In a family, the relationship between parents and children is very important. This relationship will determine whether the child will want to maintain a close bond with his or her parents when he or she grows up.
So, how do we know if our children will be close to us in the future? This question can be answered from the relationship between us and our children, which can be divided into two main types: caring relationships and attachment relationships.
A caregiving relationship refers to the basic care and concern between parents and children, such as providing food and clothing. If we only stay in this caring relationship, then the connection between us and our children may only stay on the surface.
In this case, the child may not feel the love of the parents, as we may manifest more as preaching, controlling, blaming, and denial. Although this does not mean that we do not love our children, they may distance themselves from us because they do not feel this love.
Attachment relationships, on the other hand, refer to intimate relationships on an emotional level.
If we can spend quality time with our children, give them unconditional love and support, allow them to be independent individuals, respect their feelings and ideas, and give them support and guidance when they need it, then our relationship with our children will be stronger.
The more equality, respect, and trust in a relationship, the better the attachment relationship will be. Such intimacy can make children grow up willing to stay in touch with their parents and are more likely to form a deep emotional bond with us.
To establish such an attachment relationship, parents need to put in more effort and attention. We should pay attention to the emotional needs of our children and try to avoid over-blaming their mistakes, but guide them on how to correct them.
We need to give our children enough freedom and independence so that they can feel our trust and support. In addition, it is also very important to have a real and equal communication with children, respecting their opinions and ideas so that they feel valued and valued.
In conclusion, to determine whether a child will grow up to be close to their parents, a healthy attachment relationship needs to be established.
Parents should give their children love and support while respecting their independence. Only on the basis of equality, respect and trust can the relationship between parents and children become closer and closer, and children will grow up to be willing to maintain close ties with their parents!