The woman held the child in confinement and divorced her husband, netizens: How desperate should she be to be so decisive

Original | Pregnancy

Recently, a video made netizens very distressed.

The content of the video is: A woman who has not yet been confined is holding her child and divorced her husband.

                                              (Source: @热度新闻)

The photographer, Ms. Zhu, said that when she went to the government affairs center to run errands, she happened to meet a woman wearing a pregnancy hat and wearing a confinement suit and holding a child sitting at the divorce window.

Her husband sat on another stool at a distance.

Ms. Zhu's description: The woman's eyes were hollow and swollen, while her husband looked indifferent next to her.

Many netizens watched the video and exclaimed distress: what did she go through, she was going to go for divorce with her children before she was confined.

Some netizens said: It turned out that I was not alone in the confinement divorce.

Because the video doesn't give much information, we don't make too many evaluations.

But after the video was released, the content in the comment area was even more distressing, and many people were heartbroken during pregnancy and confinement.

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"I gave birth in the delivery room, and my husband is going home to watch the World Cup"

Pregnancy and confinement are the most vulnerable and helpless times for women.

Pregnancy can be said to be beaten by various discomforts in turn.

Coupled with the changes in body hormones, many pregnant mothers will become fragile and sensitive.

At this time, if the husband doesn't give up, it will really be very chilling.

Pregnant mothers looked through the comment area of the news above, and the experiences of many mothers are particularly distressing.

"My husband went on a business trip in the third trimester because he didn't want to accompany me, and he was not in the hospital during childbirth, thinking that he was going back to watch the World Cup, and I divorced after confinement. ”

"I have to open a store with an 8-month-old belly, and I have to cook by myself, he plays games every day, shouts that he can't do something and can't do it for a day, and he also dislikes the child during confinement, and in the end, he became his ex-husband. ”

"I was going to get divorced less than 42 days after the caesarean section of my second child, and now I have compromised for the sake of the child, but I know that I am unhappy, very unhappy. ”

"On the third day after giving birth, I told my mother that I was going to get a divorce, because it was a caesarean section, and I wanted to go after the confinement, and my parents persuaded me to leave for the time being, but I don't know how long I can last. ”

"Morning sickness for three whole months, back pain, wrist syndrome, measles, eczema, periodontitis, rib pain for two months after giving birth, and back pain for more than three years...... It's not terrible, it's the contempt and incomprehension of the person next to the pillow that is the most chilling. ”

Pregnant for ten months, giving birth to a baby to grow, not just a big belly, how difficult this road is, so to speak, no one can get out of the whole body.

In the first trimester, you will have nausea, vomiting, dizziness, backache, and ......

In the second trimester, acne will become darker, you will start to gain weight, and you will get worse and worse.......

In the third trimester, you will have chest tightness and shortness of breath, difficulty breathing, edema, frequent urination, and you will not be able to find a comfortable position to fall asleep.......

If you meet a good partner, even if you feel uncomfortable, you can be cured.

I'm afraid, the person next to the pillow doesn't care and doesn't understand, it will really make people helpless and hopeless.

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Marriages are at their most vulnerable

Not a seven-year itch, but after having a child!

In "I Am an Orator", the host Martin once told the story of him and his wife.

In the month after his wife gave birth to her daughter, for some reason, she suddenly changed from a very virtuous wife to a very unreasonable shrew.

One night, Martin hid in his study and played a game on the computer. My wife suddenly came in, and when she saw that he was playing games, she was angry, so she came in with a bowl of soup and poured the computer through.

Martin was anxious and said, "You are sick, can you not mess around, don't you want to live." ”

The wife said angrily: "I just don't want to get over it, divorce." Martin was also very angry, "Leave and leave!"

At this time, his wife sent another message, "Can you accompany me to take care of the child for a day, whatever I do, you can do it, just one day!" Martin thought about it and agreed, so he began to "take the baby" with his wife.

That's when Martin learned that the baby had to be fed every two hours. (OMG, I can't help but complain again, after the child is born, there is more work than this, okay?)

It's okay during the day, but at night when his wife feeds, he's awake. After feeding, we slept together, and after sleeping for less than an hour, the child cried, woke you up, and had to feed again, and not only feed, but also have to change diapers. When the child cries, you have to coax her, and after the coaxing is over, forty minutes have passed. Then you go to sleep again. You slept for twenty minutes, and you woke up again, and you had to feed again.

In less than a full day, Martin was on the verge of collapse: "What a day this is!"

His wife calmly said to him, "Do you know why I have nothing to lose my temper with you? If you do the same thing every day, you will lose your temper with me." ”

Martin realized in his heart that being a mother is really hard, especially during the period when she was raising a baby.

So, please men don't say any more:

Women are like this when they are pregnant, and you tell me, I can't help it!

Everyone has children like this, what do you have to be hypocritical!

What do you do all day and say you're tired?

Giving birth to a baby and growing up, a woman has to endure a lot, the discomfort of pregnancy, the great pain of childbirth, the hardships of confinement, the pain of breast milk, the hecticness of raising a child, the unstoppable depression, and the frustration of body deformation...... All these things, no one can do for her.

But your companionship, your sharing, your support, and your understanding can make them less tired, so painful, so depressed, and so frustrated.

Don't chill their hearts when they need you the most, when they are most vulnerable, and when they are most sensitive!

I hope that all mothers will have a good person by their side!