"Parents' Love": is also the daughter of the Jiang family, why Yafei married for the second time, but Yaning is the wife of a major general

Revisiting "Parental Love", people can't help but sigh at the subtlety between fate and choice.

Jiang Yaning and Jiang Yafei, two sisters, have chosen completely different paths in life, which has aroused the audience's deep thinking.

Jiang Yaning, a seemingly ordinary woman, eventually became the wife of a major general, what kind of wisdom and hard work is hidden behind her success?

And Jiang Yafei, why did she choose the road of second marriage when she was free-spirited, and what kind of force drove her to make such a decision?

Some say it's fate.

However, if you take a closer look at Jiang Yafei and Jiang Yaning's personality and growth experience, you will find that their completely different love destinations are unexpected and reasonable.

Their stories make us reflect on how every choice we make in life affects our future.

Today, let's take an in-depth interpretation of the life choices of the two sisters in "Parents' Love".

01  

The different personalities lay the groundwork for life choices

Jiang Yafei has been able to speak well since she was a child, and she has never suffered losses, and she has also caused trouble everywhere for this.

Once, she saw her cousin chatting with Wang Haibo, the "gentleman", on the roof, but she couldn't help it, and climbed up the ladder slowly.

Just half of the climb, was discovered by Wang Haibo, the two had a verbal argument, Wang Haibo saw that he couldn't fight, so he pushed the escalator to scare her, fortunately the queen mother came back and drank her son.

As soon as Jiang Yafei was out of danger, she came to the fighting spirit, and replied to Wang Haibo like a machine gun, and the queen mother shook her head and said: "Yafei, you are so powerful now, who will dare to marry you when you grow up." ”

Wang Haibo was funny: "I'll marry, and I'll fight three times a day when I get married." ”

Jiang Yafei, who was about to leave, immediately stopped, and turned her head back angrily: "You are dreaming!

At that time, Jiang Yafei was not afraid, hot-tempered, and nosy, not to mention a Wang Haiyang, she fought with boys, and she could beat people to the point of bleeding.

Jiang Yafei, who often causes trouble, is the least worry-free of the five children of the Jiang family.

Although she often doesn't let her parents worry, Jiang Yafei's character of love and hatred and can't tolerate sand in her eyes can dare to support her mother and aunt when they are wronged at critical moments.

When Jiang Changyi came to confess his relatives, his mother An Jie was so angry that she ran away from home, among the 5 children, only she dared to be angry with her father Jiang Defu and defended her mother everywhere, and when her brother helped Jiang Changyi speak, she was even more speechless when she replied.

Jiang Changyi is naturally not her opponent, she is-for-tat every day, and there is nowhere to escape.

Jiang Yafei is the third of the 5 children, but her ability to call the wind and rain is not the boss but better than the boss.

Jiang Yafei's aunt Jiang Dehua's dedication to the Lao Ding family can be called a cow and a horse for three generations of the Ding family, her husband Lao Ding is gone, and she has only one wish, which is to be buried with Lao Ding after a hundred years.

But the stepsons only wanted Lao Ding to be buried with their mother, without considering her great pain.

Jiang Yafei stepped forward and persuaded the children of the Ding family to admit and thank Jiang Dehua, and finally helped her aunt protect her wishes.

Jiang Defu's evaluation of his baby daughter Jiang Yafei is: Your mouth can compete for you and make you trouble.

Knowing the daughter Mo Ruo's father. Jiang Yafei has had a strong personality since she was a child, and this character is like a double-edged sword, sharp and powerful.

When you are friends with her, you will feel her boldness and righteousness, but in order to develop a lover with her, you need to be tolerant enough for the other party to be with her for a long time.

is different from Jiang Yafei, the youngest daughter Jiang Yaning has been gentle and intelligent since she was a child, and she is studious and reasonable.

Jiang Yaning has been well-behaved and sensible since she was a child, and whenever her brothers and sisters get into trouble, she is always the first to report to her parents.

The same Jiang Changyi recognized his relatives, when Jiang Changyi knelt down in front of Jiang Defu, everyone was stunned, and when the storm was coming, the smart Jiang Yaning called his aunt as a rescuer as soon as possible and rescued Jiang Defu.

When An Jie ran away from home in anger and everyone was helpless, it was Jiang Yaning who wrote a letter to his mother full of affection, revealing his longing, sincerely expressing the family's needs and expectations for his mother.

An Jie, who was already suffering from missing her child, melted her heart after reading the letter, and just like that, she returned home, and the family was finally reunited again.

Among the 5 children, only Jiang Yaning likes to read, which is quite pleasing to his mother An Jie.

When she was in the fourth or fifth grade of primary school, she loved to read, because there were no extracurricular books at home, so Jiang Yaning could only borrow Chinese textbooks from her brothers and sisters to read.

One day, in order to find a ruler, Jiang Yaning inadvertently turned to "Dream of Red Mansions" pressed under Jiang Defu's pillow, and he couldn't take his eyes off the book when he saw it.

The next day, when Jiang Defu chatted with An Jie, he couldn't help but complain about "Dream of Red Mansions", saying that Jia Baoyu was born with a piece of jade in his mouth, which was pure nonsense.

Without waiting for An Jie to answer, Jiang Yaning, who was about to go out to school, heard this, and laughed at his father: "Dad, you are so stupid, that's a myth, fake, or how to call him Jia Baoyu." ”

Jiang Yaning's words made the husband and wife look at each other, and they also discovered their youngest daughter's literary hobby.

That night, An Jie called his daughter to the room and gave Jiang Yaning a large box of books from her own collection, all the "Feng Zixiu" reading materials in Jiang Defu's eyes.

Jiang Yaning is the best obedient girl who makes her parents feel at ease, she has been among the best since she was a child, she is knowledgeable and understanding. With such a character, whether you are friends or lovers, it is difficult not to like it.

02  

Different life plans create different views on mate selection

Of the 5 children of the Jiang family, 3 of them became soldiers. After continuing the two elder brothers to join the army, Jiang Yafei also chose the same military path as his father.

Jiang Yafei, who followed her parents, was smooth sailing in the army. At the age of 23, she became a deputy company commander, and in her 30s, she became a regiment-level cadre.

A family like hers and such a career are beyond the reach of many ordinary people.

The difference in power and status has invisibly become an invisible threshold for suitors. Jiang Yafei's first love was because her rank was lower than her, and she did not fall into the eyes of her mother-in-law An Jie.

Under Jiang Defu's favor and protection, Jiang Yafei is not only straightforward, but also does not care about human feelings.

Jiang Yafei thought that Jiang Defu was not dancing well, and wanted to use the mouth of the director and political commissar to eliminate Jiang Defu, so that the director and the political commissar were scared to turn around and run away.

This Jiang Defu has a good face in his life, how can he stand this humiliation, not to mention that he still eliminated his daughter on the spot, he pulled down his face angrily and left, and on the way he met the director and political commissar who were used by Jiang Yafei to cushion his back but didn't know anything, and he didn't give them a good face, and directly sent a few white eyes.

Jiang Yafei has never left the army since she was a child, whether she lives or works, and her parents naturally hope that her partner is also an excellent soldier from a realistic point of view.

But Jiang Yafei doesn't care about the influence of power, status and practical factors, she needs someone who can make her "worship" spiritually, which is also an important reason why her relationship has experienced several twists and turns.

And her younger sister Jiang Yaning has loved learning since she was a child, and her dream is to become a writer.

With her hard work, she was admitted to the Chinese Department of Shandong University.

As the first high-achieving student of the Jiang family, the moment Jiang Yaning got the admission letter, Jiang Defu was so excited that he was incoherent, and An Jie was even more excited to tears.

Jiang Yaning, who also grew up in a military family and has always liked to read and think, has been good at absorbing life wisdom from reading since he was a child. And being admitted to university allowed Jiang Yaning to get out of the island and have the opportunity to get in touch with a wider social circle.

Jiang Yaning, who has received higher education, is much higher in knowledge than other children in the Jiang family, and her views on people and things are also more mature and open-minded, and she can tolerate and understand, and look at them rationally.

This is also an important reason why she can make the right trade-offs in the face of love and career.

Whether it is academics, career, or mate selection, Jiang Yaning's every choice is very down-to-earth, and he has his own sober and pragmatic judgment.

03  

Different personality cults and expectations lead to different obsessions with ideal love

The impact of Jiang Defu and An Jie's marriage on their daughters Jiang Yafei and Jiang Yaning can be said to be a lifetime.

The sisters' choice of marriage has always been based on their parents.

Near the finale of the play, there is a dialogue between An Jie lying on the hospital bed and the mother and daughter.

"Mom, you're so happy!" "Yes, I'm happy!"

"When you married my dad, did you think you would be so happy?" "To be honest, I didn't think about it. ”

"Then why are you still marrying your father?"

"At that time, I was quite unsure, and I always felt that marrying your father was a little aggrieved and unwilling. ”

"Now, are you still wronged, aren't you unwilling?"

……

It was Jiang Yaning who sighed, and it was Jiang Yafei who asked.

Jiang Yaning sighed that her mother was really happy, because she had always been very sure and envious of her mother An Jie's marriage from beginning to end.

When the truth of the Jiang Changyi incident was revealed, she said, "Dad is a great gentleman, where to find a person like Dad, Mom is happy enough in this life." ”

Because she envied her mother's happy marriage, she admired her father Jiang Defu since she was a child, and she witnessed Jiang Defu's integrity, courage and righteousness every time the Jiang family had a major turmoil.

In Jiang Yaning's heart, her father is the standard of a perfect partner, and she has always hoped to find a lover like her father.

This obsession has not changed before or after she goes to college. Therefore, when she met Meng Tianzhu, she knew that she had met the person she was waiting for in this life.

On the contrary, Jiang Yafei asked her mother if she had ever regretted it, because she was curious about why her arrogant mother compromised.

Jiang Yafei's "domineering" distinct personality completely follows her mother An Jie, she doesn't want to wronged herself, and no one can change what she recognizes.

Jiang Yafei has admired her mother since she was a child, and she protects her mother no matter what, she has her mother's stubbornness, arrogance, and self, but she lacks her mother's knowledge, cultivation and vision.

Jiang Yafei's personality is destined to be conquered only by someone who can make her "worship" spiritually, and such a person must have the characteristics that she does not have, but yearns for.

Therefore, Jiang Yafei has always had a soft spot for the learned and cultivated opposite sex.

04  

The impetus of parents catalyzes emotional belonging

Jiang Yafei has experienced three relationships, and all three relationships ended in the struggle with her parents.

At first, Jiang Yafei had a good impression of Yu Daguang, the secretary general, because he was deeply attracted by Yu Daguang's literati temperament, but An Jie thought that Yu Daguang was just a secretary and was far inferior to his daughter, so he teamed up with Jiang Defu to beat the mandarin duck.

The intervention of her parents made Jiang Yafei's first love in the bud, causing her strong dissatisfaction.

Then, An Jie introduced Meng Tianzhu, the "potential stock" in the army, to Jiang Yafei with good intentions.

But Yafei didn't give any face at all, she hated Meng Tianzhu, who had a local accent, and deliberately embarrassed her when she went on a blind date, so that Meng Tianzhu couldn't get off the stage every time, and gave him the nickname "Director Hungry".

Of course, there is an element of deliberately rebelling against her parents, but also because she has not let go of her obsession with literati.

It wasn't until he met Wang Haibo, a rival in his childhood, that Jiang Yaning suddenly discovered that after not seeing him for many years, the "gentleman" of the year had become a university professor with extraordinary temperament and talent.

Jiang Yafei secretly went to listen to Wang Haiyang's lecture, and watching Wang Haiyang on the podium talking eloquently, Jiang Yafei felt a sense of admiration in her heart.

At this time, although Wang Haiyang was divorced and still had children, his knowledge, cultural accomplishment, as well as his maturity, understanding and tolerance deeply attracted Jiang Yafei.

On the one hand, the parents who felt sorry for their daughter's loss once again strongly opposed the relationship, and on the other hand, Wang Haibo's parents quietly assisted in matchmaking behind their son's happiness for the sake of their son's happiness.

In the end, Jiang Yafei, who was determined to defend love, stole the household registration book and completed her marriage.

Jiang Yafei's choice did not give her parents any room for negotiation, although her parents interfered, but it was also inevitable for her to insist on her own personality.

After marriage, Jiang Yafei, in order to be a good stepmother and not even have children, An Jie finally respected her daughter's choice after persuasion.

Compared with her sister's bumpy love road, her younger sister Jiang Yaning only experienced a relationship, and she firmly grasped her happiness and lived like a mother.

Meng Tianzhu, the "potential stock" in the army that An Jie has selected thousands of times, was originally Jiang Yafei, who was going to match Jiang Yafei at the right age.

She carefully calculated that Meng Tianzhu had a bright future, and he was undoubtedly the best candidate for the "successor of the Jiang family".

An Jie just waited for Jiang Yafei to nod, but who expected that his wishful thinking was ruthlessly overturned by his daughter.

However, the fertilizer and water do not flow into the fields of outsiders, how can An Jie watch a talent like Meng Tianzhu miss out on the Jiang family.

Jiang Defu said, "Are you playing Yaning's idea again?" ”

let An Jie see her heart clearly, so she took the opportunity of Meng Tianzhu to go on a business trip to study and asked him to bring a sweater to Jiang Yaning, who was studying in college.

If this happens, it will be a beautiful thing, and if it doesn't work, it will be natural.

After all, Jiang Yaning is the only college student in the Jiang family, and An Jie is a little unwilling to marry Jiang Defu back then, and he doesn't want to wronged his youngest daughter.

But fate is so wonderful, Jiang Yafei can't look down on people, but Jiang Yaning is very satisfied.

Jiang Yaning is in college, and there is no shortage of young talents around her, but in her heart, what she yearns for is the love of her parents, and she wants to find someone like her father.

And Meng Tianzhu can become a son-in-law candidate in An Jie's eyes because An Jie also sees the shadow of Jiang Defu in him.

Although Jiang Yaning and her mother's personalities are completely different, they have the same vision and judgment in choosing a mate, and they identify the same type of man.

Therefore, Jiang Yaning's love can also be said to have met the right person at the right time and in the right place.

But An Jie only facilitated this meeting, and it was Jiang Yaning who firmly grasped this opportunity.

Jiang Yaning graduated from a key university, and college students were a scarce resource at that time, and her family conditions were good, so she could have chosen better development opportunities.

In order to protect this relationship, Jiang Yaning chose to return to the island to be a teacher to accompany and support Meng Tianzhu.

In the trade-off between feelings and career, Jiang Yaning showed her foresight and transparency, and she became the wife of a major general.

Write at the end:

Revisiting "Parental Love" makes us more aware of the diversity and complexity of the emotional world, and the choice of feelings is not absolutely good or bad.

Jiang Yafei and Jiang Yaning's different choices prove that there is no fixed pattern to happiness.

Whether it is Jiang Yafei's tenacity and dedication as a stepmother, or Jiang Yaning's glory and responsibility as the wife of a major general, they have all found the value and happiness of their lives.

Everyone has their own unique path, and the key lies in how we can bravely face and cherish our choices in a limited environment and in combination with our own conditions.

Eventually, we will all discover that true happiness is always around us.

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Text: Anri

Editor-in-charge|Xiang Wanwan