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Preface
In the marriage relationship, there is such a saying: "It is difficult to recover when the water is overcome", "A good horse does not eat the grass back", "It is difficult to reunite after a broken mirror".
These all show that no matter how good the relationship is, as long as the two come to the point of divorce, then wanting to start over is tantamount to "difficult to get to the sky".
But such an iron law had an accident in the "chess queen" Xie Jun.
The birth of the "chess queen".
It is said that it is necessary to become famous as soon as possible, and Xie Jun interpreted this sentence to the end.
Xie Jun was born in a Kochi family, her father was a labor and management cadre at Beijing 878 Factory, and her mother was an electronic engineer who graduated from Tsinghua University.
It's a pity that his father and mother don't work in the same place, and at the end of the year, Xie Jun sees his father only a handful of times.
But children are eager for their father's love, and when they were young, they couldn't understand the hardships of their parents' work, so Xie Jun often argued with his mother for "Dad".
In order to appease Xie Jun, his mother bought a pair of checkers to divert Xie Jun's attention.
I didn't expect this to be very successful.
Checkers successfully attracted Xie Jun's attention, and his mother often played with her, and many times deliberately let her have one or two children, and Xie Jun was greatly encouraged by the small victory.
However, what is surprising is that it didn't take long for her mother to find out that Xie Jun could win without her giving up her son, and even made her feel a sense of oppression.
Xie Jun's mother was pleasantly surprised by the change in her daughter, and then began to teach her carefully.
What's even happier is that the mother and daughter soon ended their life of living alone and became an enviable family of three.
Xie Jun's mother was soon transferred to Beijing to work, and the family no longer had to endure the pain of separation, and Xie Jun could see his father every day.
At that time, Xie's father liked to play chess in his spare time.
Whenever Xie's father played chess with a friend, Xie Jun would move a small bench to watch his father play, and slowly she also understood the rules of chess.
Father Xie saw that Xie Jun was interested in chess, so he bought her a pair of chess, and she was only 6 years old at that time.
After that, she often played chess with her father, and when her parents were busy, she played chess with herself.
Over time, Xie Jun's title of chess magic power also spread nearby.
This also attracted the attention of the leaders of the Beijing Chess Academy, and then found Xie Jun to give her professional guidance.
At the age of 10, Xie Jun won the Beijing Children's Chinese Chess Championship.
After seeing Xie Jun's talent in chess, the coach decided to let Xie Jun learn Xi chess.
At that time, the world chess championship had always been occupied by Europe, and no one in China and even Asia had won the championship for decades.
Seeing Xie Jun's talent, the coach was moved by compassion.
Fortunately, Xie Jun is really talented, and although chess is different from Chinese chess, Xie Jun is still very quick to get started.
Xie Jun has a quick mind and a changeable chess path, and he has not studied for long, and there are few opponents in China.
In 1982, two years after practicing Xi chess, Xie Jun won the individual championship in the national competition.
This signal undoubtedly gave Xie Jun more confidence and also allowed her to set a bigger goal, the World Champion.
After that, during the daily practice Xi, Xie Jun ran towards this goal.
At that time, Xie Jun sat all day, which should have been a lively and active age, but in order to study chess and be invincible in front of stronger opponents, she practiced chess every day without sleep and food, and watched more chess games to maintain the variability of her chess path.
In 1985, at the age of 15, Xie Jun was promoted to chess grandmaster.
In 1988, at the age of 18, Xie Jun finished fourth in the World Youth Chess Championship and was promoted to the rank of Grandmaster of Women's Chess.
Don't look at Xie Jun's young age, but she has the characteristics that a young man should have: "The first bull calf is not afraid of tigers".
In the 1991 chess competition, Xie Jun became an opponent with former Soviet player Maya Ciburdanidze.
Who is Maya Ziburdanidze?
A legend who has defended his World Title five times.
Against such a powerful character, what will be the ending of Xie Jun?
Everyone sweated for Xie Jun, but she, the client, turned a blind eye.
It was a thrilling game.
In the first three games, Xie Jun was quick in thinking and took the lead, which made her feel very relaxed, but the next game was a bit bad, and Xie Jun's mentality was also a little confused.
In the next game, Xie Jun hung up the exemption card, she readjusted her mentality, quickly passed all the chess games in her mind, and the coach also helped her formulate a strategic policy again.
After the adjustment, when facing the opponent who won five consecutive championships, Xie Jun changed his previous weakness and defeated the opponent 8.5:6.5, becoming the first women's chess world champion, and breaking the record of not having a record in Asia for many years.
After that, Xie Jun made a breakthrough in chess and achieved a lot of results.
She won the women's chess world championship four times in 1994, 1993, 1999 and 2000.
In 1998, 2000 and 2004, she won the women's team team championship in the Chess Olympiad.
Now he has become the vice president in charge of scientific research at the Beijing Institute of Sport and the vice president of the FIDE.
Xie Jun, who has such achievements in chess, has twists and turns emotionally.
After chess, marry a sparring man
Xie Jun's chess talent is undoubted, but if he wants to stand out in the women's chess game, then he needs to have the meticulousness of women, and he needs the macro and strength of men.
I have to admit that there are still differences in the brain composition of men and women.
Ye Jiangchuan, chairman of the Chinese Chess Association, saw this very clearly, so he arranged a male coach to be a sparring partner for Xie Jun early.
This person is Wu Shaobin, who is also Xie Jun's later husband.
Wu Shaobin and Xie Jun have known each other for a long time, but they have never had a deep intersection.
And Wu Shaobin is not as talented as Xie Jun, he just became a very ordinary chess player in the national team.
This time as a sparring partner, I met Xie Jun again, and this was the intertwining of the fates of the two.
At that time, Xie Jun had already become a world champion, and his value and status were much higher than Wu Shaobin.
But she still plunged into chess, especially after having Wu Shaobin as a sparring partner, Xie Jun's thinking and pattern opened up a lot, and she also understood the difference between men and women when playing chess.
The two can be said to be chess opponents and sympathize with each other, and they are often "inseparable" because of a game of chess.
In addition to playing chess every day, the most enjoyable time for the two of them is probably a walk after dinner.
Immersed in chess for a day, the walk time after dinner is undoubtedly the most relaxed, the two young people chatted all over the world, and then fell in love for a long time.
It can be said that the two have similar interests and are in love, and they have established a romantic relationship.
Many people said that Xie Jun had lost money, and she could find a better one on her terms.
But Xie Jun believes that the external conditions can be ignored, Wu Shaobin is the "only" in her eyes, especially when he wears a pair of glasses and looks gentle and elegant, which is the type of Xie Jun's heartbeat.
And Wu Shaobin has the same feelings for Xie Jun, the two play every day, looking at the smart eyes of the girl in front of him, he is moved.
In 1994, Xie Jun and Wu Shaobin entered the palace of marriage.
The early years of marriage were probably the sweetest time spent by the two.
After marriage, the two women sang with their husbands, Wu Shaobin continued to be a sparring partner for Xie Jun, and Xie Jun also continued to work chess.
But with the continuous contact, the problems between the two were also exposed.
In particular, the outside world's call for Xie Jun is getting higher and higher, and Xie Jun is carrying more and more burdens.
She didn't want to disappoint everyone and could only spend more time on chess.
But at this time, she forgot that in addition to being a world champion, she is also a wife.
If you spend a lot of time on chess, you are destined to spend less time on your family, and in the long run, your marital status is bound to be problematic.
The problem between two people is not obvious at first, but how can they have a child's play.
Because Xie Jun spends all her time studying chess all year round, she is not good at housework, let alone taking care of the family.
So parents are often chickens and dogs, messy, not like a normal family at all.
Coupled with the neglect of her husband, Wu Shaobin couldn't bear it.
If it is only because of housework, the two will not be able to get divorced, the key is the gap between their careers.
At work, Xie Jun is a world chess champion that everyone admires.
And Wu Shaobin is an unknown male sparring partner.
At work, he wants to fully support Xie Jun, but emotionally, he is a husband who needs to be cared for, a man who needs a wife.
He also wants to make a breakthrough in his work, and at the same time he also wants to have a normal family, in order to support Xie Jun's work, the two have been married for many years and have no children.
After being suppressed by this feeling for a long time, Wu Shaobin finally collapsed.
In 1998, Wu Shaobin divorced Xie Jun.
He then quit his job in China and went to Singapore on his own.
Wu Shaobin's dream was to become a chess grandmaster, and he has worked hard for it ever since.
Without any previous baggage, Wu Shaobin's progress seemed to be rapid, and he soon became famous in the world.
Although Xie Jun divorced Wu Shaobin, she has been paying attention to Wu Shaobin's situation, and Xie Jun is also very happy to see him realize his dream.
At this time, she knew that she had neglected Wu Shaobin before.
Similarly, while Wu Shaobin has achieved greater achievements, he also feels the pressure of the burden on his shoulders, and he has a better understanding of Xie Jun's choice.
Both of them have become clearer after leaving, and they also understand the preciousness of each other.
At that time, the two were able to understand each other from each other's point of view, and their relationship seemed to return to the time when they first met.
In 2003, the two got back together.
After remarrying, Xie Jun is full of energy, and he is more decisive in chess.
did not ignore his responsibilities in the family in life, and paid more attention to Wu Shaobin's physical and mental health.
And Wu Shaobin also continued his career.
Soon after remarriage, the two gave birth to the crystallization of love, making this loving family more warm.
epilogue
Today, Xie Jun has been running to her beloved chess, and her achievements should not be underestimated.
President of Beijing Chess Academy, Vice President of Capital Institute of Physical Education, Vice President of FIDE
Her family is equally happy.
Although there were many twists and turns in the relationship when they were young, fortunately, both of them can understand the preciousness after losing again, and the lost and regained feelings will make people know how to cherish it more.
Therefore, people in marriage are often confused by the authorities, thinking that the divorce is caused by a big event, and they will find that it is not a matter after they really leave.
Resources:
Xie Jun: Baidu Encyclopedia
Hunan Satellite TV: A legendary figure in "The Party's Daughter".
People's Daily