My 67-year-old grandfather lived at his son-in-law's house for a year, and his daughter suddenly cried and said, "Dad, please go back quickly." This simple sentence lingered in my heart.
For the past year, I have been living at my son-in-law's house, and because my daughter gave birth to a child and I am in good health, I stayed to help take care of my grandson. My daughter and son-in-law go out to work, and I take care of my grandson's daily life. My daughter-in-law has always been kind and filial to me, but my daughter's words made me fall into deep thought.
I wondered, am I here affecting their lives? But I've always felt like I'm sharing the responsibilities of the family for them, and I've said that I'll leave when they settle down. But now my daughter's attitude has suddenly changed, and I am starting to feel a little overwhelmed.
That night, I couldn't sleep for a long time thinking about my daughter's words. At this moment, my daughter called, and she whispered, "Dad, I'm sorry, what I said yesterday was too impulsive." We appreciate that you stayed at home to help. But we're also worried that you're not comfortable living here alone. ”
I felt a warmth in my heart, and my daughter continued: "Dad, you must know that we don't want you to be around, but we are just worried that you will be alone. We'll take a leave of absence tomorrow and accompany you back to your hometown, okay?"
Hearing my daughter's words made me feel much more relaxed. I know it's not that she doesn't want me to be around, she's just worried about me alone. I also agreed to my daughter's proposal, so our family of three rushed back to our hometown together. Now, I sit in the courtyard of my hometown, thinking about this year's life, and my heart is full of emotion. In life, there are always various problems to face, and only by understanding each other can we get along harmoniously as a family. This day also made me more aware of the affection between my family, and I felt happy and satisfied with the warm sunshine on my face.
As time went on, I slowly Xi the life of returning to my hometown. With my daughter and son-in-law by my side, I feel very happy. However, the good times didn't last long, and a chance chat made me know that my son-in-law had been having trouble at work recently and was at risk of being laid off by the company.
My daughter tried to hide the news in front of me, but her nervousness and anxiety were hard to hide. She stayed up all night every day in worry, afraid that I would be worried when I found out. However, I can't pretend I don't know anything. The situation became more and more serious, the son-in-law's originally mild temperament became irritable and suspicious, and the atmosphere in the house became tense.
I decided to find a chance to talk to my son-in-law. One day, when my daughter was out on errands, I left the opportunity to chat alone with my son-in-law. "Kid, I know you've been having some trouble at work lately. "I tried to open with a calm tone.
The son-in-law frowned and looked at me, and sighed softly: "Old man, don't worry about these things, you are so old, let's take care of yourself more." ”
I smiled slightly, "Although I am old, I should still care about family affairs." Besides, I've been through ups and downs, and maybe I can help you a little. ”
The son-in-law was silent for a moment, as if thinking about my words. Eventually, he spoke out about his troubles. It turned out that although he wanted to solve the problems at work as soon as possible, he was worried that my daughter and I would worry about him and increase our burden. Faced with family pressure, he became more and more negative and suspicious.
After listening to what he had to say, I knew it in my heart. I gently patted him on the shoulder, "Don't worry, kid. Our family is not an individual who works in isolation, but a team that should support each other. If you have difficulties, we will share them together. I have cared for you when you need it most, and I should be there for you in your difficult times. ”
These words seemed to make the son-in-law feel a little relieved, and he showed a smile that he had not seen for a long time. Our conversation is still going on, and I don't have a way to help my son-in-law in a way that is rewarded by my years of work experience, but I firmly believe that sitting down and talking and sharing it with my family is what I can do, the most important thing. Gradually, the family returned to a state of relative peace. This difficulty may be an opportunity for spiritual growth, and the family affection will become stronger as the difficulties are faced together. This may also be the belief in love that we have been trying to uphold for the sake of our own family.
These days, I have a great time with my daughter's family in my hometown. Every morning, I like to get up and take a walk on the trails around my hometown. One morning, as soon as I walked out of the house, I saw several elderly people chatting after returning from morning exercise, and I couldn't help but sigh in my heart. Looking back on the time at my son-in-law's house, I often went out to exercise and often communicated with the old people in the neighborhood, but this year, although I was with my daughter's family, I lacked this communication with my peers.
So, I had an idea in my heart to persuade my son-in-law to go on a trip with me and exercise by the way. Unbeknownst to me, this proposal caused dissatisfaction among my son-in-law, who thought that my life was completely fine and there was no need to go out frequently. He was worried about my physical condition, and even more worried about me having an accident outside alone. Our argument intensified, and it turned into a big fight.
Seeing this, my daughter rushed to persuade me, and she calmed my emotions while communicating with her son-in-law. The son-in-law finally compromised, but the expression on his face was clearly not very willing.
I know that this quarrel may bring some subtle changes to the family, but I also hope that my thoughts will bring a little change to the family. There will always be contradictions in life, the key is that we must learn to understand and communicate with each other, and respect each other's ideas, which is the secret of family harmony.
It's been half a month since my family and I returned to my hometown, and these days, an argument with my son-in-law has become a knot in my heart. My son-in-law and I had a conflict over education. My daughter and son-in-law are busy with work, and I have been in charge of my grandson's education. However, my son-in-law thought that there was something wrong with my education method and that I was too spoiled by my grandson, which caused him to be a little willful. Although I am old, I am very stubborn when it comes to education. After the conflict, our relationship began to become strained.
This time, the contradiction was not resolved as quickly as usual. There is always a hint of awkwardness between us that is difficult to eliminate. Every conversation seemed a little evasive, and I began to try to avoid any contact with my son-in-law. However, whenever I see a conflict between my son-in-law and my daughter because of this incident, I am always very uneasy.
"Dad, this contradiction is not unsolvable, you have to take a step back. My daughter said to me, "We are all a family, and we shouldn't affect our relationship for such a small thing." ”
I thought about my daughter's words, took a deep breath, took the initiative to find my son-in-law, and frankly expressed my thoughts about my grandson's education. The son-in-law also revealed his concerns, and after we made a heart-to-heart relationship, the relationship gradually eased.
During this period, I also carefully observed my daughter-in-law's behavior and found that she was also a little depressed and did not like to talk. I know that she is also very concerned about this family conflict, but she has been suppressing herself. I decided to sit down with my daughter-in-law and communicate sincerely. After some communication, it turned out that the daughter-in-law had been taking care of the family because of the pressure of work. She also needs the company and support of her family, which makes me feel distressed.
Now, our family laughs and laughs every day, walks together, cooks together, and the relationship has become more harmonious. I have learned that every member of the family has their own anxieties and troubles, and only by tolerating, understanding and communicating together can the family become more harmonious and happy. I feel that I should be the glue of the family and solve problems for the family. I thought, maybe that's what I'm responsible for at my age.