Anything that happened in the past has no absolute impact on the future, the key is how you give different meaning to your experience. A one-eyed man is less than a completely blind man

Anything that happened in the past has no absolute impact on the future, the key is how you give different meaning to your experience. (by Adler)

A one-eyed man is more disadvantageous than a completely blind man, because he knows what is lacking. (Victor Hugo, Notre Dame de Paris)

Marriage is nurtured by people's expectations of marriage. The organizational components of ordinary life are very delicate and break at the touch of a button. Marriage weighs a lot on it, and it can't afford it. (Doris Lessing, Summer Before Dark)