A man, if he quit smoking and drinking, then he has these 4 hints, many people don't know!
Du Mu wrote in "Bo Qinhuai": "The smoke cage is cold and the water is cold and the moon is long and sandy, and the night is close to the restaurant. ”
Su Shi wrote in "Jiangchengzi Mizhou Hunting": "Mingyue Tower is high and rests alone, and the wine is sad and turns into lovesick tears. ”
Since ancient times, most of those who have great talents and good writers are good at drinking. Nowadays, tobacco and alcohol have slowly evolved into a way for men to socialize in society.
In fact, a small cigarette and alcohol reflects the change of a person's mentality, and the attitude towards tobacco and alcohol is also different at different ages.
A man who has quit smoking and drinking has these 4 hints.
1. Young and indulgent, middle-aged conservative, more and more attention to health.
There is a saying: "Young people use wine as water, and old people use water as wine." ”
In this world, men are always expected to be the inheritors of the family, the pillars of the family, shouldering the heavy responsibility of raising the old and the young.
Life is not easy, money is hard to make, and things are hard to do. A cigarette and a glass of wine can relieve a thousand sorrows. A cigarette is not a cigarette but loneliness, and I would rather be choked to tears than bow my head and admit it. A glass of wine is not a wine is a vicissitudes of life, and I would rather be drunk than admit defeat easily.
When people are young, they will inevitably be hit on the head and bloodshed when they work hard in society, there are emotional setbacks, economic pressure, and confusion about the future.
People say that there is always a kind of vicissitudes that make a man rub his loneliness and melancholy into the wine and swallow it. The ancients also said a long time ago: "The only way to solve worries is Du Kang."
The ancients, sages, and literati came from the sages and sages, and how they came to be open-minded, just one cup after another, one altar after another, and thousands of melancholy in the wine. Where is ambition, where is spirit, it's just that wine is strong and intimidating, and the sick cat is hard to support the tiger's skin.
With the increase of experience, you will gradually understand: youth is capital is just a few years, people reach middle age, their health deteriorates, people's courage will become smaller and smaller, and they will become more and more desperate.
Those who drank and smoked intemperately when they were young suddenly began to quit smoking and drinking, and switched to drinking tea, indicating that they began to pay attention to health preservation and began to understand the importance of health.
Perhaps, this is the gift of time, especially in the past two years, which has made us realize how important it is to have a strong body.
Second, understand the essence of socializing, gradually give up ineffective entertainment, and enjoy alone time.
Zhang Haichun, the "Godfather of China's Hardware Entrepreneurship" in the IT industry, once shared a story of personal experience.
He had a friend who wanted to follow him to make some connections, so he took him to a party of "Internet executives."
Unexpectedly, after going, that friend did not meet his expectations of making contacts, on the contrary, he looked particularly embarrassed at the party.
In this regard, Zhang Haichun said with emotion:
"Even if you get into the high-end circle, others still look down on you because you don't have enough level, not enough knowledge, and not enough for anything. ”
In real life, many people spend precious time smoking and drinking in various circles every day, just to make connections and get convenience and help in their careers and work.
However, as everyone knows, the essence of social interaction between adults is always value exchange, your position in the eyes of others is always based on value, you are worthless to mix in the circle of cattle, no matter how much alcohol you drink, it is useless.
When people reach middle age, they will realize this more and more deeply, and finally understand: instead of deliberately pleasing others and being humble, it is better to learn to be alone and make yourself strong first, because utilitarian social interaction is the most reliable and mature social.
3. Look down on gains and losses, lower desires, and begin to subtract in life.
I have seen a very classic saying: "If you look down from the 80th floor, it is full of beautiful scenery, but when you look down from the 2nd floor, it is full of garbage." If people don't have height, all they see is problems, and if they don't have a pattern, all they see are trivialities. ”
When people are young, they are more or less comparing, they want to have their own business, have a lot of wealth, live in a luxurious house, and drive a luxury car.
I have a friend who used to work in the media, running with hot spots every day, still rushing to the manuscript at two o'clock in the middle of the night, sleepy lit a cigarette to wake up, hungry ordered a takeaway, thirsty soaked some wolfberries, and continued to stay up late.
What he didn't expect was that he had just reached middle age, and he was diagnosed with diabetes during a physical examination, and since then he has quit smoking, drinking, staying up late, and taking medication for life.
According to statistics, 95.7% of people between the ages of 30 and 50 who die young die from fatal diseases caused by excessive fatigue.
Someone on Zhihu asked, why do young people still die in various ways even though they know that health is important? One of Gao Zan replied that he always felt young.
In fact, there are not many things that people really need in their lives, so don't be bound by superfluous things.
When you reach a certain age, you must know how to start subtracting for life, reduce your desires, look down on gains and losses, and have few desires in order to live a relaxed and long-term life.
Fourth, when encountering difficulties, the economic pressure increases, and the belt is tightened to live.
In fact, looking at the world of men, they generally don't spend a lot of money on cosmetics and skin care like girls, and they love to dress up and buy beautiful clothes.
Their daily extra expenses are smoking, drinking, and refueling their cars. However, don't underestimate these humble expenses, there is a lot of money accumulated over time.
I remember that many years ago, a friend used to smoke and drink very generously, and suddenly one day I saw him not driving by himself during rush hour, but went to squeeze the subway bus.
I was curious and asked him, "Why is it so eco-friendly all of a sudden?"
He said helplessly: "My father just had a serious illness, and he was hospitalized for surgery and suddenly returned to poverty, and now the economic pressure is very great, and stepping on oil during peak hours is money." ”
He said: "His father's illness made him realize that a good body is the greatest wealth, and his family can no longer withstand the toss of a serious illness, so he not only has to save money, but also quit smoking, drinking, and staying up late to maintain a good body." ”
There was a saying circulating on the Internet: "How many days can you live in the ICU with your money?" There is also a saying that also sighs helplessly: "A serious illness is enough to destroy a family!"
Zhang Meiying, vice chairman of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, also publicly said in front of the media: "In the mainland, 70% of poverty is due to illness, and a serious illness can easily destroy a family." ”
It is said that "illness comes like a mountain", but in fact, when a serious illness comes, it is not just a person, but a family.
In the face of illness, there is a happy family and a family sorrow, and no one can guarantee that you will not be patronized next.
People often wake up only when they experience a big setback, in fact, tobacco and alcohol themselves are not a good thing, and it is better to smoke less and drink less when it is not necessary.