundless.
The psychedelic mental state of the boy's parents
I have to say that such a video still has a certain impact on the boy's parents.
After seeing it, my best friend, who has a son, was very anxious. Her son is now 4 years old, although the ratio of men to women in the class is not so exaggerated. But if other schools are in this state, this class of children will find a daughter-in-law in the future, and it will be more volumes!
I originally thought that most of the boys' parents were girlfriends, but after flipping through the comment area, I found that the mentality of the boys' parents this time was surprisingly good!
Some people said: Love it, it's okay to get a boyfriend back!
I really want to ask, is the boy's parent already thinking so openly? Is this parent serious? Are you sure that the child will be brought back, and you will not beat him?
Some netizens also complained: Aren't you particularly good at changing your name? If you can't find a daughter-in-law, you can change your name: recruit a daughter-in-law, look forward to a daughter-in-law, and come to a daughter-in-law!
I have to say that the saying that "talents come out of the comment area" has always been true to me.
As for the parent who said "direct domestic sales", he was probably frightened by such a disparity in the ratio of men to women! Otherwise, why could he say such cold words with a mouth of 36 degrees?
originally thought that this video should be an example, after all, the kindergartens and small nurseries around me did not have such an exaggerated ratio of men and women.
But when I saw the parents' messages in the comment area, I realized why netizens shouted "My heart is cold!"
A parent said that on the day she gave birth to her son, there was a little girl in the inpatient department on the same floor, and after going to the confinement center, there were only 2 girls in 30 households;
Another mother said that when her son was born, there were 12 children born in the hospital, and only one was a girl.
Thinking carefully about the day Yumi was born, there were only 3 girls out of 10 newborns in the same delivery room. I remember that day, the nurse also joked: Today is another day for boys to get together!
Later, after Yumi went to kindergarten, she didn't find that the gap between men and women was too big, and the old mother was relieved.
But when I swiped this video, I was silent for a while, if there is such a huge disparity between male and female babies in other places, it should really cause alarm, you must know that the imbalance between men and women is not just as simple as we imagined!
The impact of the imbalance between men and women
In fact, I quite understand the anxiety of the boy's parents, the imbalance between men and women not only affects the boy's future daughter-in-law, but also has a non-negligible impact on the child's physical and mental health growth.
Like what:
● Affect the baby's social skills
We all know that a child's social skills are formed gradually through interactions with others, and if a child is growing up with a lack of interaction with the opposite sex, their social skills may be limited.
For example, a child who grew up in a pile of boys may be confused about how to build friendships and communicate with girls. When they grow up, they will also prefer to stay in places with more boys and are less willing to communicate with the opposite sex.
One study showed that children who had less contact with the opposite sex from an early age were more likely to become "monogenic" when they grew up.
● Gender bias
Psychology believes that people's cognition of gender roles is learned through socialization and experience, which means that children need to observe and learn the gender behaviors of those around them from an early age to form their own gender role cognition.
If children are born from an early age in an environment with an extremely unbalanced ratio of men to women, they will have little access to diverse gender roles, leading to limited perceptions or stereotypes of the opposite sex.
A study of the influence of human personality on fate found that children who grew up in an imbalanced male-female environment were more likely to have prejudices against the opposite sex.
These people grow up to be affected in terms of relationships and career development.
● Affect children's emotional development
Human emotional development is a complex process that involves the cognition, expression, and management of other people's emotions.
According to the psychological theory of emotional development, socializing with people of different genders helps children to understand the emotional world more comprehensively and learn to deal with various emotional relationships.
This means that children who grow up in an environment with a balanced ratio of men and women are better at dealing with emotional relationships with the opposite sex, and they are more likely to develop a healthy outlook on love and marital relationships.
Children who grow up in an environment that lacks opportunities to interact with the opposite sex are more likely to feel confused and overwhelmed when dealing with emotional relationships with the opposite sex.
● Affect children's mental health
According to the psychological theory of belonging and identity, people all have a need to belong to a certain group and want to be accepted and identified with that group.
In an environment with an imbalance between men and women, children with a small proportion of children will inevitably grow up feeling lonely, excluded or not understood, and these negative emotions may affect their self-confidence and self-esteem, making it difficult for children to find a sense of belonging.
Statistics show that in schools with a significant imbalance in the ratio of men to women, the level of psychological stress reported by students is higher than in schools with an even balance of sexes.
Therefore, when choosing a school for your child, it is really recommended that parents do not forget to ask about the ratio of men and women in the class.
You see, children who have little contact with the opposite sex from an early age may be affected in terms of socialization, gender recognition, emotion, and marriage and love concepts when they grow up.
At a small level, it affects the future of a family, and at a large level, it affects the stability of the next generation of young people on the mainland, so the imbalance between men and women is really a very serious thing.
Of course, if you don't want your child to be afraid of the opposite sex in the future, and the child is already in a class with a high degree of imbalance.
We still recommend that parents take her to parks and communities more often, and find ways to let children play with children of the opposite sex.
Today's topic: What is the ratio of men and women in your class? Do you have any classes around you that find a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women?