The uninhibited personality of the girl Song Dandan
In 1986, Song Dandan, who was in the prime of his youth, had a straightforward personality and acted informally, and because of his unrestrained words, he often offended others in unintentional words. Like most girls of the same age, Song Dandan also yearns to date handsome guys and marry a golden and handsome dream lover.
That year, 21-year-old Song Dandan met a good-looking boy in a social setting, and the two quickly fell in love. Song Dandan, who was immersed in love, was hot-headed and chose to marry each other in a flash, completely ignoring the dissuasion of his parents and friends.
Life after marriage is not as good as imagined, the two have different values, and often quarrel over trivial things.
A year later, Song Dandan finally recognized the reality and divorced the man. This hasty marriage has become an indelible regret for her for many years, but it also made Song Dandan understand that appearance does not determine a person's inner quality.
Mistakes are always the best teacher, and this failed marriage has made Song Dandan mature a lot.
After the shadow of the marriage change, Song Dandan chose to devote himself to his acting career. With her excellent acting skills, she has stolen the spotlight in many film and television works, and gradually broke through in the circle.
The busy work made Song Dandan forget the emotional trauma for a while, but deep down, she still longed for the company of a confidant.
Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what the next piece will taste like. When Song Dandan thought that love would not come again, fate gave her a big surprise.
Met Yingda, remarried and built a family
In 1987, Song Dandan met a special person - Yingda when she was rehearsing the drama "Arsonist".
Yingda is older than Song Dandan and has just returned from graduating from the United States with a doctorate. He is smart and capable, highly educated, and talented, and Song Dandan, who fell in love at first sight, was immediately attracted to him.
The two quickly got acquainted, not only giving Song Dandan advice in her career, but also listening carefully to her troubles and answering all questions.
Song Dandan found that Yingda was gentle and delicate in her heart, and she had many common languages with each other. After a back and forth, the two fell in love and decided to be together at the end of the year. Yingda's appearance filled the emptiness and loneliness in Song Dandan's heart, and this time, she was sure that she had found true love.
Soon after their marriage, they ushered in the crystallization of their love - the birth of their son Batu. Song Dandan is a mother and feels very happy. The family of three is happy, and Song Dandan is also wholeheartedly involved in this marriage, and she wants to give Batu a complete and harmonious home.
In 1993, the couple worked together for the first time and filmed the sitcom "I Love My Home". Yingda was in charge of directing, and Song Dandan was the heroine, and this work was a huge success as soon as it was broadcast, becoming a representative work of the two cooperation.
With a prosperous career and a happy family, this period of time is the happiest and happiest day in Song Dandan's memory. However, the good times did not last long, the rift in the marriage was quietly forming, and an inevitable storm was brewing.
Facing divorce, Song Dandan was in pain and despair
However, to Song Dandan's surprise, Yingda had an affair with the crew actor Liang Huan when filming the sequel to "I Love My Home".
When this shocking secret was spread by the same crew, Song Dandan couldn't believe his ears. Her Yingda, the husband she regarded as a confidant, would steal the forbidden fruit behind her back when she was busy with work, which was a bolt from the blue.
Song Dandan questioned Yingda about the truth of this rumor, but Yingda bluntly admitted it. Song Dandan suddenly realized that Yingda's gentle appearance hid a ruthless and selfish heart.
For Yingda's betrayal, Song Dandan was heartbroken. A family that was supposed to be united and harmonious fell apart in the shadow of betrayal. As a wife, she felt deeply disappointed; As a mother, she is more worried about the growth of her son Batu without fatherly love.
After a painful ideological struggle, Song Dandan still chose to divorce Yingda. In 1997, the divorce agreement was signed, and 7-year-old Batu lived with his mother. Song Dandan's heart was like a knife, and she failed to give Batu a complete home, which became the regret of her life.
As a single mother, Song Dandan shoulders double responsibilities. She worked hard during the day and went home at night to take care of Batu, barely keeping the small family running. Whenever Batu asked about his father, Song Dandan would feel a faint pain.
How she wished Batu could have a normal father's love, not a failed father who was empathetic and didn't love.
I used to naively think that Yingda was my lifelong confidant, but reality gave me a merciless blow. Song Dandan's heart is like ashes, she no longer believes in the so-called true love, she only wants to try her best to give Batu a warm home.
Yingda snubbed Batu, and Song Dandan angrily reprimanded
After the divorce, Indah rarely contacted his son Batu and barely fulfilled his obligations and responsibilities as a father.
On his 11th birthday, Batu took the initiative to call Yingda to see his father, whom he had not seen for a long time, but Yingda refused on the grounds that he was busy with work. Although Batu was sad, he forgivingly thought that his father must be busy.
However, just a year later, when 13-year-old Batu asked to attend the funeral of his grandfather, Yingda again refused without any guilt. This is undoubtedly the greatest harm to a child.
At the same time, Yingda openly loves his illegitimate son with Liang Huan, Ying Rudi.
Seeing this scene, Song Dandan finally couldn't bear it anymore. This irresponsible man, not only abandoned his wife, but now even began to alienate his own son.
Song Dandan decided to take action, she exposed what Yingda had done over the years on the Internet, accusing him of being an incompetent father, and she hoped to awaken Yingda's conscience through the power of the Internet.
However, Yingda still didn't care about this and continued to go his own way. Seeing all this, Song Dandan's heart was like a knife, and she chose to temporarily isolate Batu from the outside world, not wanting her son to continue to be injured.
Song Dandan has never been able to forgive Yingda for abandoning his wife and children for many years, and she doubts whether Yingda really has a father's heart. However, thinking about revenge now is useless, and Song Dandan can only do his best to make up for the regrets in Batu's life.
I will make you slowly forget that incompetent father and feel the love of your mother. Song Dandan silently said to Batu in his heart.
Song Dandan protects Batu and finds the meaning of life
In order to protect Batu from online rumors, Song Dandan chose to temporarily isolate his son from the outside world.
She worked hard during the day and returned home at night to take care of Batu wholeheartedly, hoping to make up for the missing parts of his life through the power of maternal love. Song Dandan always pays attention to Batu's Xi life, talks with him intimately, celebrates every birthday of him, and spends every festival with him.
Under the care of his mother, Batu slowly grew up, and his personality gradually became tough and independent. Song Dandan was relieved to find that Batu no longer needed her father's existence, but had become her most reliable backing.
At the same time, Song Dandan has also achieved great success in his acting career. She won one award after another for her strength, and gradually became a household name as a famous actor.
The masterpiece "I Love My Home" has become a classic, and she has also found the meaning and value of life.
Song Dandan began to enjoy a life of both career and family. Although Yingda had brought her indelible pain, Song Dandan was sincerely relieved and happy to see Batu grow up healthy and happy.
Maybe life can't be as good as it should be, but seeing the bloodline of his body and spirit passed on, Song Dandan was open-mindedly relieved. She no longer complains about the injustice of life, but is grateful for what she has now.
Song Dandan's open-minded life
Song Dandan's life has gone through vicissitudes, she has experienced two failed marriages, and suffered the pain of abandoning her wife and children. However, Song Dandan was not defeated by these, but faced life with a positive attitude.
Career success has been the backbone of her spirit. In the most difficult moment, Song Dandan did not give up, but relied on his strength and charm to win one acting award after another.
The applause and bouquets on the stage gradually healed the pain in her heart.
More importantly, Song Dandan found the meaning of life - that is, to do all her mother's love and make up for the missing part of Batu's life. She threw herself wholeheartedly into this battle with no turning back, and finally Batu grew up healthy and happy as an independent adult, which is her most fruitful achievement.
Song Dandan no longer complains about the unfairness of life, but readily accepts the ups and downs of life. She was sincerely proud and relieved for Batu, and that was enough.
Song Dandan understands that although his life is not satisfactory, life itself is a process of cultivation.
Today's Song Dandan is decisive and elegant, and she has forgiven Yingda because all this is a thing of the past. No one's life is smooth sailing, but being able to accept the trials of life with tolerance and remain optimistic is the right way to face life.
Song Dandan enjoys the current life, she knows that yesterday's pain will eventually pass, but living in the present is the way to live a grateful life.