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文丨S1mple
Editor丨S1mple
There is a phrase called "rare confusion", which means that in some cases, one should maintain a state or attitude of confusion, that is, one should not be too wise or sober.
Sometimes, deliberately pretending to be unaware or not interfering is a wise attitude towards life.
Many people usually feel a little inexplicable, and sometimes they offend others without knowing what's going on, which makes them feel very distressed.
In fact, as long as you grasp these points, it will become a very simple thing.
Low-key and unassuming
Xiang Yu, the overlord of Western Chu, had such a sentence after breaking through Xianyang City, that is, "Wealth does not return to his hometown, such as clothes and brocade at night, who knows!"
Hearing this, Han Sheng said: "People say that Chu people are crowned by monkeys, sure enough." ”
Just these two sentences, two idioms have been handed down like this, one is a brocade night walk, the other is a monkey and crown, and the last two people are not very good.
Xiang Yu finally killed himself in Wujiang, and Han Sheng was directly killed by Xiang Yu after saying this, and in the end, he couldn't see Xiang Yu's defeat.
Did the two of them do something wrong? From the perspective of modern people, it seems that both are wrong, but they seem to be wrong.
What Xiang Yu said was not right? When I am rich, I can't go home generously and let Jiangdong's father see how successful I look? Of course not, but obviously Xiang Yu did not think about the consequences after showing off.
And Han Sheng's mistake was that he didn't use another way to persuade Xiang Yu, but after Xiang Yu finished saying the words of brocade night walking, he sarcastically ridiculed Xiang Yu is a monkey wearing a hat.
If Han Sheng used a kind of euphemism to persuade Xiang Yu, inform Xiang Yu of the benefits of occupying Xianyang, or find Xiang Yu's sub-father Fan Zeng to persuade him, would Han Sheng still be killed by Xiang Yu?
Of course not.
If Xiang Yu is steady, doesn't want so many bells and whistles, and acts in a low-key manner, maybe there will be nothing to do with Liu Bang.
In fact, there are many people who are like this now, they always think that they should show off when they are rich, but the most unpredictable thing in the world is the human heart.
You are rich, but what about other people? For example, some neighbors in your hometown, when you were young, even your colleagues, leaders and friends.
People will always psychologically reject a person who does not fit in with their own circle, which may be nothing on the surface, but in private there may be how many gossip is orchestrating you.
You will say, in the family of the elder, how can you still control how people talk in private?
I can't control it, but you can avoid these disturbing things by keeping a low profile, and you act in a high-profile manner, and someone who has a certain relationship with you comes to your door and asks for your help, what should you do?
You helped one person, you helped two people, so what if there were ten people or twenty people?
There are some favors that you can't help, or you don't want to pull down for this person, so what do these people who are rejected by you think? Oh, people are developed, and they don't look down on our poor relatives and poor friends.
Give a dog a bad name and hang him.
Even if you help, or even help all, remember this sentence, Dou Mien, Shengmi Hatred.
So it's still a low-key person, although some troubles are not very powerful, but there is no need to give birth to so many rights and wrongs, after all, people still need human affection after all.
Pretend to be poor and don't show rich
Someone said, is pretending to be poor a repeat of the low-key life above?
Actually, it's not, being a low-key person is an attitude towards the world, and pretending to be poor here is purely an excuse, what excuse? An excuse to prevent others from borrowing money from you.
Lending money to others is actually nothing, after all, everyone may encounter some urgent matters, and sometimes it is indeed a headache to not be able to turn over funds.
But some people are different, maybe they just want to borrow money, and they don't borrow much, sometimes one hundred or two hundred, but many times it's meat buns beating dogs, and there is no return.
This kind of is very annoying, sometimes you don't borrow, don't borrow, some friends have a good face, and they may not be able to pull down in this situation, so they give the money.
But sometimes it's because of this face, you may not even be able to pull your face to ask for money, and if the other party doesn't look for him, he won't be able to remember it at all, which is very annoying.
So at this time, pretending to be poor is a very embarrassing thing to avoid, in fact, there is no need to care about that face, some people have a big face, and others can pretend to be it, but ordinary people like us, holding money in their hands is the right thing.
Sometimes pretending to be poor is not a shameful thing, and it is annoying to wait until you really lend out the money, and in the end it is not good.
Say less, make fewer mistakes
mentioned Han Sheng's Mu Monkey and crown earlier, in fact, to put it bluntly, he shouldn't persuade that sentence more, say less and make fewer mistakes, and say more and make more mistakes.
Sometimes we may not be thoughtful when we speak, we don't know other people's affairs, and it will not be wrong to say a few words.
After all, I don't know the whole picture, I don't comment, I don't know what to say, for many people, I usually talk about it, I just want to say anything, and I don't want to hold it in my heart.
But it is this kind of thinking that makes you invisibly offend many people.
Sometimes it's not necessary to open the chatterbox, leave three points for talking, and leave these three points not only for the other party, but also for yourself.
Sometimes the sophistication of human feelings is in these few words, and there is no need to say it so thoroughly, so sparingly.
There are some things that you don't think is wrong, but after you say them, people will listen to them, which is not good, after all, in most cases, people still can't think it through.
It's hard to get confused
It's rare to be confused, and it's the hardest thing to do in the world.
After all, many times we don't know whether to pretend to be confused, for example, three people are friends, and the other two people have some small conflicts over some things, these two people will come to you to confide in you, hoping that you will face them.
In this case, pretending to be confused is a more appropriate attitude, after all, the relationship between the three people is good, and reconciliation is also an inevitable thing, when they talk to you, you put your attitude so clearly, sometimes it will make the other two people unable to get off the stage.
Maybe when people find you to confide, they actually just want to be comforted by you, and don't want you to directly point out who is right and who is wrong, but after you say it, the matter can no longer be confused.
Sometimes right and wrong can be said in other situations, but in this case, pretending to be confused is undoubtedly the best option.
Many people like to be outspoken in their daily lives, and this quality is good, but for many people, lies don't hurt, and the truth is the quick knife.
So some things don't need to be so thorough at a certain time, just enough to say.