When women get along with men, don't be enthusiastic and throw themselves into it, which will often not be cherished.
Be "cold" appropriately, let him see a different you, and also give you a different freshness of love, so that he will like you more.
1. Even if you like him very much, you have to be "cold" occasionally
Some men are very popular in life, and there will be many people who are willing to put down their bodies to satisfy him, and he is used to this phenomenon.
Therefore, he will be naturally sensitive to the proximity of courtesy, and feel that you are insincere, and there must be a purpose.
If you want to dispel his concerns, you have to be "cold" once in a while, and don't let him think that your efforts are cheap.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Qu Xiaoxuan fell in love with Zhao Qiping at first sight, and then took the initiative to pursue it.
But in this process, she was very measured, she found that Zhao Qiping was always indifferent to her, so she deliberately ignored him for a while, and then posted a photo with other members of the opposite sex in the circle of friends to judge whether the other party really had no intention of her.
As a result, after Dr. Zhao saw the photo, he took the initiative to look for her.
In her opinion, she doesn't care who takes the initiative when it comes to feelings, but she cares that both parties are interested, not her one-man show.
Even if a woman likes a man very much, no matter how powerful he is, she should occasionally "be cold", stop and see the other party's reaction, don't just care about yourself and move forward, the other party doesn't feel it at all, and the result is a busy day.
2. In daily interactions, create a "high cold" atmosphere
There's a saying that goes like this:
"Distance produces beauty, many things are closer to each other, the more difficult it is to see, and when they are far away, they can see the beauty. ”
Feelings are like this, two people are like glue every day, inseparable, in the eyes of outsiders is a good relationship, but for themselves, there is no personal space, everything about you is undoubtedly revealed, so that many of your advantages will be mediocre.
Because it's too familiar, it will make people feel contemptive.
Excellent men tend to have higher expectations for women, and he wants to see your different highlights at all times.
In the process of getting along with him, a woman should keep herself mysterious, leave enough personal space for each other, and create a "cold" atmosphere in the relationship, so that his interest in you will only increase.
3. Maintain self-improvement and have a "cold" confidence
If there is a relatively valuable investment in the world, it is this: keep yourself improving.
Only by constantly improving oneself can one's value always shine and be attractive among the crowd.
And attraction is the secret of a long-lasting relationship.
Before a woman loves someone, she must first love herself, so that she has the strength to stand in the world and cultivate her own "cold" confidence.
Outstanding men are mostly appreciative of equally great women, and as long as you are good in your own right, then he will naturally come to you.
If you don't have the ability yourself, then no matter how much you give, it will be a meaningless floating cloud, and he won't care.
Because there is a saying:
"If you bloom, butterflies will come. ”
No matter how suitable a woman is, don't forget to continue to improve herself and accumulate her own strength, only if you become a beautiful flower first, will you attract butterflies fluttering.
Epilogue:
In a relationship, it is not up to who is good to whom, you can grow old together, and love will be sweet for a long time.
Instead, it depends on the attraction of commonality, and each other is willing to achieve each other and become better together, so that the relationship can be long-term.
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