Lin Yutang said:
"The word loneliness is taken apart, there are children, melons and fruits, dogs, mosquitoes and flies, which are enough to support the mouth of an alley in a midsummer evening, full of human feelings. If none of it has anything to do with you, it's called loneliness. ”
In life, we may have to understand the reality that truly mature people are not deliberately reckless and show their strength.
On the contrary, they know how to show weakness in the crowd, and showing weakness is an important wisdom for survival. Only the truly strong can do it.
Only by knowing how to face difficulties and bowing your head appropriately will you reduce your losses.
Giving yourself more time to start again is a sign of maturity.
And blindly being stubborn, in the end, it is yourself who will hurt the most, and this kind of behavior is childish.
I've heard a quote like this:
"The weak are furious like tigers, and the strong are calm like water. ”
I think so.
When the weak encounter provocation, they are always afraid that others will underestimate them, so they show their strength by anger.
Not so for the strong.
When they encounter provocations, they can calmly face them and weigh the pros and cons.
Choosing to back down is not cowardice, but a wisdom.
A person's real strength is not to stand up and fight regardless of everything, but to "control anger" for the sake of "his will", to be able to endure what others cannot endure, and to be able to have thunder in his chest, but his face is like a peaceful lake.
When encountering "provocation", it is instinct to be angry, and to be able to control anger and not to be angry is the ability.
Knowing the current affairs and knowing the advance and retreat is a sign of a strong person's heart.
When we were young, we all had a lot of ambitions, we wanted to be scientists, we wanted to be pilots, we wanted to be writers, but when we grew up, we realized that the ideals were beautiful and the reality was skinny.
Later, you will slowly understand that there are more than one person who works hard in this world, someone gains and someone loses, and sometimes admitting mistakes and admitting defeat is a bad thing.
Later, you will slowly understand that some things are not something that you can succeed if you work hard, not every effort will be rewarded, and not every true love will be rewarded, love but not can be the norm, and separation is also the norm.
However, it is precisely because everything cannot go smoothly and life is full of uncertainties that this kind of lack of beauty is even more desirable.
Write at the end
Admit that you are not strong, even if you work hard, you will not satisfy everyone, admit that you are not indestructible, and you want to rest when you are tired.
In the second half of life, let yourself go. Don't be strong, don't be hard, don't be reluctant, so that you can live a good life easily and comfortably.