My name is Li Hua, I am 36 years old, I have been married for many years and have two lovely sons. The family lives in an ordinary community and lives an ordinary and busy life.
One night, I was sitting on the sofa watching TV, and suddenly heard my wife Yaoyao's voice: "Brother Hua, I just talked to my mother on the phone, and she said that she would come to stay for a few days. ”
I was taken aback, how could my mother-in-law come to live so suddenly? She usually lives in the countryside and rarely comes to the city. I hesitated and said, "Wouldn't that be a bit of a problem?" Our house was already quite crowded. ”
Yaoyao smiled and said, "It's okay, I told my mother that she just brought a bag and won't take up too much space." ”
Seeing Yaoyao's resolute attitude, I knew that she must have missed her hometown and her mother's affection. I was a little embarrassed, but I nodded. After all, my mother-in-law is also my wife's relative, and I, as the son-in-law of my son's daughter-in-law, should also do my filial piety.
Not long after, the mother-in-law came with a small bag as agreed. After changing into slippers, she walked into our house unceremoniously.
My sons and I looked at each other, both with a hint of doubt and nervousness. We have always been a small family since we were children, will the arrival of my mother-in-law break this balance?
The next morning, when I was about to go out to work, I couldn't help but ask Yaoyao, "Is my mother-in-law going to live in our house all the time?" ”
Yaoyao smiled and said mysteriously, "I'll tell you when you get home in the evening." ”
Throughout the day, I was restless and pondered about my mother-in-law's accommodation. After work, I hurried home, hoping to solve the mystery.
When I got home in the evening, my mother-in-law said to me with a smile: "Brother Hua, I just came to see my children and grandchildren this time, and I really only stayed for a few days, so I won't cause you trouble." ”
I breathed a sigh of relief, and finally understood what my mother-in-law meant. She just wanted to come and see us, bring a sense of affection and care, and didn't plan to stay long. The doubts in my heart vanished in an instant.
Over the next few days, my mother-in-law and we got along very well. She wakes up early every day and is busy making breakfast for her children and grandchildren and playing with them. The arrival of my mother-in-law filled our little family with warmth and happiness.
Whenever my mother-in-law and grandchildren are together, I feel a deep sense of affection. The communication and laughter between them made me feel the warmth of home.
Although my mother-in-law only moved in for a short time, that kind of family affection and warmth made me cherish and cherish this home even more. In this family, my parents have been with their babies for 22 years, and Yaoyao and I have also gone through so many years.
The 20-minute wait made me understand that family is a gathering place of family affection, no matter the ups and downs, or the long stream of family affection, it makes this land seem warmer.
After a few days, the atmosphere at home suddenly became a little tense. There were some disputes between the mother-in-law and Yaoyao, who were originally in harmony.
One night, I came home to find my mother-in-law and Yaoyao arguing in the kitchen. I immediately walked over to find out what was going on.
"Mom, how can you do this to me!" Yaoyao said crying.
The mother-in-law's face was a little unhappy, and she replied, "I just hope that you will pay more attention to your family and spend more time with your children." ”
I was shocked and couldn't understand why two people would have an argument over something like this. Seeing their expressions, I understood that this might be a conflict caused by a previous misunderstanding.
I quickly asked, "What the hell is going on?" Why are you so angry? ”
Yaoyao said with red eyes: "Mom thinks that I don't care enough about the children, I'm always busy with work, and I don't accompany them enough. ”
The mother-in-law sighed: "I know that you are very busy in life now, but family is the most important thing, and children need your company." ”
I looked at them with emotion, and I felt a little helpless. This kind of quarrel is not the way we always get along, and I don't know what to do to resolve this conflict.
Suddenly, I remembered something important. I walked up to Yaoyao and whispered, "Honey, I know that children need your care, but I also know that you have done a lot for your family. ”
Yaoyao looked up at me, her eyes a little puzzled.
I added: "My mother-in-law also wants you to cherish your family more, and she made this request out of love for her children. We should look at this from a different perspective. ”
Yaoyao was silent for a moment, then nodded. She wiped away her tears, walked to her mother-in-law's side, and said softly: "Mom, I understand what you mean, I will pay more attention to the needs of the children and get along with them more." ”
The mother-in-law listened to Yaoyao's words, and the anger on her face gradually dissipated. She smiled kindly and replied, "Okay, as long as you understand." ”
So, my mother-in-law and I helped Yaoyao cook dinner together, and the meal was enjoyed quietly and warmly. We no longer quarrel, but use actions to express our cherishing and love for our family.
From that day on, the atmosphere in the house was harmonious again. The mother-in-law also gradually understood Yaoyao's distress and pressure, and she began to help take care of the children more and share household chores with Yaoyao.
Gradually, I also realized the importance of family. Each of us has our own busyness and worries, but only family can give us real support and warmth.
Now, I understand the meaning of my mother-in-law's visit 20 minutes ago. She doesn't want to disrupt our lives, but in this way, she wants to make us cherish each other more and pay more attention to our families.
Family is a warm harbor and emotional sustenance. Yaoyao and I carry the family heritage of our parents with children for 22 years, and we also have our own entanglements and confusions. However, we have been working hard to face every conflict and quarrel in the family with love and tolerance.
However, on the third day of my mother-in-law's stay, an unexpected contradictory incident suddenly happened.
That night, I came home to find Yaoyao and her mother-in-law arguing in the kitchen. Listening to their voices, I felt a little headache.
"Mom, how can you treat children like this? They're just having fun, there's no need to be so angry! Yaoyao's voice carried a hint of anger.
"You're their mom, you should take care of them!" The mother-in-law replied with a menacing salute.
I hurried into the kitchen to try to calm their argument. But neither of the two strong women would budge, and there was a tense atmosphere in the room.
"Enough, you both calm me down!" I raised my voice, trying to suppress the emotions of the two of them.
The mother-in-law choked back tears and said, "Brother Hua, I'm all for your good these days, I'm afraid that they will play too crazy and there will be danger." ”
Yaoyao complained: "Mom, the children are still young, they should have their own world, and we shouldn't restrict their freedom all the time." ”
I calmed the two of them and told them to put down the argument first. This dispute made me suddenly realize that conflicts in the family are inevitable, especially between different generation gaps and perceptions.
There used to be just me, Yaoyao and my sons in this family, and we relied on each other and had a silent understanding. But now, with the mother-in-law on board, she brings different values and ways of education. The contradictions between us have also been revealed.
The past few days of getting along with each other have made me realize that family is a small society full of strife, but it has also taught me more tolerance and understanding.
I think my mother-in-law is also for the good of her grandchildren, and her sense of worry and protection is out of love for them. Yaoyao, on the other hand, hopes that children can grow up freely and have their unique childhood memories.
This quarrel caused me to reflect on affection, responsibility, and family. As a husband and father, I need to do more than just meet my own needs, but also balance the interests and emotions of each member of the family.
This small contradictory incident reminded me that family affection in my family is not so simple, and it also made me cherish and protect this warm home even more.
In the days that followed, my mother-in-law and we became a little awkward. At first, she was still helpful, helping with household chores and taking care of the children, but gradually, she began to interfere too much in our lives.
One afternoon, I was playing a game with my sons when my mother-in-law suddenly walked into the room and looked at us with some displeasure on her face. She reproached: "You are all addicted to these boring games, and you don't have time to study properly!" ”
I retorted with some annoyance: "Mom, the kids have done their homework, and they have the right to rest and play." ”
The mother-in-law said angrily, "Is the homework that simple? They don't bother to do it at all. You parents spoil their children too much! ”
Yaoyao and I exchanged glances and felt that my mother-in-law had gone too far. We tacitly understand that family affection is precious, but we should also have our own lifestyle and planning.
As time went on, the mother-in-law's interference became more and more serious. Not only did she be strict with her children's studies, but she also often criticized me and Yaoyao's living habits.
One night, Yaoyao and I were going to watch a movie and enjoy a rare world of two. Just as we were about to watch the movie, my mother-in-law stood at the door and said with a straight face, "What movie are you watching?" I don't go to bed so late, and I have to go to work tomorrow. ”
I felt irritated for a while, after all, as a couple, we also need some time and space for both of us. So, I straightened my back and said firmly, "Mom, thank you for your concern, but we need to have our own lives." We will arrange our own time and do not require you to interfere too much. ”
My mother-in-law looked at me with some disappointment and turned away. Yaoyao and I looked at each other, as if we realized the contradictions hidden in family affection. Family is supposed to be a union of affection, but it also requires personal freedom and independence.
Since then, my mother-in-law has gradually relaxed her requirements for us, she has started to pay more attention to the development of the children, and she is willing to respect our lifestyle. The atmosphere of our home has gradually returned to harmony.
Now, when I think back to the days when my mother-in-law moved in with her bag, I understand a truth: family affection is the cornerstone of the family, but it also requires respect and understanding between individuals. Each of us should have our own lives and choices, and these choices also need to grow together under the protection of family affection.