The cause of Li Youbin's marriage breakdown
One day in 1984, the famous actor Li Youbin and the young and beautiful actress Zhang Ruiqi entered the palace of marriage. In the repertory troupe, the relationship between the two has always attracted much attention.
At the beginning of the marriage, Li Youbin took care of Zhang Ruiqi in every way. In order to take care of her one-year-old son Li Xiaoke, Zhang Ruiqi had to put down her radiant stage and become a full-time wife and mother.
Later, Li Youbin traveled to Beijing to develop his career for his family. Although his popularity has gradually risen in film and television dramas, he is not by his wife and children all year round. Zhang Ruiqi shouldered the burden of the family alone, and her inner dissatisfaction became more and more serious.
In 2002, Li Youbin began to enter the peak of his career, but there was a rift in his relationship. During the filming of the TV series "Jiangshan", Li Youbin, who fell in love with actor Shi Lanya, began to be dissatisfied with his wife.
He thinks that Zhang Ruiqi no longer understands and supports him, and Shi Lanya can be his confidant. In 2006, he finally took the initiative to divorce his son Li Xiaoke.
The roots of this marriage breakdown can be traced back a long time.
Li Xiaoke's reaction to her parents' divorce
One day in 2006, Li Youbin officially announced to his 18-year-old son Li Xiaoke that he had decided to divorce Zhang Ruiqi. This sudden decision instantly brought a huge mental blow to the young Li Xiaoke.
He never thought that his ostensibly loving parents would choose to divorce at his age. Li Xiaoke is deeply distressed and painful, and he tries to save his parents' marriage, but the attitude of both parties is unusually resolute.
This dilemma added to his mental pressure. At this time, Li Xiaoke had to face the vigilance and scrutiny from relatives, friends and the public, and also had to bear the damage caused by the departure of his relatives.
He couldn't help but begin to question his father's career fanaticism, and he was also full of confusion about whether his parents still had feelings.
The impact of Li Youbin's remarriage on Li Xiaoke
In 2008, after the photos of Li Youbin and actor Shi Lanya, who was 13 years younger than him, were photographed shopping together and were exposed by the media in a high-profile manner, Li Youbin's secret relationship also became popular on the Internet.
At the moment when his son Li Xiaoke was browsing the news, the words shock and disappointment could no longer describe his mood at that time. It turned out that not long after his parents divorced, Li Youbin got together with Shi Lanya, who had a scandal that year.
That is, he is the culprit who directly led to the breakdown of his parents' marriage. The doubts and resentment in his heart made Li Xiaoke impulsively criticize his father to the media.
Although her mother Zhang Ruiqi later calmed down the situation and clarified that it was a peaceful breakup, the scars on her father in Li Xiaoke's heart are difficult to erase.
Since then, Li Youbin and Shi Lanya have remarried, and the relationship between the two is very good and they live happily. However, Li Xiaoke himself is gradually avoiding his father, and he has begun to have a strong sense of distrust and vigilance about intimacy and marriage, and he has not even married yet.
The impact of his father's remarriage on him was long-term and profound.
Li Youbin's care for his stepson Hanhan
After remarrying, Li Youbin, who is in his fifties, not only faces the problem of getting along with his bride Shi Lanya, but also has a bigger problem of how to get along with his newly moved 10-year-old stepson Hanhan.
At first, young children find it difficult to accept "outsiders" who suddenly break into their lives. Han Han not only does not have a good face for Li Youbin, but also always makes a little person "mischievous", such as squeezing toothpaste into his water cup.
And Li Youbin, who has experienced a failed marriage, poured all his energy into his new family this time. He tries his best to please his stepson, fulfill his various requests, and hope to gain his approval.
Even whenever Shi Lanya took punishment for a child's mistakes, Li Youbin would tolerate and protect Han Han without principle.
In the end, under this sugar-coated cannonball-like love, the simple child gradually accepted Li Youbin as a new father. Han Han was happy to call him "Daddy Li" intimately.
Watching his stepson grow into an outstanding young man, Li Youbin is sincerely proud of him. At the same time, he also regretted the knot that always existed between himself and his biological son Li Xiaoke, which became his heart disease.
Li Youbin and Zhang Ruiqi face the anxiety of their son's unmarriage
Now 37-year-old Li Xiaoke has entered the age of no confusion, but he still lives a single life in his own way. He didn't even have a love interest. As parents, Li Youbin and Zhang Ruiqi became more and more anxious about this.
Especially Zhang Ruiqi, the idea of hoping that her son will start a family as soon as possible is becoming more and more urgent. For this reason, Zhang Ruiqi kept matching Li Xiaoke to go on a blind date, but it always ended in failure; She and Li Youbin also tried hard and soft to persuade their son to change his mind many times, but he resolutely refused.
Over the years, Li Xiaoke has always remained celibate, and they feel both helpless and self-blamed.
Later, I finally learned from Li Xiaoke's mouth that the real reason why he was reluctant to marry was that the psychological shadow brought to him by their failed marriage back then was too heavy. This became an indelible scar in his son's life.
The son spent his life celibate to make a silent accusation against them. This made Li Youbin and Zhang Ruiqi very guilty. They didn't protect this marriage for various reasons, but now they want their son to suffer for the rest of their lives.
The two parents are sorry and have nothing to do, which is what they are most anxious about.
Criticize the lessons softly, and stop at the point
It is not difficult to see that the breakdown of a parent's marriage has a profound impact on the child. Li Youbin was so devoted to his acting career that he neglected his wife and children; Zhang Ruiqi's dependence on feelings aggravates the problem.
As a couple who work together to create family happiness, they did not protect this marriage for various reasons, which eventually led to tragedy. A family is torn apart because of their mistakes, and children live in the shadows to this day.
I can't criticize them for their mistakes, but I use this story to remind and criticize them softly, hoping that they will take this as a warning: as parents, we should think deeply about the meaning of family and children, cherish the people in front of us, and strengthen communication and understanding; If you simply run for your career, you will lose the most precious thing.
Now, it's not too late, I hope they can cherish the present and make up for the regrets in their son's heart through various efforts.