Recently, Jia Ling's new movie "Hot and Hot" is being screened nationwide.
As of February 15, the box office has exceeded 2 billion.
When "Hello, Li Huanying" was released, Jia Ling set a flag:
If the box office breaks 3 billion, he will be thin like a lightning.
Now, she has successfully lost 100 pounds, not only keeping this flag, but also using it to make a movie.
When the movie was first promoted, many people were impressed by Jia Ling's perseverance and courage of "losing 100 pounds".
have made her photos into mobile phone wallpapers, looking forward to being able to be burning and cool in 2024.
But after actually watching the movie, you will find that the purpose of the movie is not to lose weight at all, but to tell you:
No matter what low point life throws you at, just find one thing, even if it's just a small thing, persevere, focus, and do your best.
You'll win, even once!
A woman's appearance does not need to be defined
The fat figure is often talked about and joked about.
Jia Ling before also often suffered from such a predicament.
Even in a certain program, a teacher directly pointed out: "Don't talk, you're as fat as a pig." ”
But true love fans, seeing Jia Ling, who is "so fat that it is a little difficult to walk", are very worried about her health.
After Jia Ling successfully lost weight, the friends around her were not surprised, but very distressed, distressed by the hard work and pressure she had endured this year.
To put it bluntly, people who really care about you are more concerned about whether you are tired of flying and whether you are doing well than your external glamour.
But there are still some harsh audiences who are still commenting on Jia Ling's appearance:
I have lost weight and become old, and I have no energy......
In recent years, the world's definition of women's appearance is very simple, which is nothing more than "white, young and thin".
Countless people pursue "ant waist", "chopstick legs", "clavicle goldfish", "backhand belly button", "peach buttocks", "high nose bridge" and so on.
Some people are addicted to all kinds of beauty and beauty filters, and they can't face their true selves;
In order to lose weight into a lightning bolt, some people pursue "ideal beauty", disregard their health, constantly induce vomiting, and even cut their stomachs directly;
There are also people who constantly overdraft their financial resources and bodies, do countless medical cosmetology, and even fall into the "Diderot effect", resulting in plastic surgery addiction......
However, measuring women by their skin alone is a prejudice in itself.
We can listen to the outside world, but we must also be careful to discern and actively filter out the biased and narrow noise.
There is no need to pursue morbid beauty, but to accept your own mediocrity and flaws, and you don't have to be beautiful and thin to be worthy of love, but to face yourself and accept yourself.
Don't be held hostage by the world and live your true self.
As the saying goes:
"The body is just a spiritual container that carries you, respect it, not fight against it!"
Loneliness is the norm of growing up
Schopenhauer once said:
"People, either lonely or vulgar. ”
Jia Ling filmed "Hot and Hot", which took a year.
During that year, Jia Ling disappeared from public view, did not attend any parties, did not attend any business events, and was lonely and wanted to "win once".
Le Ying played by Jia Ling in the movie is also like this.
Bear loneliness, suffering, hard practice boxing.
Even though she lost the competition, she found her true self and completed the reconstruction of herself, giving a thumbs up to those who once looked down on her.
At the end of the film, Le Ying silently ran through the uninhabited streets and alleys alone, and the back, lonely and resolute, symbolized her tenacity and perseverance on the road of self-growth.
This tenacity and perseverance are also reflected in Shen Cuixi in "The Housewife".
After Trixi got married, she found that her husband didn't love her at all.
She often feels lonely, but she has also learned to adapt to enjoying the joy of being alone in solitude.
In solitude, she improved her silk skills and found her direction in life through self-talk.
She is no longer attached to men, but settles down to do what she likes, focuses on her heart, opens a school, and looks for love.
While the heart is getting richer and richer, the days are getting more and more flavorful.
贾玲的电影，英文名叫做《YOLO》（You only live once，你只活一次）。
It is true that if a person lives a lifetime, he must live a hearty life.
And all of this is inseparable from loneliness and getting along with yourself.
You dominate your own life and hold up the height of your life.
Don't please others, live up to the rest of your life
Xi Murong once said:
"When I looked back, I suddenly realized that all the efforts I had made in my life were just to make everyone around me satisfied.
In order to win the praise and smile of others, I trembled and put myself into all the patterns, all the shackles.
Halfway through, I suddenly found that I was left with a vague face and a path from which I could not turn back. ”
In real life, many people are like this too.
Caring too much about other people's feelings, not knowing how to reject others, catering too much to other people's expectations, and ignoring their own inner voice.
In a conversation between Le Ying and her father, there was such a question:
"If you have two apples, one big and one small, and your friend asks you, which one do you give?"
Father's answer was, my friend wants it, give it to the big one.
However, Le Ying's answer was:
"I'll give both. ”
Le Ying almost responds to the needs of the people around her, but she constantly pleases others and sacrifices herself.
Both her best friend and her boyfriend betrayed, but in order to prevent her best friend from being infamous as a "little three", she wronged herself to attend the wedding.
After the divorce, her sister asked her to transfer the house for the sake of the children's schooling, even if her sister had no respect for her, and the two fought hard, but she still wronged herself and signed it.
A distant relative who works at the TV station asked her to be on the show for her regular quota, even if she was worried, even if she found out that she was maliciously edited during the recording process, she was aggrieved and cooperated with the arrangement.
After Le Ying failed to jump off a building, she tortured herself:
"Why does it hurt so much, but there is no wound at all?"
Not all injuries will have wounds.
Emotional betrayal, verbal stabbing, and ruthless exploitation do not leave visible scars on the outside, but that doesn't mean they don't exist or aren't fatal.
In the first half of the film, Le Ying's image and temperament are like a ball of soft and fuzzy cotton.
Her relationship with the world has always been shrouded in the shadow of passivity and silence.
Silent endurance, endless forbearance, retreat again and again, until there is no retreat......
Later, Le Ying became obsessed with boxing and practiced hard to learn fitness, not to cater to others, but to become herself.
"If you fight like that, you can still hug each other at the end. ”
What boxing brings to Le Ying is not only physical strength, but also inner strength:
It turns out that you don't have to please anyone, and you can get friendly treatment just as well.
I saw such a passage:
"You don't like this job and want to quit, you feel that people are sinister and don't want to fall in love, or you want to go out and play, or you want to indulge in life, these are not the same as being yourself.
The so-called being oneself is to no longer deliberately pursue the approval of others, and find what you believe is valuable and worth persevering in, and then abandon those formal and ideological constraints, fight against mediocrity, fight against boring time, and don't care about winning or losing. ”
In the film, Le Ying did not take revenge on the people who hurt her, but chose a brighter path and became a stronger version of herself.
She proved with her actions that in the face of adversity and setbacks, it is not necessary to fight back with hatred and revenge, but also to respond with growth and progress.
Perhaps, in the face of social indifference and the complexity of human nature, we are all involuntary and powerless to get rid of it.
However, the polishing and shaping of ourselves is the only thing we can grasp and control.
What is Hot Piping Hot?
It's not the weight of a bag of cement, it's not a left punch to the opponent's face, and it's not an ex-boyfriend's change of heart.
The hottest thing is the sentence "depending on the mood".
It's finally being yourself, and finally choosing life according to your own heart.
When you do everything you can for yourself, then no matter what the result is, you win for yourself once.
watched Jia Ling's new movie, and many people had an epiphany:
The best way for a woman to change her life is nothing more than the three words "be yourself".
May every woman live her best life.
Don't please others, don't be afraid of challenges, maintain your own principles and bottom line, and live a fresh and bright life.
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