When I was a child, I always took the love between my parents for granted, and it wasn't until I became an adult that I gradually understood that the relationship between them was not easy to come by. My name is Li Xiao, I am 35 years old, and I am an ordinary office worker. My parents, Dad Li and Mom Wang, are the most perfect couple in my heart.
I remember when I was a child, whenever my father called my mother "dear", my mother always had a happy smile on her face, as if my father was the only one in the world who could call her that. And my father always treated my mother in that gentle and slightly arrogant tone, and I even sometimes secretly laughed at them, thinking that their expressions were too old-fashioned and too easy to make people feel bored.
It wasn't until one day, when I got married, that I realized how difficult it was to love each other. When I first treated my wife with the title "dear", I felt an indescribable satisfaction and happiness, as if I had become a father and my wife had become a royal mother. I understand that love is not static, but needs to be constantly cared for and managed.
However, just when I thought I had become a competent husband, I found that I could never shout the three names that enchanted women. Whenever I try to say things like "dear", "baby", and "sweetheart" to my wife, I always feel an inexplicable shyness and nervousness, as if I am doing something very exciting and adventurous, rather than simply calling my wife.
I don't know if I'm a little shy, maybe it's because I haven't been very good at expressing my feelings since I was a child. No matter how hard I tried, these three salutations always swirled on my lips, but I never got out of my mouth. I started to feel anxious and blame myself, and I was worried that my wife would be disappointed and sad because of my lack of delicate expression.
Until one day, I realized what was wrong with me. It's not that I don't love my wife, it's that my way of expressing love is still at a childish and shallow stage. I understand that love is not only those flowery words and romantic actions, but needs to be experienced and managed with the heart.
So, I started trying to express my love in other ways. I will do small things at home, such as cooking a good dinner for my wife, or helping her clean her room and take care of her life. I would walk with her, talk to her, and listen to her talk about her thoughts. I found that these seemingly mundane gestures were my truest and deepest expressions of love.
Gradually, I found that my relationship with my wife became closer and closer. She also didn't mind that I couldn't call out those three names, because she knew that in my heart, she would always be the one I loved the most. I understand that love is not gorgeous and flashy on the surface, but needs to be felt and cherished with the heart.
Finally, I want to say to those men who can't shout these three titles like me: don't feel guilty and frustrated because of your own shortcomings, love is a kind of feeling that needs to be slowly cultivated and savored, as long as we manage it with our hearts, we will be able to find our own way of love.