The division of parenting responsibilities between parents has always been a sensitive topic in family relationships. The recent White Paper on Family Parenting revealed a worrying phenomenon: more than 55% of families have mothers as the main childcare force, while fathers account for only 12.6%. This not only affects the growth of children, but also raises questions about mothers' parenting ability. This article will provide an in-depth look at the reasons why dads are absent from parenting, and offer some practical tips to guide and help dads become more involved in parenting.
Why is Dad absent?
1. Carelessness
Some mothers jokingly said: "My husband takes care of the children, and the main theme is 'just to live'." "Carelessness is one of the main reasons why dads are ostracized by their moms. In some cases, the father's inattentiveness may even lead to the child's safety and make the mother feel more anxious.
2. Mom's disapproval of Dad's parenting ability
In the "Survey Report on the Distribution of Parents in Family Childcare", more than 60% of mothers believe that "their husbands are not the material for taking care of their children". This notion of disapproval can lead to dads losing motivation in parenting matters, creating a vicious circle.
3. Mom's "Gatekeeper Mentality"
Mothers gain a sense of self-worth by taking care of their children and household chores, forming a "gatekeeper mentality" and are reluctant to let their dads intervene. This makes it difficult for dads to find the right role in parenting matters.
Risk of "widowed parenting".
Due to the above reasons, many mothers prefer to choose "widowed parenting" and take on all the childcare responsibilities themselves. This not only leads to an imbalance in the division of responsibilities among families, but also leads to a lack of fatherly companionship for children, affecting their physical and mental growth.
How to solve the problem?
1. Let go and give dad a chance
Mothers need to learn to let go and give dads more opportunities to participate in parenting. Although it may be a little careless and un Xi accustomed at first, it is only through practice that dads can gradually master the skills of parenting.
2. Lead, not negate
Mothers should pay attention to ways and means when guiding fathers. Don't directly deny the father's parenting style, but guide them to gradually master the skills and experience of parenting.
3. Maintain a harmonious atmosphere in the family
Whether it is a father or a mother, you need to manage your emotions well and try to avoid conflicts in front of your children. A harmonious family atmosphere is essential for a child's development.
epilogue
The active participation of fathers in parenting is not only a responsibility for the development of their children, but also an investment in the well-being of the family. While cultivating fathers' awareness of parenting, mothers should also give them more support and encouragement at the right time. Only when family members work together to build a happy family can children truly benefit and welcome a better future.