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"Hot and Hot" is not a weight loss inspirational story, but a story that wins for oneself once. This movie is not dedicated to fat people, but to people who pleaser personalities and don't know how to love themselves.
01 Jia Ling plays the heroine Du Leying in this movie.
02 Le Ying asked her father: "Dad, let me ask you a question, if you have two apples, one big and one small, and your friend asks you, which one do you give it to?" Then Dad asked, "What about you, which one do you give?" Le Ying replied: "I give both, but my friends think I don't like apples." ”
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Le Ying is such a person: she always puts other people's feelings first, and would rather be extremely wronged than spare no effort to meet the expectations of the other party. Even though her sister never looked at her directly, she still gave her the property right of the house so that her sister's daughter could study. Even if her best friend robbed her boyfriend, in order for her best friend not to be infamous as a junior, she still went to be a bridesmaid for her best friend. Even though she knew that her cousin was calculating her, she still cooperated with her to help her complete the show in order for her cousin to become a regular. Even if she knew that Haokun was using herself to apply for a card, in order for Haokun to complete the task, she had to help him with her salary advance from the boss. ............ She was always so wronged that she gave "two apples" to others, but others thought that she didn't like apples at all, so no one remembered her well.
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Le Ying, who suffered countless injuries, and Le Ying, who was ruthlessly abandoned by Haokun, finally despaired that day and jumped off the windowsill. Luckily, she fell on an awning built downstairs and attempted suicide. Du Leying cried bitterly in the mirror: "It hurts, it hurts." "She didn't have a single wound on her body, but it hurt terribly, because her heart was already full of holes.
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Le Ying, who attempted suicide, finally figured it out that night: she decided to find her long-lost self by practicing boxing.
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In the last boxing match, although Le Ying lost to a professional boxer, she posted on Moments and said: "I finished a boxing match! Why did Le Ying, who lost the match, say she won: because in the process of learning boxing, she found a way to love herself. Her parents, sister, Haokun, and everyone else who knew Le Ying were amazed at the change in her entire mental outlook.
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After that game, Haokun was waiting for Le Ying at the door, wanting to renew his relationship with her. Haokun: Please eat bullfrogs. Le Ying: I don't like to eat bullfrogs. Haokun: Then go eat something else. Le Ying: I'm tired. Haokun: Another day? Le Ying: It depends on the mood. Le Ying has changed, she no longer wrongs herself in order to cater to others. In the past, when others wanted to eat apples, she would give them both. "What about now, don't give it?" "It depends on the mood. ”
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When promoting this movie, Xie Nan had an interview with Jia Ling. Xie Nan asked: "There are two apples, one big and one small, you want to give them to others, if it is Jia Ling, how will you choose?" Jia Ling replied: "Now if you want it, I will tell you, in fact, I like to eat apples very much." But you are a good friend of mine, and you asked me for it, and I can give you a small one. "What does Jia Ling want to express?" "Love yourself before loving others." "Don't want to sacrifice yourself at every turn, and love others on the basis of taking care of yourself. "In a relationship, it's me first, and then others.
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In my opinion, "Hot and Hot" is actually about three things. The first thing: people must see themselves before they can be seen by others. A person who cannot see himself cannot be seen by others. As one netizen said: "People who give all the apples will not be praised, only 'you don't like to eat apples' as a matter of course." If one day, you can no longer provide apples, the person who took the apple from your hand will not only not give you the apple, but will also be very angry: "Why do you have to see yourself before you can be seen by others? Because only when a person can see himself, know how to perceive his own heart, and know how to consider his own feelings, can he actively strive for it and bear the consequences." "As long as a person knows how to love himself and satisfy himself, then the energy of being a living individual will flow back to himself from the world. And a high-energy person is destined to exude endless charm. "Just like Le Ying in the movie, Le Ying who can't see herself is unattractive, and Le Ying who sees herself will be charming.
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The second thing: how you love yourself is teaching others how to love you. Writer Zhang Xiaoxian said: "If you love someone, you will love yourself." If in a relationship, you give for others without any bottom line and put yourself behind the lowly, then others will not love you. As they often say: lick the dog lick the dog, lick until there is nothing left. If you don't know how to love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? If you don't think you matter, people won't value you. Only when you learn to love yourself, constantly improve yourself, and constantly show your best, will you let others see your brilliance and win the love and respect of others. Any flattery, flattery, and touching cannot give birth to love, only equality, value, and individuality can attract love. So people who don't know how to love themselves are very stupid, when you give up loving yourself, that is, you give up the opportunity to be loved, that is, you block the door of others to love you. Bi Shumin said: "Waiting for others to love you, it is better to love yourself hard." "When you have the ability to love yourself, others have a reason to love you. A word for everyone: It's not that I'm so good to you, I hope you can do the same to me. It's that I'm good to you, but I'm also good to myself.
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The third thing: People who don't love themselves can't love others. I've always felt that the best life guide was what the flight attendant said: when an accident happens, you should put on an oxygen mask for yourself before helping the people around you. Those who fail to protect themselves will not only not be able to save themselves, but also others. Teacher Luo Xiang shared a story: "Once in a restaurant, I saw a mother teaching her daughter that there were only two pieces of meat left on the girl's plate, one big and one small, and the mother asked her: 'Do you want to give me the big one or the small one?' The daughter said, 'I will give you the small one, I want to eat the big one.' I thought the mother was going to teach the girl a lesson, but to my shock, she didn't, but said approvingly, 'Baby, you're doing the right thing.' Remember, sharing is about giving someone what you have to be superfluous, not giving someone what you already need and thus wronging yourself. ’”
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Love is in order, love yourself first, then love others, and love is full before it overflows. "Love your neighbor before yourself", I have heard this sentence for a long time, and I always felt that loving myself is to keep myself fed and clothed. After going through many, many things, I realized that the meaning of loving others and loving oneself first is that only you are full, or even overflowing, and you use this part of overflow to love others, even if you don't get a response, it doesn't matter, because you are still full. And this sentence has another meaning, that is, "we must first become happiness itself before we can bring happiness to others." As Mr. Zhou Guoping said: "The person who gives people the joy of life must be the person who is full of the joy of life." A person who does not love himself will neither be a lovely person nor truly love others. "Only those who love themselves can love others, and those who are rich can give. A glass of water can only overflow when it is full, and half a glass of water must be poured out, and sooner or later it will dry up. If you really want to love someone well, you must first love yourself clearly, otherwise, you will not have the ability to love others. Love is a kind of ability, love others first love yourself, love is full of self-overflow.
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Finally, I would like to give you a poem by Satya, which is called "The Law of Love": Please love yourself before you love me, love yourself and love me at the same time, if you don't love yourself, you can't love me, this is the law of love, because you can't give what you don't have, your love can only flow to me through you, if you are dry, I can't be nourished by you, if you dry up because of nourishing me, you can't be established in essence Because exploiting you doesn't nourish me, pouring rice from your bowl into my bowl and watching you beg with an empty bowl doesn't nourish me and sacrifice yourself to meet my needs, it doesn't make me happy, it's like you put a crown on me and it sticks in my flesh, it hurts, my soul declares self-sacrifice great, that's an old lie, you devalue yourself and don't make me noble, I can only learn from you, "I'm not worthy", there is no nourishment in self-sacrifice, there is expectation, Stress and burdens: If I don't meet your expectations, what I take from you is no longer nourishment, but poison, which creates guilt, resentment, and even hatred I want your love to be like sunshine, I feel warmth, comfort, abundance, joy, I nourish and grow in your love, I learn to give unconditionally from you, because you let me know that my riches, connected to the source of that love, will never dry up and shine forever I love you, I must first love myself, otherwise, I can't love you, and you, too, the essence of life is the endless flow of life, so love so, please take this opportunity to love yourself