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My name is Sister Li Feng, I am sixty-two years old, my son has been married for more than ten years, and I have not been on good terms with my daughter-in-law Li Xiaoyun. I have a straightforward personality and are meticulous in my work, and I often find fault with Xiaoyun's unhygienic cooking and cleaning. She also had a bad temper and would often reply to me, and then we would have a big fight. My son's persuasion was useless every time, so we could only let our mother and daughter fight each other.
A few days ago, Xiaoyun and I had a big fight because the sheets she changed for me were not clean. I said angrily: "Just 29797 like you, you are also worthy of being my daughter-in-law! I know every day that I eat and sleep, I don't pay attention to housework at all, and my children don't educate well." If it weren't for the sake of face, I would have moved out a long time ago!"
I glared at her, speechless. How dare she talk to me like that!
I slammed the door and went out to discuss with my best friend, Aunt Liu. As soon as Aunt Liu heard me tell me what happened, she immediately felt angry for me: "Sister Feng, your daughter-in-law is too unruly! You worked hard to bring up your son, she is good, she has no tutor at all, so ignorant! You just ignore her, give birth to your son to me, you quarrel with her like this, it is not good for your health." Why don't you go to my relative's house to help take care of the elderly, and come back after a while, and calm down. Anyway, your son earns money to support the family, and you don't work at home, so you might as well go out and earn some pocket money. ”
I happily went to Aunt Liu's friend, Aunt Yang's house. Aunt Yang is an old lady, in her eighties, with heart disease and arthritis, limited mobility, and needs to be cared for. My main job is to help with cooking, cleaning, and taking care of her daily life.
I endured my anger and explained, "Auntie, you have a heart condition, you can't eat salty, you can only put a small amount of vegetables." ”
She said dissatisfiedly: "I just like to drink strong chicken soup, you are too weak to drink!"
I had to go back to the kitchen to spice up, but I only added a little salt for fear of affecting her condition. Aunt Yang still looked dissatisfied after two sips, and I shook my head helplessly.
I hurriedly explained: "Auntie, the doctor said that your teeth are not good and you eat soft food, so I deliberately cooked the porridge hard so that you can chew it easily." ”
She said dissatisfiedly: "I like to eat soft porridge, you can't eat it! ”
I had to go back to the kitchen to adjust. This is already the umpteenth time that Aunt Yang has been picky about my cooking. I really think my skills are passable, after all, my wife and son have praised me for the delicious food for so many years. It's just that Aunt Yang likes to be tricky and picky.
I remembered that when I was at home, although Xiaoyun had a bad temper, she never picked on my cooking, and I remember her saying that I was very good at cooking, and it was the best home-cooked food she had ever eaten. Thinking of this, I can't help but sigh, why didn't I hear her praise at the time, and I always felt that she was looking for ballast.
After packing up Aunt Yang's breakfast scraps, I started to make lunch. I decided to do what Aunt Yang liked, hoping that she would be satisfied once.
As a result, Aunt Yang ate a few bites of rice at noon, and she still looked unhappy: "You put too many chili peppers in this fish, I can't eat it so spicy." I explained, "Last time, my aunt said that my dish was too light, so I deliberately put more chili peppers this time." She said impatiently: "I just said it casually, do you take it seriously? You taste it yourself, it's just spicy! You don't even understand my tastes, and you don't want to find a balance, I don't think your profession is suitable for being a nanny!"
Although I felt a little aggrieved, I still endured it and didn't reply. After packing up the dishes and chopsticks for lunch, I sat alone in the yard in a daze. I suddenly began to miss the atmosphere at home, although it was always noisy, but I hadn't experienced that lively feeling for a long time.
At this time, the mobile phone rang suddenly, and I picked it up and listened, it was my son's voice: "Mom, come back quickly, Xiaoyun is sick and hospitalized!" I stood up in amazement: "What's the situation? What's wrong with her?" The son said: "It is a physical collapse caused by long-term overwork, and I have been hospitalized for observation for a few days, so you should come back quickly to help take care of the child." ”
I hung up the phone and immediately packed my things and prepared to go home. It turned out that Xiaoyun had been silently bearing my difficulties and the burden of my family, and it had reached the point where her body was overwhelmed! I felt extremely guilty and distressed, and decided that I must go back to take good care of her and her family, and no longer care about the previous unhappiness.
Originally, after work, we also chatted, sang, played chess, and had dinners, so that our life was rich and colorful.
But my memory of my daughter-in-law and my guilt made me have no time to take care of these things. I hurriedly said goodbye to all the people in the nanny's house, told them to take care of my aunt, and then set out on the way home with simple luggage.
It was already dark when I got home, and I opened the door softly for fear of waking my child. As soon as I opened the door, I saw that the house was in a mess, children's toys were littered on the floor, and dirty clothes were everywhere. There were still unwashed dishes piled up on the table, and I couldn't help but frown.
At this moment, Xiaoyun dragged her weak body out of the bedroom and looked very surprised to see me: "Mom, why are you back?"
I hurriedly stepped forward to support her: "God, you make me look like this, how can I be worthy of my heart!" While talking, he also helped her clean up the messy house.
I said with red eyes: "It's not good for my mother, I shouldn't have been so harsh on you before, you have worked hard for so many years, I haven't even seen it in my eyes, I'm really sorry for you!"
Xiaoyun heard me say this, tears were in her eyes, she hugged me and said, "Mom, I am also wrong, I shouldn't talk back to you, I will improve in the future." ”
Our mother and daughter hugged and cried, as if at this moment, all the mustard and estrangement had been eliminated.
Xiaoyun tasted a mouthful of porridge and said with a smile: "Mom, your craftsmanship is really good, this porridge is just right, super delicious!"
I nodded with satisfaction: "I will cook more carefully in the future, don't shirk, eat more to make ends meet!"
"Okay Mom, I'll listen to you!" Xiaoyun smiled sweetly.
In the past few days, I have been taking care of Xiaoyun every step of the way, helping her massage, serving food, and cleaning the house. My daughter-in-law's body and bones need to be cared for, and I will never criticize her harshly.
When her health improved, I talked to her about my experience as a nanny at Aunt Yang's house.
"My aunt has a bad temper and often makes trouble unreasonably, and I am very unhappy there. It's not like at home, although it's noisy, but it feels lively. I said.
Xiaoyun nodded in understanding: "Mom, people must always learn to understand and accommodate each other. You and I are both at fault, and we should tolerate each other's shortcomings in order to get along. ”
I said with emotion: "It's true that I look at people too superficially. Auntie looks like a rich family, and I thought I could live a good life, but she turned out to have a worse temper than you. And you're so much better inside than I thought. From now on, I will no longer judge people by their appearance, only by their hearts. ”
Xiaoyun hugged me happily. My heart is filled with happiness.
After this misunderstanding, the relationship between me and Xiaoyun became extremely harmonious. I re-examine what I've done over the years, and I can't help but feel a little ashamed.
Xiaoyun has a straightforward personality and is a little impatient in handling things, but I have never looked carefully at her dedication to the family. Not only does she keep the house in order, but her children are also educated gentlely. Every time I criticized her, she patiently explained and rarely really lost her temper. My fickle temper was far too much in comparison.
I think back to when Xiaoyun first got married, she was shy and introverted, and she was clumsy. I always felt that she was not satisfactory, not as hardworking and capable as when I married into my in-laws' family. Once she accidentally broke one of my beloved vases, I angrily blamed her for being clumsy. She apologized to me with red eyes and said she would buy the exact one and return it to me. Later I learned that she had saved up two months of pocket money to buy the vase, which was not cheap.
Another time, she had just given birth, and I thought that the confinement meal she made had no health effect, so she silently made it again according to my request. For this reason, she stayed up all night until the dark circles under her eyes came out, but I turned a blind eye.
Thinking about these past events, I can't help but redden. Xiaoyun comforted me softly: "Mom, it's all over, just get along with our mother and daughter." ”
Since then, I've gotten rid of my previous harshness. Xiaoyun doesn't do well, I will guide patiently, and no longer scold with a face. Xiaoyun also learned to tolerate the temperament of my eccentric old woman. Our mother-daughter relationship has never been more harmonious.
I began to enthusiastically help Xiaoyun with household chores, cooking breakfast with her, washing and cooking. In our spare time, we often chat, talk, sing together, and sew clothes, without the mutual suspicion of the past.
Once Xiaoyun was exhausted, I took the initiative to take care of all the housework. After I got up early and was busy in the dark, Xiaoyun saw it in her eyes, held my hand and said, "Mom, I have worked hard for you, I am so grateful to you." ”
I was moved and said, "I'm sorry, I didn't experience your hard work before. Being able to share it for you is what I should do. ”
Now I enjoy the blessings of old age, family harmony, and my husband and wife. These are all things that Xiaoyun has paid for over the years. I will never have a whisper again, I just want to spend the rest of my life with her, joyfully and cheerfully.
This year, I celebrated my 65th birthday.
When I woke up in the morning, I saw Xiaoyun standing in front of the bed with a big cake, smiling and singing birthday songs.
"Happy birthday, Mom! I wish you good health and happiness every day!"
I hugged her excitedly, trembling and said, "Thank you, my good daughter!"
"Grandma, happy birthday!" My two granddaughters also ran over to hug me.
"Come, let's blow out the candles and make a wish together!" Xiaoyun put the cake in front of me.
After blowing out the candles, they took out a carefully prepared gift, which was a designer cashmere scarf of my dreams.
"Oh my God, this one is custom-made, it must be very expensive!" I said in surprise.
"Mom, this is our heart, you can take it. Xiaoyun said softly.
I was so excited that I couldn't speak, so I could only hold her hand tightly.
Xiaoyun also carefully prepared a table of my favorite dishes, all of which are health foods that nourish the elderly. We celebrated happily as a family.
"Mom, you've worked hard all your life, enjoy it today!" The son also said intimately.
After breakfast, the granddaughters performed their long-rehearsed dance program, which was my favorite song, dancing like butterflies.
I saw tears in my eyes and was so excited. Xiaoyun hugged me and whispered, "Mom, we were all raised by you, I hope our performance can bring you happiness." ”
"Yes, Mom, you have been tortured to raise us as adults, and we want to repay you with a little heart. The son also said.
After a day's preparation, Xiaoyun was physically and mentally exhausted. She helped me to bed, and she herself was tired of lying on the couch to take a nap.
Many years ago, I misunderstood her, but now, I really feel that this daughter-in-law is the most precious gift in my life!
This morning, I got up as usual and cooked breakfast. Xiaoyun stayed up late last night to prepare for her birthday, and I asked her to sleep in bed for a while.
One morning I was alone at home cleaning and wiping every corner of the house. Xiaoyun slept until noon, and when she saw my busy figure, she hurriedly came over to help.
I was busy with her: "Don't do it, rest, you worked so hard last night, you should have a good rest today!"
Xiaoyun shook her head and said, "Mom, we should share the housework, I am in good spirits today, I must help you!"
I smiled and nodded, and Xiaoyun and I worked together as a team. Let's fry a dish, I'll wipe the table, talk and laugh, and have fun.
After work, the two of us sat on the lounge chairs under the porch and chatted. I sighed: "Xiao Yun, the happiest thing in life is family harmony. I was confused at the beginning, how difficult life was, and now I think it's all my fault, and I really don't want to judge you. ”
Xiaoyun held my hand and whispered softly, "Mom, let it pass, aren't we living well now?"
I nodded and said, "Yes, now that our mother and daughter have such a good relationship, it is really the happiest thing in my life." I used to think that your daughter-in-law was not good, but in fact, I blamed me for being too superficial and didn't see your kindness. In the future, no matter what happens, I will think about the premise that 'Yunyun must have good intentions', and then we will sit down and explain it slowly, instead of arguing first. ”
Xiaoyun smiled happily: "I'm the same, I will learn to understand you first and communicate patiently." Our mother and daughter understand and support each other, and this is true happiness. ”
I squeezed her hand with emotion and nodded.
It was getting dark, and just as we were about to get up, a group of chirping children came running, and it turned out that children from several families had gone to the mountain behind our house to fly kites.
"Grandma, my kite string is broken, can you fix it for me?" A little boy ran up to him and pleaded.
"Grandma, I'm hungry, do you have anything to eat here?" A little girl also came to talk about it.
I stood up with a smile and said to them, "Come into the house and sit down, Grandma will make you snacks to eat, and help you tie up the kite strings." ”
Xiaoyun also went over to help serve fruit to the children. We served the children comfortably, and our hearts were very happy.
After sending the children away, I said to Xiaoyun: "I am extremely pleased to be able to help the children. We live to make everyone around us happy. ”
Xiaoyun nodded heavily and helped me into the house to rest.
Time flies, and another year has passed in the blink of an eye.
Over the past year, Xiaoyun and I have become even closer. As a mother-in-law, I no longer find fault with my daughter-in-law's housework, but do my best to help her share the housework; As a daughter-in-law, Xiaoyun no longer talks back to me, but listens to me patiently, and then gently communicates our differences.
In this way, we lived in harmony and the family flourished. The children study hard and get excellent grades; The son-in-law's career progressed, and he was promoted and raised. Everyone says that our family is a blessed family that appreciates food and eats all the time.
I often proudly say to my neighbors, "If you want to be happy in your family, you need to be considerate of each other." ”
One day, Xiaoyun was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen. I went over to help her peel and chop the vegetables and do what I could.
Xiaoyun said to me with a smile while being busy: "Mom, the two of us work together seamlessly, and in your days, it is much easier for me to cook." ”
I said with relief: "This is what I should do, you have worked hard for so many years, I understand that it is a little late to come to help now, but I hope that this effort of mine can make you less burdened." ”
"My greatest concern is your concern. Xiaoyun's eyes were a little red.
We looked at each other and smiled, and continued to talk and laugh as we prepared dinner.
After dinner, the family sat around the TV and relaxed. On a whim, I said to my son-in-law, "Son, let's have a dance, just like when we were young!"
My son-in-law smiled and took my hand, chose a beautiful piece of music, and danced with me in the house.
The children applauded happily, and Xiaoyun looked at us with a smile.
After the dance, my face was flushed with happiness. Xiaoyun came over to help me sit down, and complimented, "Mom, you are still dancing so elegantly! ”
I smiled and nodded, thinking to myself that it was a blessing to have such a family.
Another year has passed in the blink of an eye. This year, I realized that my family seemed to love me more than ever.
I know they're because I'm old and want to make me as happy as possible. Every time I see their thoughtful actions, I am moved to tears.
I often reflect on myself, I was too harsh on Xiaoyun when I was young, and now I should give her more love and support, so that she can take fewer detours and enjoy the joy of family.