It is not easy for people to live for a lifetime, the first half of their lives are children, and the second half of their lives are for themselves.
When you are old, no matter how good your relationship with your children is in the second half of your life, don't do these 3 things to your children, it won't be good for you for a long time!
1. Don't lie down too early and ask your children for money
When people reach old age, they should not lie down too early when they practice it, and in their old age, they will expect their children to spend money on themselves and provide for themselves.
In this age of money, money is important to everyone. Not only the elderly need it, but also the children.
Nowadays, the cost of living for young people is already very high, and they have to raise children, families, cars, houses, etc., which have been overwhelming.
At this time, if you add the burden of providing for your parents, it is not intended to be "worse".
If the parents are unable to take care of themselves, it is understandable to ask their children for money to spend, and the children should give it to understandable.
But if the parents are simply lazy, they don't want to move, and they reach out to ask their children for money to spend, although the children will also give, but they will feel uncomfortable in their hearts, and they will dislike their parents after a long time.
No matter what age a person is, as long as he is healthy, not lazy, and willing to move, he will have income, but it is just a matter of how much he earns.
No matter how much you earn or how little you earn, just do your best. Moreover, he has the confidence to spend the money he earns, so that not only will he not be disliked by his children, but he will also be respected and liked by his children.
2. Don't moan without illness and seek the attention of your children
I have a relative who has a son and a daughter, and the economic conditions are good, and the children are filial and sensible. It stands to reason that life in old age will not be bad, but this is not the case.
The son of a relative works as a sales manager in the company, and he often can't even drink saliva when he works, and he is very respected by the leader.
Originally, the leader intended to promote him to be the director, but because he was late for negotiations, the company suffered a huge loss, and the position was demoted instead of being promoted, and since then his son has had opinions about his relatives.
I remember that day when my relative's son received a call from his relative, he hurriedly put down his work and rushed home, for fear that his relative would have an accident.
When the relatives saw that their son had returned, it seemed that all the symptoms of discomfort had disappeared. Pulling his son, he began to accuse his son of not coming home for a long time and not caring about her at all.
At this time, the relative's son's phone rang, and the relative interrupted her to silence the phone, and it was her action that made her son lose his position as director.
It turned out that the colleague couldn't get in touch with her son when he called and sent messages, so he could only ask the rest of the company to negotiate with the customer on his behalf.
But I still didn't catch up because my relative's son was late and the other party's customer service felt that he was not valued and respected, so he canceled the cooperation, and the leader demoted the relative's son after he knew about it.
The relatives didn't say anything when they knew about it, she felt that she was not wrong, she was indeed a little uncomfortable at the time, but it was not as serious as what she told her son, and the most important thing was that she missed her son, she just wanted to get more attention from her son.
After the relative's daughter knew about this, she said that her relative was moaning without illness, and it was nothing in the first place, but she said it so seriously that she wanted to scare her brother, but she didn't expect her brother to lose the opportunity to be promoted.
When people are old, don't moan without illness, the body can not be used as an excuse, instead of seeking the attention of children, it is better to find ways to enrich your life and let yourself not be too idle.
3. Don't express your opinion if you don't spend money yourself
My friend Xiaojing quarreled with her mother-in-law again, the reason was that Xiaojing bought clothes for the child, but her mother-in-law didn't like it and didn't like it.
Xiaojing said that she happily bought a dress for her child, and she thought it was good, and the child liked it very much, but she was poured cold water by her mother-in-law.
Her mother-in-law said: This dress is not beautiful at all, what an aesthetic!
Xiaojing said: As long as the child likes it, it is fine, and it doesn't matter whether other people like it or not!
When her mother-in-law heard this, she was a little unconvinced and said: What does she know about the child when she is so young? If the child does not like to be clean, he should not buy light-colored clothes, otherwise he will be washed before he is worn out; and the child's clothes should be bought in a larger size, so that they can be worn for an extra year, and it is not a waste of money to buy the right one every time! The most important thing is that there is no need to buy a brand when the child grows up, and it is important to be cheap and affordable; and then he also said: I will not spend money!
Xiaojing was angry by her mother-in-law's words and said: If you don't buy it, don't express your opinion, I can't count on you anyway, and then led the child into the house.
Xiaojing's mother-in-law wanted to be comforted by Xiaojing's husband, but she didn't expect her husband to support Xiaojing's approach after knowing this, and Xiaojing's mother-in-law could only keep silent.
Subsequently, Xiaojing's mother-in-law ran to cry to Xiaojing's aunt, and her aunt said to her mother-in-law: Why don't you want to think about what you said?
The daughter-in-law is full of joy to buy a dress for the child, what do you say? And say that people don't spend money, what do you think?
Since you don't want to buy it for your child, then take care of your mouth and don't express your opinion, you don't wear it if it looks good or not, as long as the child likes it. If you say that you are wrong, it will only make your son and daughter-in-law dislike you, or even stay away from you.
Written at the end: When people are old, they want to have a happy old age.
First of all, you must learn to rely on yourself, don't ask your children for money to spend, and be self-sufficient according to your own ability.
Secondly, take care of your physical health, don't moan without illness, and seek attention to life.
Finally, keep your mouth shut, don't express your opinion on things that don't cost money, and avoid being disliked by your children.
Do the above three things well, it is difficult to be unhappy in your old age!