Wang Ziru: Be a boy who is not defined

Text: Thirteen sisters

Wang Ziru's state is generally judged as "excess self-esteem" in psychology.

You all think he's patting the boss's ass, but in fact, he's patting the boss's ass, but more importantly, he's mainly patting his own ass.

This kind of person must protect his self-esteem no matter what, and he wants to amplify his self-esteem no matter what the situation, which can be understood as "even if he is fostered, he can have an independent personality".

Therefore, Mr. Luo's previous definition of "strange" does not represent all human beings.

This is not a miracle of human beings, nor is it a product of evolution, this is the luck of being born at the right time and Wang Ba meeting mung beans.

You can't define him as a "greasy man", after all, in the eyes of some entrepreneurs, he is a little fresh meat, and they think that everyone has to recognize him as a little fresh meat.

So he has always been a boy who can't be defined.

If you think about how wrong people are, in nature they still know that there is no killing without buying and selling, don't you know that there is no leader who loves to eat this set and there is no freedom to understand this set?

If you don't believe it, look at the leader's eyes.

Good guy, Mr. Dong's demeanor and posture are the other side that I can't touch in my life.

As we all know, no matter what level a person climbs, no matter how high his worth or how great his achievements, there is always one thing that is indispensable, that is, emotional value.

Those who are more oily than him are not as emotionally valuable, and those who are more emotionally valuable than him are not as oily as him.

In this regard, Mr. Wang Ziru has provided a very complete set of textbook-level "Guidelines for the Use of Emotional Values", which we might as well study.

"I don't do anything every day, just watch her have a meeting"

"Just looking at what she says and does, I think it's a very happy thing"

Takeaway: Everyone has a different definition of happiness, and openly saying "my happiness comes from my boss" in front of the camera is the highest emotional value provided to the boss personally.

By the way, it also reflects that the boss has many meetings, is dedicated, and his words and deeds are pleasing to the eye, which makes people feel happy when they see it.

You see, how many middle-aged men can provide such emotional value to the women around them, not to mention other women, even for their wives, can most men do it?

It's hard to imagine that the thirteenth brother-in-law said to others: "I don't do anything every day, just watching my wife work, watching her do this and that, I feel very happy"...

Take the household registration book directly, and see you at the Civil Affairs Bureau at 9 o'clock tomorrow.

It can only be said that greasy is also an ability, and not every man has this ability.

"Give me an office closer to you"

"I'll report to you at any time"

Takeaway: Grasp the core of the "attachment relationship" and be like a cat - I won't stick to you, but I'm just 5 meters away from you, never abandoned, and always on call.

This proper sense of distance makes Wang Ziru's sycophants more beautiful - I can do nothing, just watch you do it, but there is one thing I must do, that is, I can go to your office at any time and report my happiness to you.

What kind of technique is this? It is the core of "soft rice and hard eating": "hard".

Friends who often eat soft rice know that it is easy to be eliminated if you eat too much soft rice, so you must master the hardness and heat.

Too soft is easy to not be taken seriously, and too hard is easy to cause disgust. "You give me an office close to you" sounds like "don't move, I'm the only one to cook", and it's hard for the person being reported to resist.

"I haven't read the pay slip that Gree gave me"

Key points: When talking about feelings, you can't talk about money, and you can't talk about money.

Mr. Wang is well versed in the essentials of "choosing sides", in a certain situation, he and Gree are a family, and the boss is his own person, and some insider information (such as income) that only a family and his own people need to know is the core information of the team.

It's like you can't tell your wife's best friend how much your monthly pocket money is.

At critical moments, maintaining one's privacy is maintaining the privacy of one's boss.

Moreover, unanimity to the outside world is a kind of top-level ambiguity and romance.

"She's under a lot of pressure, but she's also very bold"

Takeaway: Skillful use of pressure distribution and pot-carrying techniques.

1. The boss used me to take on the pressure - if something went wrong, it was my problem, after all, the boss had already taken on the pressure of choosing the wrong one to use me.

2. The boss also reflects a strong courage - if I do something good, it is the boss's good vision, which is the result of her courage to use talents.

I carry the black pot, and you get the grades, but whether it's messed up or done, the boss's personality charm is always online, and it's not okay for me to drag my feet.

This is the embodiment of the greatest emotional value that a man can give to a female boss, and everyone must learn from it.

But it's not everyone who learns. Imagine that the thirteenth brother-in-law said to me: "You have taken a lot of pressure to marry me, but you have also shown great courage"...

I was going to see you at the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau at nine o'clock tomorrow morning, but after hearing this, I felt that it was better to forget it.

"I want to overcome"

But that's part of my integration.

Key points: Let the boss feel that I am not without pressure, nor without difficulties, but also I have overcome a lot of difficulties, sacrificed myself, and challenged the limits, and then I have worked hard to start with you, gradually integrate, and gradually adapt.

You must cherish my efforts and sacrifices, don't think that I don't care, don't think that I am dispensable, and if possible, don't forget to give me some compensation or reward.

"You are a blank slate, in fact, you don't know anything"

"You will definitely make mistakes when you do things, and someone will send you money"

Key points: Stand on the same team with the boss, set the employees as another team from the perspective of the manager, and form an essential antagonism, that is, the opposition between the capitalist and the laborer. lest the boss himself be embarrassed to be a capitalist, embarrassed to exploit and exploit.

What he means is: the college students you recruit are all blank slates, they are bound to make mistakes, and you have to pay them.

He described this most basic labor relationship between leaders and employees as "charity relief" and "imperial grace", that is to say, in a large enterprise, is it that there are many mistakes made by the new members of the company, or are there many mistakes made by the decision-making level above? Is it because the employees have not done a good job in the blank sheet or because of the mistakes of the top management and factional infighting?

You see, Wang Ziru understands the value of emotions, he makes the boss a living bodhisattva, and pushes the responsibility to 625, but describes the legal and compliant salary as giving money to the wrong blank paper. The boss's personality suddenly became noble, can you not be happy?

Zhou Papi listened to it and called it an expert.

This textbook shows us what it means to be "can have an independent personality when you are fostered".

So how do you do it? The "excess self-esteem" mentioned at the beginning is an essential core element.

As for why there is excess self-esteem, there are some historical reasons for this. Many people may not know that Mr. Wang once had an alias, called "difficult to raise", which is what his ex-girlfriend called him.

The ex-girlfriend's evaluation of "difficult to raise" contains a lot of problems from his original family, such as his father's alcoholism, gambling, problems in his parents' marriage, he was fostered at a relative's house, etc...

These childhood misadventures are inseparable from Wang Ziru's habit of maximizing self-esteem when he was growing up.

This unlucky child is really not very smooth, especially after being scolded by Luo Yonghao. This kind of upbringing is too unpleasant for a man who has been relatively self-enclosed since he was a child, just wants to gain self-esteem, and is unwilling to bear being ignored, despised and discarded, and seeking a way out to continue to gain high self-esteem is enough to become a lifelong topic.

There are many such people, some people may live a good life by working hard, and some people may rely on resources to take shortcuts to change their lives. Obviously, Wang Ziru is the latter.

In the latter place, there are two kinds, one is pure technical ability, and the other is emotional blessing. Obviously, Wang Ziru is the latter.

In fact, most people with excess self-esteem have one thing in common: that is, they do not have enough self-esteem.

Regardless of whether this lack of self-esteem is due to family relationships or social destruction, in short, after excess self-esteem, they will be eager to redeem and expand their self-esteem through various interpersonal relationships, work styles, conversation or actions, etc., and they usually feel very normal about themselves, thinking that they are really good, with high self-efficacy, this is a kind of self-esteem compensation that does not care about the feelings of others, as long as others are not embarrassed, we are embarrassed.

So you see, giving a person enough self-esteem and self-confidence is the most effective way to prevent him from becoming greasy. When you usually take the baby, you should pay attention to the child's self-esteem can be damaged in many ways, the relationship between parents is not harmonious, neglect or too strict discipline, disrespect for the child's wishes, etc., can make his self-esteem insufficient, and in the future, he will cause excess because of greed for self-esteem, and do some very incomprehensible things.

On the other hand, when you see a person with excess self-esteem, you can symbolically sympathize with him before you feel that he is inflated and unable to recognize himself.

We can't guess how much self-confidence they have, but how much inferiority they have can be seen.