Do not interfere with children's marriage, work and life
In the new century, the new era, the new life, the thinking of today's children is different from that of our generation of people born in the fifties and sixties of the last century with the development and progress of society. Lifestyles and conceptual thinking have changed a lot.
Modern society has entered the digital age, with the leap of science and technology, and the digital economy has become a powerful engine for economic and social development in the new era. Children live in a very different environment than when we were younger, and we must not impose our own thoughts and thoughts on this generation of bright and clever children.
Although there are many old sayings that are extremely educational, education is necessary, family education must not be abandoned, and it is also necessary to strengthen the guidance of children towards the path of healthy growth. However, when children become adults, parents should learn to let go, let their children see the world through ups and downs in society, and not point fingers at them on the road of life, which is counterproductive.
The smart way is to treat adult children as friends, to make friends with children, to communicate more and communicate more. Their life path needs them to walk on their own, to work their own, and adults can give suggestions in a timely manner, and you must not impose your ideas on them. Appropriate advice is necessary, after all, children have little life experience, and making suitable suggestions allows them to think about their own decisions.
For example, in the matter of marriage, adults can match, can tell children the importance of being the right person, the fit of the two original families is also very important, and the three views and hobbies of the two should not be too different, etc., but you must not replace the child's decision-making or impose your will on the child.
Properly guide older children, and their marriage can only go with the flow, and do not interfere with their thoughts and decisions. Parents can do their best to give appropriate financial help in starting a family, such as buying a house, weddings and other links, after all, the children are under great pressure to survive in the society at the beginning and need some help, but for the children who lie flat and gnaw the old to tell them the truth, parents no longer have the reason to raise you when they become adults, and they should be self-reliant.
My children are excellent and have their unique strengths and abilities. Although we are old and have not yet started a family, we are as anxious and urging as all parents who agree with traditional Chinese culture. But urging is only occasional, in the way or heart-to-heart communication, always have to meet their own like, will not often hang on the mouth to urge, so that children in a relaxed family environment to find their own small family home. Late marriage at an older age or late birth of children after marriage has become a common social phenomenon, and we as elders can only identify with and adapt to this phenomenon, and there is no other way.
The same goes for my child's career choice, I just make suggestions to talk to my child. We are ordinary people who are fathers, there are no social resources, and we also know the unspoken rules, but we don't have the ability and ability to take the road of the unspoken rules, so the children's road is their own, we just need to try to keep their physical and mental health and give them less trouble. In the eyes of capable people, we are useless elders, indeed, this is also a helpless thing. But there are benefits, and the benefits are that children know not to rely on, not to wait, and to work their own.
My children have not started a family for the time being, but as long as they do have a family, they live their own small lives, and we old couples will never interfere in anything in their lives. Living separately from your children, it is of course better to be close, and far away.
They have the freedom to come and go on holidays as the children please. With the grandchildren to take care of themselves, if the children do not need us to take care of the grandchildren, they do not force them to go, and they are at ease. From time to time, I go to see my grandchildren to play, which is also a family fun.
Now that the children are unmarried, naturally there are no grandchildren, so continue to be at ease!
