Seeing the "double standard" of Zhou Yiwei, I understood why Zhu Dan and Zhang Songwen loved "Mr. Zhou" so much

Cao Xueqin once wrote in "Dream of Red Mansions":

"Ten thousand taels of gold are easy to get, but it is difficult to find a confidant."

But this is an exception for Zhou Yiwei.

Because he not only has a confidant like Zhang Songwen, but also a good wife like Zhu Dan!

Although in many cases, Zhou Yiwei treats the two "double standards" very seriously.

But it is precisely this "double standard" that makes Zhou Yiwei the favorite "Mr. Zhou" in the hearts of Zhu Dan and Zhang Songwen.

01 What is quiet? What is escape?

In 2000, in the higher vocational class of Beijing Film Academy, Zhou Yiwei and Zhang Songwen met for the first time.

At that time, Zhou Yiwei was 18 years old and Zhang Songwen was 24 years old.

Because they are classmates, plus the "bunk beds", they have a very good relationship.

If Zhang Songwen is used to evaluate it, during their school days, their relationship was so good that "they watched each other fall asleep every night." ”

Although they are close, when it comes to the personalities of the two, they can be called "far from each other".

Zhang Songwen, because he had been in the rivers and lakes for many years before entering the school, so he understands the world quite well.

With the comment in the blog on Monday: When I lived in the dormitory 316 of the film academy in 2000, I was still a little cub who looked like an angry youth, and he has been awarded the top ten tour guides in Guangdong Province for many years, and he has been wandering the rivers and lakes for many years!

Compared with Zhang Songwen's extroverted transparency, Zhou Yiwei seems a little "out of place".

In the interview, Zhang Songwen talked about his first impression of Zhou Zhouwei, saying that the other party "does not look like a young man".

First, the youth is old.

Speaking of which, Zhou Yiwei is 6 years younger than Zhang Songwen, but the hearts of the two are completely opposite.

The older Zhang Songwen is active and enthusiastic, and he can talk to anyone.

On the contrary, it was the boy's Monday Circle, and he didn't say anything about it, and he also looked like an "old-fashioned autumn" on weekdays.

What Zhang Songwen doesn't understand the most is that a young man who should be high-spirited, but he likes Su Dongpo during the exile period, which is somewhat a bit of "sad for the new words".

The second is that the personality is slow to heat.

In Zhang Songwen's eyes, Zhou Yiwei has a natural "cautiousness" in dealing with the outside world, especially in making friends, Zhou Yiwei is even more cautious.

In his words, the scope of friends on Monday is very clearly divided, some people are friends in life, and some people are limited to cooperative relationships.

If you meet a friend who you don't like or can't talk to, Zhou Zhouwei will also give up decisively, and you can't wait to turn around and leave.

But in Zhang Songwen's eyes, the "slow and cautious" Zhou Yiwei treats Zhu Dan in a different way!

If you use three words to describe his attitude towards Zhu Dan, it is "fast, accurate, and ruthless".

"Fast", in 2013, when Zhou Yiwei was filming "Embroidered Spring Knife", he "fell in love at first sight" with Zhu Dan;

"Quasi", the reason why Zhou Wei said that he was tempted by Zhu Dan was that when he saw Zhu Dan practicing swords, he cried while practicing, which stimulated his "desire to protect" Zhu Dan;

"Ruthless", when the relationship between the two was made public, public opinion was overwhelming, but Zhou Yiwei identified Zhu Dan as Zhu Dan in this life.

Seeing this, many people may think that this is "Hero Sadness Beauty Pass" on Monday.

But Zhu Dan said that after she fell in love with Zhou Yiwei, the first person who made her jealous was Zhang Songwen.

In Zhu Dan's eyes, Zhou Yiwei is very quiet on weekdays.

This "quiet" is not just a lack of "words", but the calmness of Zhou Zhouwei from the inside out.

In Zhu Dan's words, since he was surrounded by Monday, he felt that the whole world had "quieted" and he was no longer impetuous.

But Zhou Yiwei, who was quiet next to Zhu Dan, was in a different state next to Zhang Songwen.

For example, Zhou Zhouwei and Zhang Songwen's "late-night chat".

Zhu Dan once joked on the show, feeling that the relationship between Zhou Yiwei and Zhang Songwen is not just as simple as "brothers".

Because every night and night, Zhou Yiwei would talk to Zhang Songwen on the phone, and sometimes the phone call would take four or five hours.

In Zhu Dan's words, he teased, he didn't know what the two were "chatting" about, and they could "chat" for four or five hours.

For example, the ease between Zhou Zhouwei and Zhang Songwen.

When watching "Love's Study Trip", many people will find that when Zhou Yiwei gets along with Zhu Dan, there is a characteristic, that is, Zhu Dan is talking and Zhou Zhou is listening.

Although Zhou Yiwei listened attentively, he either smiled shyly or thoughtful;

But when he was with Zhang Songwen, Zhou Zhouwei looked very fresh and jumpy.

Especially when Zhang Songwen is full of witty words, he can not only make Zhou Yiwei laugh, but also make Zhou Yiwei say a few more words.

This is probably what Zhang Songwen and Zhou Yiwei said, comfortable.

Seeing this, you can probably feel the "double standard" of the two of them on Monday!

He and Zhang Songwen know each other like confidants, which Zhu Dan can never cross and change;

Similarly, he also broke through the slow heat of personality for Zhu Dan, which exceeded Zhang Songwen's cautious judgment of his friends.

If you think that the "double standard" of Monday is limited to this?

Then you are wrong, because the next "double standard" details are the best proof of the gentleman's style on Monday.

02 Why be generous? What is stinginess

In 2023, Zhang Songwen, who has been dormant in the film and television industry for many years, will finally become popular all over the Internet with "Hurricane"!

Just when Zhang Songwen's popularity was getting higher and higher, Zhou Yiwei was inexplicably pushed to the "outlet" of public opinion.

Someone picked up the intersection of Zhou Yiwei and Zhang Songwen and found that they were old friends for more than 20 years, but when Zhou Yiwei was at the trough of Zhang Songwen, he didn't seem to give much material help and support.

Among them, the most important thing that made netizens "break the defense" was that Zhou Zhouwei did not help Zhang Songwen buy "coal".

In the interview, Zhang Songwen said that he rented a house in the suburbs of Beijing, and it was very cold in winter. It's so cold that every time I come around to play on Monday, I have to wrap myself in a thick cotton jacket.

But even when he saw his friend so "embarrassed", Zhou Yiwei never took the initiative to help buy coal once and let Zhang Songwen burn a stove, or took the initiative to borrow Zhang Songwen a little money to make his friend's "winter" warmer.

In this regard, some netizens questioned that Zhou Yiwei was too stingy and could not be regarded as Zhang Songwen's "friend" at all, because how could a real friend not "send charcoal in the snow"?

At the same time, netizens found that Zhou Yiwei was very generous to Zhu Dan.

In "Love's Study Trip", Zhu Dan said that when he and Zhou Yiwei first fell in love, they were cheated out of all their savings by their friends, and they also had a huge amount of arrears.

If you are an ordinary person, you will probably murmur in your heart when you see that your girlfriend owes tens of millions of debts, even if you don't "run away".

But Zhou Zhouwei just told Zhu Dan, "Let's pay back this money together, and we can pay it back."

After the debt was paid off, Zhu Dan couldn't let go.

Zhou Yiwei not only did not complain at all, but persuaded Zhu Dan to let go of his knot.

In his words: "The things of the world are still unfinished, and they will never be over", and everything will pass.

Seeing this, many people will probably wonder, is Zhou Zhouwei "generous" or "stingy"?

You say he is "generous", he has known that his confidant Zhang Songwen has been at a low point for more than 20 years, but he never took the initiative to support?

You say he is "stingy", at the beginning of his acquaintance with Zhu Dan, he was willing to bear tens of millions of debts together?

But no matter what kind of doubts he faced, Zhou Yiwei never explained much.

From beginning to end, he has an attitude, "some things are not for outsiders".

It wasn't until later that everyone knew how much understanding and respect there was hidden in Zhou Zhouwei's "double standard" for Zhu Dan and Zhang Songwen.

It turned out that he seemed to be "stingy" with Zhang Songwen, but in fact he respected and understood him from the bottom of his heart.

He understands Zhang Songwen's persistence and backbone too well, and he knows that Zhang Songwen would rather "die of cold" in the cold winter than bow his head to take on a character he hates!

If this is not the case, how could Zhang Songwen have worked hard for more than 20 years in this materialistic entertainment industry?

It is precisely because he understands his friend's backbone and arrogance too well that he never dares to ask for material help easily.

In his words, if I helped him buy coal, or took the initiative to lend him money, would Zhang Songwen still be able to stay there quietly?

From Zhang Songwen's point of view, you regard it as a confidant of your college classmates:

When they ran the crew together, they were rejected by the director together, and now the other party has already worked hard to create a world, but he is still standing still? Will there be a gap in my heart?

If Zhou Zhouwei offered to borrow money or help buy coal, it seemed to help Zhang Songwen, but at the same time, it was also a kind of "goodwill" harm to Zhang Songwen.

Because of this kind of "charcoal in the snow", it challenges Zhang Songwen's principles and hurts Zhang Songwen's self-esteem.

It is precisely because of this that Zhou Yiwei did not extend a "helping hand".

He would rather sit in Zhang Songwen's house in the cold winter, wrapped in thick cotton clothes, accompany Zhang Songwen and wait for the opportunity to fulfill the perseverance in the other party's heart, rather than make Zhang Songwen feel uneasy.

Perhaps many people think that this understanding is too "false", far less tangible than materially, but those who really understand understand that this is the real mutual confidant!

And in the same way, his "generosity" towards Zhu Dan is also a real gentleman's style.

When he met Zhu Dan, although Zhou Zhouwei was not as famous as the other party, Zhu Dan's past had a lot of public opinion influence on him.

For example, Zhu Dan's original family;

For example, Zhu Dan had a failed marriage;

For example, Zhu Dan was deceived into owing a huge debt;

But in the face of such Zhu Dan, Zhou Yiwei never had any doubts.

Zhu Dan was insecure, so he tried his best to protect her;

Zhu Dan owes a huge debt, and he tries to bear it with her;

Zhu Dan couldn't let go of the past, so he silently resolved her heart knot;

He said, I love Zhu Dan, who has experienced the past, and I only care about the present and future with her, as for the eyes and opinions of the outside world, it is not important to me.

Seeing such a week, many people may still not understand him, but they will have some admiration.

Although he is a little out of place with the public in terms of how he behaves in the world, or in some places, he is different from ordinary people's choices, but the pattern and mind of Zhou Zhou are really unusual.

For example, he and Zhang Songwen have known each other for 23 years, from friends to confidants, they are the same as back then.

Zhang Songwen said that he was very comfortable with Zhou Zhouwei as friends, although they have different personalities and different views on things, neither of them will force the other party to change.

Give each other space, but understand and respect each other.

For example, he and Zhu Dan have been married so far, no matter what kind of wind and rain and pressure they face, they are unswerving.

From paying off Zhu Dan's debts when he was in love, to being misunderstood by the outside world because of Zhu Dan after marriage, even if he was ridiculed and ridiculed by the whole network, Zhou Yiwei has never changed.

He never thought to explain or change the outside world's perception of himself, he just stuck to his own world.

In his words, "What outsiders think must be true? If you know it's not, why bother yourself?"

In addition to not caring about himself, the most touching thing about him is his persuasion and enlightenment to Zhu Dan.

Zhou Yiwei once said that he has always felt that the world is cold and cruel, but Zhu Dan, a "little earth girl", can always maintain his simplicity to the world, so he will protect Zhu Dan and protect Zhu Dan's simplicity for the rest of his life.

Therefore, he never asked Zhu Dan to change anything, even if he was misunderstood by the whole network, he did not complain or reprimand, but did everything according to fate, just to be worthy of my heart.

Seeing such a Zhou Wei, we can probably understand why Zhu Dan and Zhang Songwen love "Mr. Zhou" so much!

Although he has some "double standards" for the two of them in many things, among these "double standards" is Zhou Yiwei's respect and understanding for the two.

In life, if you can meet a confidant like Zhou Zhouwei and a husband like him, you will probably feel that you are lucky to have three lives!