As long as there is society, there is a "grandma dispute", in fact, this kind of thing is very common, after all, grandma and grandma are parents of the same generation as the child, and the old man cares a lot about who the child is closer to.
Because the elderly will feel more secure in this way, there are often elderly people who ask their children "grandma or grandma", and after receiving a positive answer, they will often "smile very happily" and feel very secure.
This behavior of the elderly has also been fully reflected when they give their children New Year's money.
"How much money does Grandma give you?" the grandmother asked her grandson quietly, but the child said such a thing
When Xiaodong was born, he was always brought by the child's grandmother, and when the child reached kindergarten, he began to be taken by his grandmother. Therefore, the relationship between children and grandmothers and grandmothers is almost "half-opened".
During the Chinese New Year, according to the custom, the small proprietor went to his grandmother's house to pay New Year's greetings on the first day of the new year, which is actually to pay New Year's greetings to his grandparents at his own home, and then go to his relatives to pay New Year's greetings.
In the second year of junior high school, I went to my grandmother's house to pay New Year's greetings, and then went to my grandmother's relatives to pay New Year's greetings.
This way of greeting the New Year always makes the grandmother a little "worried", after all, the child goes to the grandmother's house after herself, if the grandmother asks the child, "How much New Year's money does grandma give?"
Then give the child more New Year's money, and he will be too insecure, worried about whether the child will like grandma more because of "more New Year's money".
Therefore, when the child came back from the New Year's greeting at his grandmother's house in the second year of junior high school, his grandmother secretly asked the child when no one was around: "How much red envelopes does grandma give you?"
Originally, the grandmother thought that the child would honestly say the amount, after all, the child was still young, and it was still very good to "coax". However, what the child said next was something that the grandmother did not expect at all.
The child said: "My red envelope is with my mother, and my mother keeps it for me, because I was thinking about playing with the 'tablet' (grandma's Labrador), so I haven't seen how much the red envelope has." ”
This kind of response really didn't make the grandmother think of it, so that the grandmother didn't know how to continue to ask, and the grandmother didn't want to ask the child's mother directly, after all, this kind of question can only be asked secretly, otherwise people will misunderstand their "careful eyes".
Xiaodong's response was not actually spontaneously thought up by Xiaodong, but at the behest of his mother.
Because the child's grandmother is actually the same as the grandmother, she is also worried that the money she gives for the New Year is less, and the child will be closer to the grandmother.
Therefore, when the child went to pay New Year's greetings, he also secretly asked the child the same question, and the child's answer was the same, thus avoiding the "comparison" of the two elders, and also saving a lot of the possibility of "internal family struggle".
The New Year's red envelope is actually a good blessing from parents to their children, and we should face up to its cultural meaning.
In addition, when children collect red envelopes for the New Year, it is actually a time to show family upbringing, so there are things that cannot be done, and parents must pay attention to reminding their children.
During the Chinese New Year, when children collect red envelopes for New Year's money, what should they do and what should they not do?
Tell your child this information as early as possible, so that the child is not rude and highlights parenting
▶ Children receive New Year's money, pay attention to the "3 taboos"
(1) Avoid opening it in front of you
New Year's money is a blessing, when the elders' face is opened to check the amount inside, it is an impolite behavior, but also a kind of disrespect for cultural behavior, which shows that it cares too much about the amount of money, ignores the cultural significance of the New Year's money, and lacks a certain amount of politeness.
(2) Avoid judging the amount of red envelopes
After knowing the amount of New Year's money, children should not judge the amount of money, because this behavior is equivalent to treating the elders as "talking points" and putting themselves in a high position, which is a great disrespectful behavior.
(3) Avoid comparing yourself with others
The behavior of comparison is very undesirable, which may not only make the relationship between the child and the little partner more severe, but also may cause some elders to be unhappy, after all, the elders are to save face, if the child often mentions in front of others "XX gave me XX red envelopes, XX gave more" and so on, it will embarrass parents who give fewer red envelopes.
▶ When children receive New Year's money, they understand these etiquettes and show upbringing
(1) Pay attention to politeness and accept red envelopes with both hands
To receive blessings from elders, you need to show your own corresponding performance. In fact, receiving the red envelope with both hands is not only a courtesy to the elders, but also an emphasis and care for the blessing, which means that you accept this blessing and you will enjoy the benefits of this blessing. And, after receiving the red envelope, you also need to say "thank you" to your elders.
(2) Pay attention to etiquette and take red envelopes after the New Year
Generally speaking, when visiting the door to collect the New Year's money, a certain ritual process is required, although the details of the process may vary from place to place, but in general, it is "New Year's greetings first, and then red envelopes".
Therefore, children should not shout for red envelopes as soon as they enter the door, if they are really eager to get New Year's money from their elders, they can let their children start to pay New Year's greetings as soon as they enter the door.
After the New Year's greetings, the elders will naturally take out red envelopes, and the effect of the two behaviors is the same, but the meaning is different.
(3) After receiving the New Year's money, it should be handed over to the parents for safekeeping
This is mainly done in consideration of three problems, the first is that the child's sense of custody is not strong, and the New Year will definitely "run crazy", so if the child keeps the New Year's money by himself, the probability of losing it is greater.
The second is to avoid being stolen by others, such as being stolen or robbed by others, and even being forced to buy and sell by some small stall vendors.
The third is to prevent children from spending money indiscriminately, and also to prevent children from developing bad financial habits.
However, parents only keep it for their children, and they can't "embezzle" their children's New Year's money without their children's consent.
Write at the end
When the New Year is collected, it is also a time for children to show their "cultivation" to the outside world, and it is also a time for parents to show their children's "upbringing" level.
Therefore, parents must tell their children well and let them know what to do and what not to do when collecting New Year's money. In this way, the child is not easy to be rude and seems to have a tutor.
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