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My name is Zhang Daxin, I am 28 years old, and I am a freelancer who does fashion design. I am more easy-going and independent, living alone in a small apartment in Shanghai. Although I live a simple life, I feel happy and fulfilled every day when I draw and design.
I have an older sister, Zhang Xiaolin, who is 3 years older than me, and a son who has just entered primary school. She is married to her husband, Ah Biao, and they live in another neighborhood 20 minutes away from me. My sister has a strong personality and likes to discipline me, but in fact, she still cares about me in her heart. My sister and I had a good relationship when we were younger, and we often played together; When I grew up, I had some conflicts, but she was still an important family member to me. Her husband Ah Biao is an old acquaintance of our family, and he often helps my sister take care of me, so that our sister can calm down, so that the relationship is not so bad that it is out of control.
At 10 o'clock that night, I was home alone watching a movie on my phone. The movie was at its most exciting when my phone rang suddenly, startling me. It turned out to be a video call from my sister.
I'm a little impatient, and I've had a little dispute with my sister lately, and I don't want to listen to her. But I still pressed the answer button, and my sister in the picture looked angry: "Zhang Daxin, you open the door for me!"
I just realized that my sister was outside my house at this time! Why did she come knocking on my door at night? I panicked: "Sister, calm down, it's too scary to knock on the door like this, right?"
"Who told you not to answer my phone! If you don't open the door again, I'll just find the property to open the door!" My sister was so excited that her face turned red.
I had to get out of bed in a hurry and open the door, only to see my sister standing outside the door, still carrying a bag in her hand, as if she was preparing to spend the night. She walked in huffy, took a closer look at my room, and sat down heavily on the couch.
I asked her to calm down first and poured her a glass of water: "What the hell is going on, running in the middle of the night to scare people to death." Does Ah Biao know?"
"He's on a business trip, and I'm alone and can only come to talk to you! You don't answer my phone, I'm worried about you!" My sister drank the water and softened her tone.
I immediately called my brother-in-law, Ah Biao, and said that my sister had come over suddenly. Ah Biao quickly connected, and his tone was a little helpless: "I came to quarrel with you again?" She's been under a lot of pressure lately, don't listen to her nonsense, just coax her. ”
I looked helplessly at my sister, who seemed to have calmed down and looked at the magazine on my desk. I said to Ah Biao: "Then she will spend the night with me, you can rest assured that you can go on a business trip, we can handle it."
After hanging up the phone, I looked at my sister who was caught in the magazine, and I was still a little unhappy. The other day, my sister commented on one of my male friends, saying that I shouldn't be associated with this kind of person. I explained that it was just a normal friend, but she insisted on her opinion and forced me to delete that friend's contact details.
I was disgusted by her disciplined style, but she was my sister after all, and I couldn't get angry. This time she came to my house out of the blue, and I thought she looked at me like a child. But after thinking about it, my sister may be too lonely, her character is used to having someone to accompany her, and I can't drive her away.
"Hungry or not? Do you want to order takeout?" I tried to break the silence.
"Okay, call me the Kung Pao Chicken Meal I often order." My sister looked up, and her tone finally softened.
We chatted while eating. My sister said that she has been under a lot of pressure at work recently, her husband travels a lot, and her children are worried about going to school. I understood and encouraged her to make more friends and find support. As she chatted, her face softened a lot, and she stopped mentioning the things that made her angry.
After dinner, I prepared a bed for my sister in the guest room. She seemed to have completely lost her grumbling mood and began to ramble on and on about her son. I also chatted patiently with her, interjecting a few witty words from time to time to make her laugh.
Before going to bed, my sister hugged me and said, "Shin Shin, thank you for letting me stay here tonight." I'm much better with you. ”
I stroked her hair and said, "Okay, let's sleep." We'll talk about something. ”
The next morning, I got up and made breakfast, and my sister looked in good spirits. We had a casual chat, and then she said she was going home to clean up and come back to see me in a few days.
After sending my sister away, I breathed a sigh of relief, but I also understood her recent hardships. I decided to spend more time with her in the future, and maybe it will take some time for us sisters to rebuild trust and understanding. It doesn't matter if I give in this way, as long as my sister doesn't criticize my life decisions at will in the future, our relationship can slowly ease.
Since my sister suddenly stayed overnight, I have always reminded myself to care more about her and often take the initiative to contact her. At first, our relationship did ease for a while, my sister was not as critical of me as she used to be, and I learned to tolerate her little temper.
But it didn't last long, and just last week, things changed again. I participated in a fashion design competition and met the handsome Mr. Zhang, and we had a good conversation. I happily mentioned this encounter to my sister, but she immediately looked disdainful and decided that this person was definitely not simple.
"He's definitely trying to chase you! You are so simple, you will definitely be deceived by him!" My sister immediately made a definition.
"You've only seen him once, how can you judge people so casually?" I couldn't help but raise my voice.
"I'm for your good! You're small, and you can't protect yourself when you meet bad guys!" My sister also replied.
As a result, we had a big quarrel, and the friendly relations that had existed for more than a month were destroyed in an instant. I couldn't hold back the anger in my heart anymore and hung up my sister's phone directly.
This quarrel made me very sad. I thought our relationship was improving, but my sister still disciplined me like a child. Why did she slander my friend at will? I'm 28 years old and have the ability to tell the difference between right and wrong.
Just when I was angry, Ah Biao called me in a cautious tone: "Xinxin, tell me about your quarrel." She's straight-tempered, but it's actually because she cares about you too much that she's willing to care so much... Just think of her as if she was good for you, and don't be really angry. ”
I was silent. As always, Ah Biao acted as a mediator between us. He has a point, my sister is stubborn, but it's good that she cares about me. I shouldn't have turned my face with her because of her words.
"I know, Uncle Abiao, I will find an opportunity to apologize to her, and I will discuss it with her more in the future." I promise Ah Biao. Hanging up the phone, I thought quietly, trying to calm down.
I tried to figure out my sister's kindness and made up my mind to reconcile with her. However, my decision seems to have come too late, and my sister's anger has not yet subsided.
Just last night, she suddenly appeared at my door again, and her tone was extremely irritable: "Are you still in touch with that person?" If you still dare to see him, don't recognize me as a sister again!"
I was about to explain, but she asked aloud, "Do you treat me like family or stranger?" That's how you don't take me seriously?"
"No, sister, you calm down first. Let's take our time. I tried to persuade her, but my sister was so excited that tears came out: "We can't talk at all!" You're just selfish, you just want to do what you want to do!"
"Okay, you say I'm selfish, but what right do you have to care about me making friends?" I couldn't bear it anymore, "I'm not a child anymore, I have the ability to protect myself!"
We quarreled at the door, and no one would let anyone. At this moment, my mobile phone suddenly rang, and it was Ah Biao calling. I didn't pick up the phone anymore, but I heard Ah Biao say anxiously: "You two live in a public building, can you make a little noise?"
Hearing this, my sister and I were shocked and stopped arguing. Ah Biao is simply our fire brigade and prevented the escalation of the situation in time. My sister came into my house with red eyes, but no one wanted to look at anyone.
I called back Ah Biao to thank me and said that I would try to reconcile with my sister. Ah Biao understands our temper and patiently analyzes: "You are both manageable and easy to quarrel, but in fact, the relationship has always been good... It's better to compromise, she wants to protect you after all. ”
I know Ah Biao is right. We sisters always disagree about the way we care, but the feelings are not weak. I should not be stubborn, but put myself in her shoes.
I hung up the phone and went to pour my sister a glass of warm water. She took it silently, and her face finally softened. I looked at her and plucked up the courage to say, "Sister, I'm sorry."
My sister looked up at me with tears welling up in her eyes. We hugged each other, like snuggling in the dead of night when we were kids. I know that relatives must always learn to understand, tolerate and give in to each other. This time, I decided to take that step first.
After that scene, my relationship with my sister finally had a breakthrough. My sister is no longer obsessed with controlling my friends, and I have learned to be more understanding and grateful when she cares.
In this way, we slowly regained the fragile but precious trust between sisters. I would meet my sister for dinner regularly to talk about our lives and feelings. She also stopped just teaching, but began to listen to my ideas and respect my choices.
"Shin Shin, your designs are getting more and more individual! I'm really impressed. "Once when I saw my work, my sister praised it from the bottom of my heart.
"That's because you give me advice from time to time." I responded with a smile.
It's like we're back in the girlhood when we talked about everything. The fierceness in my sister's eyes disappeared completely, and was replaced by relief and pride in my growth. I also feel that a good relationship requires both parties to invest in affection and understanding.
Just yesterday, my sister invited me to her home. While my little nephew happily pulled me to tell him a bedtime story, I caught a glimpse of my sister standing by with tears smiling. At this moment, I deeply know that my family is my forever strong backing.
Before leaving, my sister gave me a big hug: "Shin Shin, we will be good friends in the future." If you are unhappy in any way, just tell your sister!"
I also hugged her tightly, my eyes hot: "Well, my dearest sister, thank you for always loving me."
Just when our sisterhood was fully repaired, Ah Biao also expressed his gratitude to me. He said that all these changes are due to my tolerance and understanding, which is a huge support for my sister.
"Xinxin, you have made her more and more mature and stable. She's a lot gentler with her friends now, and I'm so proud of you. I was touched by Ah Biao's warm words.
Through this series of ups and downs, I have seen the power of compromise in family relationships. I chose to understand my sister and take the first step to repair our differences, which ultimately allowed us to reap valuable mutual support. This has also become a kind of life belief that I adhere to - to tolerate and understand every imperfect person around me in love.
After repairing my relationship with my sister, my life seems to be a lot easier. We would often talk on the phone and together, and her concern for me turned into support and encouragement, making me feel the warmth of home after a long absence.
Just then, a piece of news suddenly shattered my sense of well-being. Mr. Zhang asked me to meet and said that he had actually been divorced a long time ago and had always liked me and wanted to pursue me.
I instantly tensed. Mr. Zhang is the object of my long-term crush, but at this time, the relationship with my sister has just been repaired, and if she knows the news, all efforts will come to naught.
I politely declined Mr. Zhang, but he refused to give up. In the days that followed, I was extremely depressed and depressed, and even my productivity dropped.
"What's the matter, baby, I've been absent-minded lately. Is it too busy at work?" My sister noticed my anomaly.
"Ah, no, maybe I haven't slept well lately." I'm vague.
"You came to my house for two days that weekend, and my sister took you to see a doctor for a checkup." My sister decided immediately.
I was overwhelmed, but I couldn't continue to hide it from her. Eventually, I mustered up the courage to tell my sister the truth.
Before I could finish speaking, my sister was anxious: "He already said he liked you?" This kind of person must be of bad character, and I was right to warn you before!"
I waited anxiously for her outburst, but my sister paused and said in a calm tone, "But now that you've grown up, you should judge for yourself who is good to you." My sister believes in you and won't be arbitrary anymore. ”
I looked up in surprise and saw a loving light in my sister's eyes: "Look away, what should come will eventually come, and what should go will eventually leave." Let's make the most of the present. ”
Her maturity calmed my turbulent emotions suddenly. I figured it out, my sister is my strong backing, and I should also be her spiritual sustenance. This is the most precious meaning of family.
"Thank you, sister. I'm going to keep everyone who should be with me. I hugged her tightly.
Since then, my sister has never pointed a finger at my private life. She gave me room to grow, and I learned to be a confidant she could trust. Perhaps age and experience will bring differences, but the family affection that blood is thicker than water has been tempered into steel, allowing us to overcome all kinds of difficulties and become each other's strongest backing.
Every time I think back to that journey now, I feel the impermanence of life. That's why I want to try my best to make up for every misunderstanding and discrepancy while my family is still around, and to convey my heartfelt gratitude, understanding and support to them.
This is the way of life that I have realized from this deep sisterhood, and it is also the spiritual wealth that I want to pass on to everyone. When you give for your family, life will give you the same warmth and strength. It's the greatest magic in the world.