Preface
In 2000, an elderly man in his sixties underwent a high-profile heart transplant in Heilongjiang and received a young man's heart. However, the astonishing changes after the operation are unbelievable - not only has the old man's temperament changed drastically, but his appearance is getting younger and younger, and what is even more surprising is that he has fallen madly in love with writing, and he wrote 99 poems in three months!
Why did he have such a change?
1. An introverted teenager who fled from the war
In 1943, Yang Mengyong was born in an ordinary family in Shandong. That year was a critical period of the War of Resistance Against Japan, and the artillery fire was flying and the people were devastated. Yang Mengyong's parents decided to leave their hometown with him before he was one year old, and began a long career of refugee.
The world is difficult, and the family has endured hardships during the journey, but they have not escaped the scorching heat of the war after all. Yang Mengyong was traumatized by the destruction of his family, and this memory of blood and fire became his nightmare childhood. His personality gradually showed a cowardly and cringing side, and he became prone to low self-esteem and was not good at words.
Fortunately, Yang Mengyong's uncle found him after the war, took him back to his hometown, and dragged him to grow up alone. But even when he returned to his hometown, Yang Mengyong's childhood was not easy and happy, and his perennial displacement left a deep shadow on his heart.
His uncle was ambitious and had high hopes for him, but Yang Mengyong really couldn't become the young talent he wanted. His uncle's reprimands and ridicule gradually aggravated the wounds in his heart. The trauma continued into his adulthood, when he met Li Guangping at the age of 19 and soon registered his marriage with her.
Second, the personality is not harmonious, and the cold war has been fought for many years
The life after marriage is not as happy and happy as Yang Mengyong imagined. Li Guangping has a strong personality, moody, and often does not choose to speak. She couldn't understand Yang Mengyong's introversion and inferiority, and saw his withdrawal as cowardice. Yang Mengyong is a gentle and elegant person, and in the face of his wife's accusations and misunderstandings, he often chooses to remain silent.
This ineffective way of communication soon intensified the conflict in the married life of the two and caused a lot of rifts. Yang Mengyong wants a warm home, and Li Guangping's temper is difficult to get along with, which makes him feel pressured. As a result, quarrels and the Cold War gradually became the norm in their lives.
"I can't stand it anymore, let's get a divorce. Yang Mengyong has proposed to Li Guangping many times to break up, but she has refused. According to the social environment at that time, divorce hit women hard, and Li Guangping did not want to become a loser in the eyes of everyone. So Yang Mengyong could only continue to live with her and raise three children together.
Twenty years of marriage, except for the first year or two, was quite harmonious, and the rest of the years were spent in the Cold War. Yang Mengyong's desire to part with a new life has never disappeared.
3. Both were infected and their lives were in danger
In 1980, Yang Mengyong was diagnosed with a serious heart attack, and his physical condition deteriorated. He was covered in unnatural bruises, his limbs were swollen, and he could no longer support himself to walk. Yang Mengyong had to stay on bed rest, and angina made him breathless. The doctor's diagnosis is that the survival period is not more than 1 year.
At the same time, Li Guangping also had symptoms of hyperthyroidism. She has an increasingly violent temper and is tired all day, and even the slightest thing can cause emotion. At once, two major patients appeared at the same time, which made this already discordant family even worse.
Yang Mengyong said to himself that he was bored in life, and it was better to end the pain quickly. Although Li Guangping has a bad temper, she still harbors hope. She was almost supporting this crumbling home with a hint of thought. During the days of taking medicine, infusions, and hospitalization, she tried her best to raise expenses.
Looking at her husband on the sickbed, Li Guangping felt very uncomfortable. Doctors eventually diagnosed that Yang Mengyong would only live for another year at most, and that the symptoms of heart failure had left him in agony all day.
This year, Yang Mengyong had a good time. He began to think about the meaning of life, and in the midst of his illness, he truly understood his wife's dedication and forbearance over the years. Li Guangping is not a vicious and mean person, she also has her own fragile and kind side.
Fourth, gamble on life and successfully change your heart
Facing the call of death, Yang Mengyong had a strong desire to survive in his heart. He decided to take his life and undergo a high-risk heart transplant. When he learned that he had found a matching donor heart, 57-year-old Yang Mengyong mustered up all his courage and stepped onto the operating table.
It was a gamble of fate, and success and failure could be a matter of thought. Nervousness, anxiety, and uneasiness followed. Under the doctor's blade, Yang Mengyong could only leave all his fear and despair behind. Finally, after a thrilling six-hour operation, Yang Mengyong miraculously survived, and his life was extended.
That heart belonged to a 26-year-old young man, at the height of his vitality. After the operation was completely successful, Yang Mengyong felt as if his body was full of youthful vitality. With the beating of his new heart, he felt like a different person.
Fifth, the temperament has changed greatly, and the wife is leaving
During the postoperative recovery period, Yang Mengyong became enthusiastic and energetic. He is more proactive than ever and shows a grumpy side. Li Guangping was initially surprised by his change, and she thought that her husband was a little abnormal because he was too happy. However, soon, the drastic change in Yang Mengyong's personality forced her to face up to the variables that appeared in the family.
It was a night after crying, and Yang Mengyong suddenly had a strong feeling of sadness and couldn't stop crying. He was so emotional that he couldn't control himself, he cried all night long, and his eyes were red and swollen the next day. This is completely different from his past character. Since then, he has started to write diaries, compose poems, and enjoy basketball, gyms, and is full of the energy and impulses of young people.
What made Li Guangping even more unbearable was that Yang Mengyong's temper became irritable and irritable, and he was unstable all day long. He began to be unable to control himself, yelling at every turn, and losing his temper for no reason, which seriously affected his family life. Li Guangping understood that this was not the former Yang Mengyong, he was changed by that young heart.
After careful consideration, Li Guangping made a difficult decision - she wanted to divorce Yang Mengyong and give him freedom. Now Yang Mengyong is full of vitality, and she has lost her face. She didn't want to be a stumbling block to Yang Mengyong's happy life. So, in order to give her husband a new life, Li Guangping proposed to break up.
6. Look back with a smile and hold on to warmth
Looking back, the time spent with my wife is vivid. Yang Mengyong realized that he had been living in his own painful memories and ignoring his wife's feelings. It was she who did not choose to leave at the most difficult time, and it was she who supported this crumbling home with her hands. She knows better than anyone how much divorce hurts women. However, even so, she still chose to endure the pain and protect her husband. Because that's her fate. For the first time, Yang Mengyong truly realized the greatness of his wife.
"We have been through too many ups and downs, and you are the most important sustenance in my life. The corners of Yang Mengyong's eyes moistened, and he made a promise to his wife, this time sincerely. He will control the impulses brought by his young heart, he will be his original self, and he will cherish the friendship with his wife more in the second half of his life.
7. There is love in the heart, and life turns sorrow into joy
After adjusting his mentality, Yang Mengyong's life has undergone a new change. He still retains the energy and passion that his young heart brings to him, but he has learned to release and control it reasonably. He regained his passion for writing and wrote a book of poetry that was well received. Li Guangping began to learn to control her temper, and she realized that she was also responsible for the breakdown of the marriage.
Whenever his wife was in a bad mood, Yang Mengyong would play the accordion and play a song "The Moon Represents My Heart" for her. The sound of the piano echoed, and Li Guangping couldn't help but hum along. It was the era of their acquaintance, and it was also the memory of their youth. No matter how many ups and downs and tribulations are experienced, the country is still there, and that sincere friendship will be eternal.
Seeing Yang Mengyong regain his smile, Li Guangping also felt extremely relieved. She understands that the shy young man she married many years ago has finally found herself after going through ups and downs. And she will continue to watch over him and spend the best time of her life together.
They have experienced the baptism of war, the ups and downs of fate, and the crisis of the family almost falling apart. But in the end, the lovers still hugged each other tightly. Perhaps it was these tribulations that made them see the value of each other. In this touch, they spent the most brilliant and warm years of their lives.