How did a Chinese female war correspondent and an American major general cross the 30-year gap and stay together for the rest of their lives?
The daily life of two people will always be angry about discussing national defense issues, can this marriage last?
First meeting
Kui Jing, a female TV reporter whose surname is difficult to read, but whose name always appears in the public eye.
Kui Jing loves her job very much, she dedicates all her time to work, and she has aspired to be a host since she was a child.
When she managed to become a host, she felt that she should not only shine on a small TV station, but also go to war zones to cover those wars.
In this way, Kui Jing has written articles for many well-known Chinese media platforms such as the Global Times with her great goals, and she has her own unique views in the articles, and her three views of integrity have attracted a lot of attention.
Kui Jing was successfully elected as the first Chinese journalist in the world who could follow the US military, an achievement that was recognized worldwide, and Kui Jing was also the bravest of all journalists.
Kui Jing was selected to be a reporter with the army, and there was a big difference between a military reporter and a war correspondent.
Everyone is familiar with Luqiu Luwei of Phoenix Satellite TV, because this female reporter was selected to be a war correspondent during the Afghan war.
War correspondents interview people after war or photograph the environment after war, and more often civilians; The main targets of the reporters accompanying the army are the official heads and soldiers of the US military.
For a young female journalist, military reporting is a tedious and dangerous job, and no female journalist wants to do it.
Kui Jing won this journalist spot by her own efforts, and Kui Jing is willing to complete this task for the country.
This was her first close encounter with the war, and Kui Jing officially became a female reporter for Phoenix TV stationed in Washington, USA.
Every report of Kui Jing in the war is very dangerous, and she doesn't know when the artillery will blow up her side, so she hates the war very much.
In 2003, Kui Jing was invited to a charity to interview people who had donated money for the event, which was mainly for those who had been harmed in the war.
Some of them have broken families, some have lost their homes, all their possessions, and some have suffered severe physical disabilities or amputations.
So most of the people who came to this party were philanthropists, and these people were also people who hated the war.
At this party, Kui Jing recognized her future husband Hao Bu, and the gears of fate began to turn at this party.
At the charity gala, many people expressed their grief for the war and regretted those who were hurt in the war.
There is a box in the center of the return for donors, whoever has love and wants to donate can come directly to the donation box.
Kui Jing stood by waiting to interview others, and then she saw a man in a suit but with a straight posture and gray hair solemnly taking out a wad of dollars from the inside pocket of his suit.
Putting the dollar on his chest and praying religiously, and then putting the wad of dollars in the donation box, these actions suddenly moved Kui Jing.
Kui Jing quickly brought the microphone and the camera teacher to stop Hao Bu and prepare to interview him, through this interview, the two people had some understanding of each other.
Unexpectedly, the two people's views and understanding of the war are exactly the same, although the nationality is different, the status is different, and the age is different, but it is rare that the two have the same view of one thing.
The first time they met, the two had no idea what would happen in the future.
If two people become husband and wife, will the married life be very happy?
Together for a lifetime
Through an interview with Hao Bu, Kui Jing learned that Hao Bu was once a stormtrooper in the United States, had been promoted to major general in the army, fought a lot of battles for the United States, and left his dreams and beliefs in the army.
So after retiring, Hao Bu still stayed in the Ministry of Defense with his ideals, but Hao Bu did not want to be a major general in his heart, let alone fight.
"So what do you, as a major general, think about war?" Kui Jing asked Hao Bu.
"War? No, this is not what I was expecting, although I am a major general, I yearn for peace. Hao Bu replied solemnly.
Ms. Kui's answer shocked Ms. Kui, who interviewed members of the U.S. military every day, but few yearned for peace and resisted war.
Hao Bu, as a major general of the United States, did not openly express flattery to the US military, but resolutely stated his attitude, which Kui Jing did not expect.
It turns out that Hao Bu is 60 years old this year, he himself came through the bitter days of war, he knows how many people have lost their families and how many have lost their lives.
Therefore, Hao Bu does not want war to happen again at all, he longs for world peace, longs for global peace, and even more longs for someone to propagate peace.
Kui Jing rarely meets people who share her own personality and ideas, and the two discuss many issues about the relationship between war and peace, and the two seem to have forgotten each other.
However, Kui Jing's profound knowledge, the gap between the two people, and the problem of identity and status, did not dare to discuss other private issues with Hao Bu except for work.
Hao Bu admired Kui Jing very much, he knew what kind of suffering a female American reporter would suffer in the war, let alone a Chinese.
In Hao Bu's heart, he ignited his love for Kui Jing, so in private, he always asked Kui Jing to eat together, chat together, and express his love from time to time.
Kui Jing naturally understood the other party's hint, but the age difference between the two was 30 years, and there was a big gap in status, Kui Jing would not be with Hao Bu.
Therefore, in daily interactions, Kui Jing always deliberately avoids Hao Bu's emotional problems and exchanges, and Hao Bu has also been pursuing Kui Jing, but the two still maintain a pure friendship relationship.
Hao Bu is 60 years old and has a very good set of people, often writing letters to Kui Jing, sending Kui Jing a bouquet of roses he picked by hand every day, and often giving gifts.
What moved Kui Jing the most was that Hao Bu knew that he could not return to China for a long time, so he specially learned to make Chinese food according to the recipes of Kui Jing's hometown, which made Kui Jing burst into tears.
Judging from the bits and pieces of the two getting along, Hao Bu likes Kui Jing very much, and Kui Jing gradually began to accept Hao Bu, just afraid that his parents would not agree to this marriage.
Kui Jing has never dared to tell her parents about this, after all, Hao Bu is older than her parents.
With the help of Hao Bu, Kui Jing successfully published his own book, called "Kui Jing's Diary of the Army with the Iraqi War".
The book describes the war from the perspective of a female journalist and looks at it and the changes that took place in the two countries after the war from multiple perspectives.
After the publication of this book, Hao Bu worked very hard to promote Kui Jing, and even bought tens of thousands of books to give to soldiers in the army, which made Kui Jing feel that he was very supported.
After this incident, Kui Jing brought Hao Bu back to her parents, who did not approve of the marriage, but they felt that as long as it was good for their daughter, they could accept it.
Kui Jing told Hao Bu about his own care and the little things in the lives of the two of them, and the parents felt that the two could still get along together, so they agreed to the marriage.
The two finally achieved success and held a happy wedding in the United States, although the age difference was 30 years, but the marriage was happy.
After marriage, the two people also lived a happy life, but no matter how good a marriage is, there will be quarrels and stirring.
Kui Jing and Hao Bu's quarrel after marriage was over military and political issues between China and the United States.
The problem continues
The married life of the two is still very happy, Kui Jing gave up the position of military reporter for the family, she chose to continue to report for the war on the media platform.
Many people know that after Kui Jing married the American general, they are afraid that she will not continue to report on the situation in the United States, and they all think that she is a female reporter who admires foreign countries, and the ultimate purpose is to use her status as a reporter to marry into the United States.
Kui Jing did not do this, but used her status as a major general in the United States to continue to follow the news from the daily life and political situation of Americans.
Kui Jing has never forgotten her principles and original intentions, no matter who she marries or what kind of work she does, she will continue to report on events in the United States and the war situation for China.
In daily life, Hao Bu also continued to take care of Kui Jing as before marriage, helping her publish articles about "war and peace", and no matter how busy he was in his daily life, he would find time to date, just like a couple in love.
It's just that two people will have differences when talking about American political issues, and as long as they talk about political issues between the two countries, they will keep quarrelling.
Sino-US relations are always the root cause of quarrels between two people, and Hao Bu will deliberately avoid Kui Jing when communicating American politics with others, which makes Kui Jing feel very unhappy.
Although the two sides quarreled because of this, both sides understood their hearts, both of them were quarreling for their country, and both people had their own country in their hearts.
Both people will always put their country and people first, hoping that their country can become stronger and stronger, and the prospects for development will become broader and broader.
Hao Bu is a major general of the United States, and he certainly supports the policies and decisions of the United States, and Hao Bu will resolutely safeguard the interests of the United States.
As a Chinese, Kui Jing naturally puts China's interests and dignity first, so her every word and every remark is safeguarding China's rights and interests, and constantly supporting China.
Because the beliefs in the hearts of two people are different, even if they have the same understanding of war, they will still have disagreements because of the problems between China and the United States.
The two have also quarreled countless times over this issue, but both sides understand that neither side disrespects the other's country and politics, but will defend its own country more.
The two people have now avoided quarreling on this issue, knowing that the two sides have no intention of denigrating their own countries, and the two people will solve the problem of Sino-US relations better and better.
Although this marriage suffered for a period of time because of nationality and age, on the whole, the marriage was happy and the family atmosphere was good.
I believe that Kui Jing will continue to bring us reports in the United States, and I hope that she will update her social media platform more so that more Chinese people can understand the real state of life in the United States.
Thank you very much to the brave Kui Jing, who can continue to report on the war for the country during the war, and also let China know more about these American troops.
Without Kuijing's dedication, war news would not have been accurately and quickly transmitted back to China, and she was a very brave woman!
Bibliography:
1, China News Network: Kui Jing: Diary of the Iraqi War Army
2, China News Network: Baghdad after the quiet war (1): The first mission of the US military to enter the city?
3, China News Network: Misunderstanding resolved Phoenix Satellite TV's Kui Jing Xiaoyan was allowed to continue to interview with the US military
4, Kui Jing's work: "The "Phoenix" in the US Army: Kui Jing's Diary of the Iraqi War