Gao Yalin is not simple

A small package of hemp

2024-05-13 11:41Posted in Beijing, creators in the field of parenting

Last week, Gao Yalin's cheating and domestic violence by his current girlfriend (Wei Jia) set off a storm of discussion on the Internet!

Just when netizens were hugging the woman,

Wei Jia released a number of chat records one after another, saying: "If it wasn't for the children to go to school and get a household registration, there would be no farce."

Gao Yalin also sent a text message in response to Wei Jia after the matter was exposed:

"The stone in my heart has fallen to the ground, and I can just have a lot of time to do the household registration business."

Only then did netizens understand that they were angry for a long time:

"So you used us as guns?!"

As you know, I don't like to take a position on things like this, and I don't like to stand on who is right and who is wrong, because it's hard for onlookers to make it clear.

But in addition to eating melons and watching fun, why some private things can ferment greatly,

There must be a universal truth behind it.

The honest and honest Xia Donghai in "Family with Children", who distinguishes between right and wrong,

It's just the public's filter for Gao Yalin, a migration and assumption of perfection, and then put him on the altar.

As this netizen said,

Why do so many public figures collapse every year, but there are still many people who worship celebrities and Internet celebrities in the slightest?

Because our lives are engulfed by the word "perfect".

"Emotionally stable, whether sad or angry, you can't casually reveal your true emotions and state"

"The expectation for the child is that he will be obedient and not bullied by other children, have good academic performance and have many hobbies and specialties, and pay attention to hygiene and rules while not losing the fun of children"

"You have to be sharp, not aggressive"

...

Under the framework of many extreme pursuit of 100 points, a chain reaction has been caused:

Placing this unattainable goal on people who are far away from us triggers a "halo effect":

Cognitive judgments about others are first derived from one's own likes and dislikes, and then other qualities of the object of cognition are deduced from this judgment.

Then when the other party shows the true side of human nature, he can wake up to the fact that he has added too much to his filter.

Do you still remember Yu Wenliang, a short video Internet celebrity that exploded last year?

Compared with other packaged Internet celebrities, Yu Wenliang, who has no filter, no script, and no exaggerated plot, is very down-to-earth.

You can see him appearing on any occasion and doing anything in an undisguised state.

Many netizens also began to imitate Yu Wenliang and show their small shortcomings.

Yu Wenliang also relied on his truthfulness to gain millions of fans in ten days.

When fame hit, the profile of Yu Wenliang's account still stated that he would not accept the wide range and would not bring the goods.

Netizens called Yu Wenliang a representative of all ordinary people.

However, during a microphone connection, the other party's anchor said that he came to the Internet to make money.

Yu Wenliang responded:

"You said what was in my heart, so let's circle it together."

As soon as these words came out, Yu Wenliang's comments plummeted, and some netizens said:

"There are too many examples of dragon slaying boys becoming evil dragons."

But can Yu Wenliang's speech really be described as evil?

Of course, this is not the case.

From the media to the account, it is a reasonable and legal process.

He was wrong in not acting as perfect in the hearts of those who liked him.

No matter what kind of environment we are in, or what role we are playing,

There are always a lot of people who ask us to be a perfect person,

But few people tell us that there are shortcomings that are the true nature of human beings.

The blind pursuit of perfection is itself a manifestation of imperfection.

Because no one is perfect.

Gu Ailing, who won the championship at the Winter Olympics, has not only become an example of winning glory for the country, but also a reference for many parents when raising their babies.

She is indeed excellent,

In addition to skiing, horseback riding, football, boxing, archery, rock climbing... Hobbies are not only sports, but also piano ballet!

In the high-density training and itinerary, Gu Ailing's results were maintained well.

In the final exams at Stanford University, she could get perfect marks in all subjects.

Besides

Her figure and appearance and dressing taste are also very online.

There seems to be no fault in this girl.

Gu Ailing is no longer a person's name, but a symbol of "perfection".

But, does she really have no shortcomings?

remembered that I had swiped a short film about her before, which recorded Gu Ailing in daily life,

The camera is focused on her room,

Hats, goggles, and gloves are all piled up on the coffee table.

Clothes and insoles were also thrown on the ground casually,

There were also a few unworn clothes hanging from the chairs.

Gu Ailing said:

"It's what people look like on the go. I have a lot of stuff that I move around a lot. ”

And he said,

"My mom doesn't say that. She said my biggest flaw was being sloppy. ”

Gu Ailing also revealed that she doesn't like to fold quilts very much, and her mother is always angry about it.

But she didn't understand, she was supposed to sleep on it, why fold?

You see, this world champion who is the envy of parents all over the country and even all over the world,

There will also be many shortcomings that children have, and they will also make their mothers angry.

It can be seen that this is not unusual.

Remembering what Chernyshevsky said:

"Since there are also black spots on the sun, it is even more impossible for things in the world to be without flaws."

In this world, there are no perfect scores,

People with shortcomings are more vivid and complete.

Only by understanding this truth can we no longer be surrounded by the so-called perfect trap and be able to look at people and things more objectively.

Whether it is for public figures, or for those around us who have high positions, good jobs, or even superior backgrounds,

It's all the same.

Learn to put down the filter first and look at them with the eyes of ordinary people.

No matter how strong a person is, he also has a weak side,

No matter how good a person is, there are also areas that he is clumsy.

learn to disenchant the word "perfect" and allow flaws to exist,

Because we are all ordinary people.

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