"Dad, you're not ashamed!"
Grandpa Zhang has been living alone since the death of his wife, and in the past 8 years, he also wanted to find someone to accompany him, but he was strongly opposed by his children.
Life is very boring, he had to "find a partner" outside, and in a few years, he came into contact with five women, and there were no safety measures, so these things were naturally carried out without his children.
It wasn't until three months ago that he began to have frequent fevers, and soon after taking medicine, he had a fever again, which made him feel that something was wrong and went to the hospital for a check-up, which was actually found to be AIDS.
I had no choice but to inform my children. The son found it difficult to understand that his father was suffering from AIDS, and even wanted to cut off relations with him directly, feeling ashamed. Grandpa Zhang has an unspeakable ......#文章首发挑战赛#
In recent years, the number of elderly AIDS patients in mainland China has been rising, which has a lot to do with the lack of attention to the sexual needs of the elderly. When people are old, do they really not need sex?
1. When you get older, can't couples have sex?
Many people scoff at the sexual needs of the elderly, and will give a lot of moral terms, such as old and improper, late and unsafe, etc., resulting in the elderly can not formalize their own needs, and can only relieve their desires through some unconventional means, which will directly lead to an increase in the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases among the elderly.
Pan Suiming, director of the Institute of Sexual Sociology of Chinese University, pointed out in "Leaving Historical Evidence for "Whole Sex" that 53% of the elderly aged 55~61 in mainland China have sex once a month, and 39% can have sex three times a month. It turns out that the libido of the elderly is always there.
As for how old the elderly can have sex, there is no unified answer. It is mainly related to the physical state of the elderly, some people are not old but their physical fitness is not good, and they may not be able to have sex for a long time, and some people are older, but their physical fitness is better, and they can still have sex at a very old age.
According to sexual medicine research data, a significant proportion of the elderly can continue their sex life until they are over 70 years old.
According to the Global Report on Ageing and Health released by the World Health Organization in 2016, 73% of the subjects surveyed aged 57~64 were sexually active, 53% were 65~74 years old, and 26% were 75~85 years old. In the highest age group, 23% of sexually active participants had sex at least once a week.
Second, the elderly may be able to reap these great benefits if they have sex properly
A survey was conducted in Taiwan that divided couples into two groups, one group had good sex and the other group had no or little sex life. After 14 years of follow-up, 80 per cent of sexually active couples were found to be alive for women and 72 per cent for men, while the survival rates for the other group were 50 per cent and 40 per cent, respectively.
In fact, there are many similar studies, all of which point out that moderate, good, and healthy sex life is good for health. Specifically, there are four main benefits.
1. Delay aging
The pleasant feeling during intercourse helps to promote endocrine and metabolism, and has certain benefits for delaying the rate of aging.
2. Improve sleep quality
Proper marital life can help the hypothalamus secrete a large amount of oxytocin, which can relieve problems such as back pain and neurasthenia, and help improve sleep quality.
3. Enhance immunity
Many people don't know that sex is actually an exercise that can exercise the whole body, helping the elderly get enough exercise, which is good for improving immunity and promoting physical health.
4. Stimulate the increase of testosterone
Sexual function requires adequate sex hormones to maintain, and proper sexual intercourse can help boost testosterone, which is good for enhancing sexual function, improving bone density, and preventing osteoporosis.
Third, the elderly have a sexual life, these four issues must be paid attention to
Although sex can bring many benefits, there are also many precautions when having sex, and these things must be paid attention to.
1. Do what you can
Compared with young people, the physical strength of the elderly will naturally be poorer, so when having sex, we should pay attention to what we can and do not act too violently, so as not to induce accidents.
2. Do not use drugs blindly
Decreased sexual performance is a very normal phenomenon in old age, so it is not recommended for the elderly to blindly take medication in order to improve their sexual performance. Indiscriminate use of drugs may affect cardiovascular and cerebrovascular health, and even accidents may occur.
3. Control the frequency
The frequency of intercourse should be selected according to one's own physical fitness, so that the next morning does not feel tired, if you wake up the next day with obvious fatigue, it is recommended to reduce the number of times.
4. Pay attention to aftercare
For the sake of your own health and that of your partner, you should do a good job of cleaning before and after intercourse to reduce the chance of cross-infection. It is recommended to rinse the area with warm water and do not use the cleaning solution frequently.
The elderly, like the young, have the same sexual needs, and they should be treated with the right mindset and not with colored glasses!
Resources:
[1] "The Elderly Do Not Deserve to Have Sex", Tencent Medical Dictionary, 2020-07-23
[2] "The Sexual Needs of the Neglected Elderly!They Also Have the Right to Pursue Sex and Love!". Health Times 2020-08-24
[3] "Gender | The truth about the sex life of the elderly, don't be shy, learn about it is good for the body", Health Circle 2019-10-21
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