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Dude, can you imagine that on such a solemn Qingming Festival, someone would open their mouths to ask for gifts? How can I say it, it is simply a festival of desecration of ancestors! Yes, a video was recently exposed on the Internet, which shows a young couple making a big noise on the side of the road, hoarse.
If you look closely, it turns out that the woman angrily asked her boyfriend to give her a gift on Qingming Day, preferably a pair of "valuables" such as a pair of earrings. The poor man said that if he didn't give it, he didn't send it, and he was beaten down by his girlfriend, calling him "an iron rooster that doesn't pull out a hair". I'm really convinced, isn't this woman a little bit confused about what kind of festival Qingming is?
At this time of year, we have to dig up the graves of our ancestors and pay tribute to our elders with endless sorrow. But some people understand it as "Suori Day", which can't help but make people laugh and cry. You think, it's clear that Qingming has nothing to do with etiquette and customs, and some people have to forcibly create "festivals".
Besides, how can two people have such a solemn day of daily exchange of courtesies? It's really a bit of putting the cart before the horse. I think the reason for this chaos is first of all due to the current excessive consumerism.
There are always some people who regard commoditized things as a guideline, and have a utilitarian mentality towards any holiday, thinking that not giving gifts is equivalent to rudeness and insincerity. As everyone knows, in traditional culture, some festivals that are private matters do not need to be as big as the Spring Festival and birthdays.
The deeper reason is that some people's values are seriously skewed. Instead of understanding the inner meaning of a festival, they focus entirely on the superficial material plane. For example, in a very philosophical festival like the Qingming Festival, instead of introspecting and remembering the ancestors, it is better to vent your selfish desires and ask for gifts, why not?
It can be seen that their hearts have been completely assimilated by materialism, and they have lost the purity and simplicity of human nature. Of course, this kind of pathological psychology is not an isolated case. I have many friends around me, and I also hate this phenomenon of asking for gifts. They believe that this kind of girl's behavior not only violates basic social morality, but also exposes an extreme selfishness and selfishness.
After all, the other party is boyfriend and girlfriend, so naturally they should support each other and love each other. It's just that some people don't cherish this kind of friendship, but always pay attention to some money and things, which is really chilling. Therefore, this kind of thing reflects a distortion of values.
We all know that a person's values determine his life pursuit, and also affect his perception of the world. If you take "Suoli" for granted, you have deviated from the most basic moral bottom line of being a human being. I believe that the vast majority of people will not identify with this behavior and will not be assimilated.
Coincidentally, there was another heinous case just recently. A foreign couple traveling in Guangzhou, in the name of visiting relatives, actually used the trick of "four or two thousand catties" to their relatives and friends in Dongguan who were sweeping the tombs during the Qingming Festival, and forced others to give a large amount of gifts on festivals, reaching more than 300,000 yuan!
In the final analysis, whether it is asking for gift money or asking for gifts, it is a refraction of a sick psychology. As modern people, of course, we must pursue material prosperity, but we must not let material desires dominate our lives. In the end, the meaning of a festival depends on how we give a new interpretation, rather than being tarnished by something superficial.
Only by reflecting on the meaning of life can we break out of this superficial consumption trap and regain the traditional wisdom and spirit. In general, it is not a polite thing to ask for gifts on any holiday. Nature, like any other trivial matter between husband and wife, should be resolved through negotiation and communication, not by chatter.
Whether it's a gift or money, as long as you have good intentions, you will naturally be able to handle it appropriately and will not cause discomfort to others. Only by letting go of the mentality of asking and not sticking to a certain node, can we truly highlight the connotation of traditional festivals and reflect the freedom and detachment of the humanistic spirit.
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