How to make children fall in love with reading from an early age is a difficult problem for many parents.
The author of this book tells all parents through his own experience of fighting wits and courage with children in the process of reading together, but without losing the warmth:
The first result of parent-child reading is failure.
But as long as the parents turn the picture books like the industrious old farmer who turns the soil in silence and without demand, the children will surely bloom from their souls to echo you.
In the final analysis, reading together is not about "reading", but only a "path" to the soul.
The most important thing about a whale ride is to find and experience each other with tender hearts.
As long as children feel the love and being loved in the process of reading, let truth and beauty come to their hearts, and let the fantasy kingdom take root in their souls, then even if they only read a book, this whale riding trip is wonderful and special.
Correct cognition of parent-child co-reading
First of all, parents should correct their understanding of parent-child reading: parent-child reading is not a Xi task, it is no different from building blocks together, watching the tide together, and amusement park together;
The purpose of reading picture books together is definitely not the picture book itself, but to reach a tacit understanding with the world.
The act of reading picture books together is to let go of picture books and face the world.
Secondly, when the road of parent-child reading is opened, parents must be prepared for a protracted battle: for an ordinary mother (or father), parent-child reading is particularly energy-consuming and emotional, more expensive (in comparison), and requires great self-confidence and determination to support the way forward.
Find children's interests when reading together: at the beginning, we often turn to the page that children will definitely be interested in, and they prefer to keep repeating "those few" or even "that page" stories; Defending their interest is really much more important than getting them to finish a book like an adult. ”
Since each child is different, it is inevitable that parents will encounter some failures when they graft those widely promoted co-reading lists onto any child.
What parents have to do is to happily accept failure: I have always believed that the first result of parent-child reading is to keep throwing down books and constantly failing.
Returning to the picture books themselves, in co-reading, many times parents read to their children not "too little", but "too much".
We are burdened with too much morality and experience, too much deception in the past, and too many complaints left by life in reading, and parent-child reading needs to minimize moral judgment.
A truly natural and open mind does not need to be fettered by right and wrong.
Give your child plenty of time to let go and experience the world on his own
"Children need to realize that there is a good side to the soul of all things, that life is witty, and that love will win everywhere – not just in the hearts of good people. ”
Every story and every event, different people will always seem to have different feelings.
A child can first and foremost be a person with the ability to think independently, rather than following the crowd.
Therefore, parents try not to force their subjective consciousness on them.
"Give your child enough time to let him experience the world on his own and communicate with all things in the world.
Let him discover himself, slowly, even frustratedly, according to his own course, the beauty and the ugliness. ”
In life, we often encounter many situations like this:
"In my experience, you can't do anything" "I've eaten more salt than you've walked......"
"If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you" and so on.
It is undeniable that many times the people who say these words are also genuinely for your own good, and they do their best to keep you from taking the detours they have taken, and want you to be able to walk on a smooth and smooth road.
But everyone is different, and many times, what you want is not what others want in life.
Life is full of wonders and unknowns, and no matter what you become in the future, every possibility is worth savoring.
Therefore, as a mother, although it is not easy, although it is very necessary to have courage and restraint, try not to impose her own assumptions on her child, every possibility, every attempt, let her be free to break through and wait patiently.
One day, your child will slowly step out of his own and free path.
Parent-child reading is more than just reading together
The choice of reading materials must be of interest to children, maybe children's hobbies are only staged, but interest is the best teacher.
Children can only integrate emotions into what they like, and they can interact with their parents, so that they can invisibly shorten the distance between each other.
When reading together, you must carefully observe the child's performance, because the child is too young to be able to accurately express his thoughts, at this time can only rely on the visual observation and guessing of the parents.
In the face of the child's doubts, we must use rhetorical questions to ask him, or use the expression of what is read to make necessary expressions, such as children can not distinguish between chickens and ducks, at this time parents can use sound to distinguish them, to strengthen children's comprehension.
When the child is adapting, parents must ask the child appropriate questions, such as: why is this happening, why is this so, will it be like that, and so on.
This will also motivate the child to think, whether his answer is yes or no, it will allow him to think. His judgment of the future is also excellent.
Although the focus is on strengthening the education of children, there are also many requirements for parents, such as patience, thinking, performance, etc., which is a great challenge for novice parents.
Communication and interaction with children need to stand in their position and use their thinking to look at the problem, so that there will be no generation gap, and children will prefer to be closer to themselves, which is also a purpose of parent-child reading, and it also requires a certain amount of persistence.
Write at the end
The purpose of our reading is not to force children to read how many books, but to spend their minds in the process of reading, feel the joy of reading, read slowly, and let children fall in love with reading.
Reading is a slow process, and it will not be successful in a day or two to establish parent-child co-reading, and it takes a long time for children to understand a book, and sometimes children will ask to read a book many times.
Don't be utilitarian in reading, parent-child reading is more of a process for mothers to accompany their children, not to compare who reads more books, but to explore the magical world in a book with children.
In the final analysis, reading together is not about "reading", but only a "path" to the soul.
The most important thing about whale riding is to find and experience together with each other's gentle hearts, to find and experience this life and this world that you and your children really need.
Parent-child reading is the most tender background color in a child's life.