I just went to see my dad at the nursing home yesterday, and I wasn't going to go today, I'm going to go again tomorrow. Unexpectedly, at three o'clock this afternoon, my dad called me.
He said on the phone that he didn't eat lunch at noon, that the people at the nursing home didn't ask him to eat, that he was still hungry, and that I asked him to bring him something to eat.
As soon as I heard my father say that I hadn't eaten lunch until 3 o'clock in the afternoon, I couldn't sit still at home, so I went to the cake shop at the door to buy a few cakes, and went to the nursing home to ask what was going on.
I got to the nursing home, pushed open the room where my dad was staying, and saw that my dad wasn't sleeping in the bed, I walked around the hallway and didn't find my dad, so I went to the dining room to look for him.
When I arrived at the restaurant, I saw several elderly people in wheelchairs watching TV, and my dad was also sitting there watching TV.
I called out to my dad, and my dad turned his head to see that it was me coming, and said to me: "Did you bring me food, I was so hungry, I didn't eat at noon today, and no one asked me to eat."
I said, "What are you doing during dinner?" Why is no one asking you to eat?
My dad said: Last night, I ate two aloe vera capsules, this morning after eating, I pulled up my pants, the nurse changed my clothes, I lay down on the bed and slept, when they ate, they didn't call me, I didn't eat.
When I heard my dad say that, I went to the nurse who was taking care of him and asked why he didn't wake up during the meal.
The nurse was changing the nursing pads for the elderly in a room, and when she saw me going in, she asked me what was wrong.
I said to her: My dad called me three times and said that he didn't eat lunch, he was sleeping in bed, and when he was eating lunch, why didn't you call him?
The nurse looked confused, she said: Why didn't your dad eat lunch, he ate two buns at noon, ate a bowl of vegetables, and had lunch, I pushed him back to the room to sleep, he slept until half past two in the afternoon, I pushed him to the restaurant in a wheelchair to let him watch TV, uncle is confused today, right?
The nurse said my dad had lunch, my dad said he hadn't had lunch, and I didn't know who to believe, so I brought it up to take a look at the surveillance.
When the nurse heard me say that I wanted to see the surveillance, they asked a boy from the nursing home to lead me to the monitoring room, turn on the surveillance in my father's room, and play it back to me.
I saw from the surveillance that my dad was pushed back after dinner at about 7 o'clock in the morning, and he moved from his wheelchair to the bed, where he sat on the bed and fiddled with the radio.
After a while, he may feel uncomfortable, so he began to pull his pants, and it is estimated that by this time, he has already pulled them into his pants.
After a while, I saw the nurse come in, and the nurse took one look at my dad and took off the cotton pants and diapers that my dad was wearing.
She wiped my dad clean with toilet paper, changed him into a set of diapers and cotton pants, she looked over the bed and found that the bed was not dirty, so she let my dad lie on the bed.
At around 10:50 p.m., the nurse woke up my dad and pushed him out in a wheelchair, and pushed him back around 11:40.
The nursing home is open at 11 o'clock, and my dad should have come back from dinner, otherwise during this time, people would push him out to do something.
After my dad was pushed back, the nurse fed the old man who couldn't move on the bed next door, and my dad moved himself from the wheelchair to the bed, lay down on the bed and began to sleep.
Seeing this, everything was revealed, it was really my dad who was confused after getting up from sleep, not that the nurse didn't give him food.
I quickly found the nurse and apologized to her.
I said: My dad kept calling me this afternoon, saying that he didn't eat at noon, and I just came to the nursing home to bring him something to eat, it seems that he is really confused, sorry, I misunderstood you.
The nurse said: It's okay, among the eight people I care, there are three elderly people suffering from dementia, your father's symptoms are still mild, he sometimes talks nonsense, but most of the time he is still awake, you don't see the two old people in the next room scratching feces and urine every day, so it is difficult to serve.
I apologized to the nurse and I went to the restaurant to find my dad again, and I said to my dad: Why didn't you eat at noon, I just watched the video and saw you eat.
My dad said, "I ate?" I don't even remember what I ate, so maybe I forgot.
My dad's words made me cry and laugh, he said that I didn't eat, let me rush to the nursing home, and questioned the nurse a few words, and now he said that he forgot.
I gave the nurse a few cakes I brought, told her to put them on my dad's bedside table, and told him to eat one if he wanted to eat it, and if he didn't eat it for two days, he would let the nurse throw it away.
My dad was confused every day, and he didn't know how to throw away the cake when it went bad, and I couldn't let him learn what he did last time and eat it again. Next time I'll just let the caregiver supervise him.