42-year-old Zhu Dan is on the hot search, netizens: Sister, apologize to me!

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was deceived by Zhu Dan again.

A few years ago, Zhu Dan was labeled by netizens as a love brain, humble, and PUA on Monday because of a show.

The most famous of these is her theory of steps.

Once Zhu Dan and Zhou Yiwei quarreled, Zhou Yiwei didn't coax her, didn't apologize, and said directly, "I'm giving you the steps now, if you don't walk down, there will be no more steps later." ”

Since then, the love brain of humble love, this label has followed her for more than 3 years.

During this period, no matter how much she shows her affection, it will be useless, but will be hacked on the hot search.

Even Zhou Zhouwei privately told her that he had a new drama to be released, and asked her to mention him less.

I'm afraid that as soon as I open my mouth, I will push him to the forefront again.

Until recently, Zhu Dan participated in the variety show "Love's Cultivation Trip", which directly reversed the reputation of Zhu Dan and Zhou Yiwei.

Everyone went from questioning Zhu Dan and understanding Zhu Dan to envying Zhu Dan.

only to find out that she is not a love brain, but a marriage brain.

And this brain is a kind of wisdom that is needed in married life.

From humble Dan to Happy Dan

Zhu Dan once said that he would give an umbrella to Monday on a rainy day.

And both parties enjoy taking care of each other, and even have a romantic walk in the rain.

However, Li Dan and Fu Seoul shouted that they couldn't understand it, and kept criticizing Zhu Dan.

Li Dan said that the rain is to let the man get wet, and if his ex-wife wants to send him an umbrella, he will scold him back.

Both Li Dan and Fu Seoul are emphasizing that a man must be strong in order to be worthy of the title of head of the family.

In their bones, they all have a concept of Muqiang, but Zhu Dan does not.

Zhu Dan believes that marriage is to take care of each other, and asking her to give her an umbrella on Monday is to be silently coquettish to her.

It's a pity that no one believed Zhu Dan's words at that time.

Zhu Dan's humble love is her cooking theory of Zhou Yiwei back then.

At that time, Zhu Dan was pregnant and wanted to eat wontons, which was the first time Zhou Yiwei cooked for her, so Zhu Dan also secretly took pictures.

Zhu Dan said this, originally wanting to share her feelings, but Li Dan bluntly said that his love was humble and was listed on the hot search.

Everyone thinks that Zhou Zhou is like an uncle at home, waiting for food.

It wasn't until I participated in "Love's Spiritual Trip" that I realized how deep everyone's misunderstanding of Zhou Yiwei was.

In the show, Zhou Zhouwei looks skillful in work, and at first glance, he is working at home.

This idea was verified when Zhu Dan was cooking.

It was Zhu Dan who cooked, but the busiest was Zhou Yiwei.

Every time, as soon as Zhou Yiwei sat down and wanted to rest for a while, Zhu Dan began to call him for help:

live fire;

Open the lid of the can;

Screw the cap of the oil bottle;

The fire is too big, and it has to be small;

Hand a dry bowl;

Pour some water;

The fire is too small, and it should be added;

The fire is too big, retreat......

After this operation, Zhou Yiwei has not been idle at all.

No wonder some netizens said that my daughter was annoyed by Zhu Dan's shouting.

But Zhou Zhouwei not only didn't bother, but also worked hard and contracted all the work that Zhu Dan didn't want to do.

focuses on an emotionally stable one that catches all the good and bad of Zhu Dan.

Actions are always more reliable than sweet words, and Zhu Dan finally changed from a humble Dan to a happy Dan that everyone envies.

However, when everyone envies Zhu Dan for having an emotionally stable partner, don't forget that Zhu Dan also tolerated Zhou Yiwei's poor expression.

When Zhu Dan was hacked the most, Zhou Zhouwei never came out to defend her.

But Zhu Dan never cared, because she knew that Zhou Yiwei paid attention to her feelings, but these feelings were only visible to Zhu Dan, and there was no need to show them to outsiders.

This kind of mutual tolerance and understanding of each other's marriage brains is something that many people slowly forget after marriage.

From an inferior Fu to a strong Fu

Judging from Fu Seoul's rain theory, Fu Seoul has long forgotten that marriage needs to be tolerated, rather than forcing one party to change himself, which also laid the groundwork for her divorce.

Fu Seoul believes that men must be drenched in the rain, "A man needs to be drenched in the rain to be able to grow, and only then does he know that the rain is not good for girls, so he will actively send it to you, he will not get a drop of rain, how does he know how uncomfortable it is for you to be drenched in the rain?"

From these remarks, we can vaguely spy that the marriage between Fu Seoul and Lao Liu lacks Zhu Dan's marriage brain.

Fu Seoul and Lao Liu, one side is constantly asking and spurring the other party to grow, and the other side is becoming more and more closed off under the spur of the other party.

When did we first meet Lao Liu? It was in Fu Seoul's joke.

Once, Fu Seoul asked Lao Liu, do you mind if I tell you a joke?

Lao Liu didn't care, he felt that as long as it was helpful to her, he didn't care what others thought.

Fu Seoul felt safe and full of energy in this kind of tolerance.

Once, Fu Seoul was recording "Wonderful Story", and he was so stressed that he wanted to quit the competition.

She sent a message to Lao Liu for comfort.

Lao Liu said, it's okay to quit if you want to quit, I'll take you home.

Lao Liu knew that Fu Seoul would not retire, but he tolerated all the willfulness of Fu Seoul.

At that time, Fu Seoul was also moved by Lao Liu's infinite tolerance, and even called himself a top-worthy marriage.

At that time, Fu Seoul could still say to Lao Liu, you are responsible for being content with the status quo, and I am responsible for rushing forward.

However, there are two sides to everything, and it is precisely because of Lao Liu's character that he will unconditionally tolerate and support Fu Seoul.

But when Fu Seoul grew up, what she wanted was not this kind of emotional stability that was content with the status quo, but to be able to support the pillars of the family with her.

Fu Seoul once talked about the tent theory in the show.

It takes 4 tents to support the whole house, and she is the only one in this house.

She was afraid that if she fell, the family didn't know what would happen.

But Fu Seoul seems to have forgotten that Lao Liu also worked 3 jobs for her to go to school, save money with her, and buy a house.

Later, Fu Seoul's career became more and more successful, and he couldn't take care of his family, so Lao Liu could only take the initiative to take on the responsibility of the family.

Fu Seoul also affirmed Lao Liu's contribution to this family, but he hoped that Lao Liu would change his comfortable temperament, become motivated, and keep up with her pace.

So, he kept using negation and questioning to try to make Lao Liu become motivated.

And Lao Liu is also becoming more and more at a loss and more and more boring in the questioning and denial.

Fu Seoul also changed from the beginning of his appreciation to being high-minded and critical, and became the first party in Lao Liu's life.

As she once said, Lao Liu has not changed, she has become her, because she has "grown up", become stronger, and began to become less afraid of walking at night, and does not need Lao Liu's warm lamp.

In marriage, once they no longer need each other, the relationship is not far from separation.

From the mother of the eldest grandson to marrying love

The need for each other links two people in a marriage.

Just like He Youjun and Xi Mengyao.

The enviable marriage of the two is not an idol stills into reality, but a need and understanding of each other.

In Love's Spiritual Journey, the conversation between the two in the desert is impressive.

He Youjun will feel annoyed that he ignored Xi Mengyao because he was busy with work.

If you are someone else, you will start to accuse your workaholic husband of only caring about work and ignoring her.

But Xi Mengyao said that she could understand his approach, because when she was in her twenties, her mind was full of work.

Many times, the contradiction in the family is that one party pays less and one party pays more.

No matter who gives how much, both sides will care about each other.

However, in the marriage of He Youjun and Xi Mengyao, I can't see such a plan, but I see each other's support.

Because they don't need to confirm each other's position in each other's minds and their dedication to this family in the calculation.

Along the way, only they know how many bumps and bumps they have gone through to become each other's partners.

In order to catch up with Xi Mengyao, He Youjun asked his sister to help him assist.

heard that Xi Mengyao was going to participate in a blind date show, so she immediately gave up the "Strongest Brain" she was recording and went to Xi Mengyao's show.

He Youjun was afraid that Xi Mengyao would refuse to date him, so he specially waited for Xi Mengyao to sign a contract with the show before going.

In this way, Xi Mengyao will not quit the show because of dating him.

This wishful thinking is resounding.

finally confirmed that he was in love, and He Youjun was worried that Xi Mengyao would dislike the love between sister and brother.

From acquaintance to love and marriage, the two are full of ruggedness.

Before the two parties met their parents, the fourth wife made a background investigation of Xi Mengyao.

The background is not enough, and Xi Mengyao's character must be tested again at the card table.

After passing the tests, the two became each other's partners.

But the earthy marriage proposal scene was also complained by netizens about why Youjun didn't care about Xi Mengyao.

In fact, the marriage proposal was planned by He Youjun, and the theme was Mario and his princess, representing the dwarf through unremitting efforts to finally hug the beauty.

The two were able to go from acquaintance to love, all because of He Youjun's perseverance.

Just like Xi Mengyao said that she was married to love, not to a wealthy family.

Unfortunately, everyone doesn't believe it.

In particular, she became pregnant and gave birth to a child not long after she got married, and at that time she was also facing rumors that the gambling king would divide the family property.

Now, He Youjun and Xi Mengyao's "physiological liking" has rushed to the hot search, how many people have become their CP fans after watching them get along.

He Youjun thanked Xi Mengyao for tolerating his complex life, family, and work, and would see Xi Mengyao's hard work, and would pay attention to Xi Mengyao's situation at any time and listen to Xi Mengyao's words.

Some netizens said: They are very complementary, He Youjun is sometimes very serious, but Xi Mengyao is never more serious, the two have something to say, but if you change the two, you are more serious, and you can't quarrel every day?

Some people say that Zhu Dan met Zhou Yiwei, who was willing to help her repay her debt of 20 million before marriage, and Fu Seoul met Lao Liu, who worked three jobs for her to study.

Zhu Dan cherishes this kind of Monday, but Fu Seoul gradually lost his heart.

If Zhou Yiwei and Zhu Dan are old husbands and wives, they tolerate each other. Then Xi Mengyao and He Youjun understand each other and support each other, while Fu Seoul and Lao Liu are unwilling to move forward and the other unwilling to wait.

Managing a marriage requires wisdom, but too many people are lost in the firewood, rice, oil and salt of marriage.

If you can do it like Zhu Dan and Zhou Yiwei, obviously not tacit enough, but they can tolerate each other, what hurdle can't be overcome?

This is a compulsory course for marriage.