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My name is Zhang Xiaoming, and I am a 35-year-old male white-collar worker. My mom and I live in the same city and have always had a good relationship. Although my mother is a little strong and stubborn, we are generally harmonious. Until three days ago, my mother suddenly came to the door and rightly asked me to give her 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses, otherwise she would forcibly occupy my newly purchased house. This sudden and unreasonable request finally made me deeply resentful of her.
When I came home from work that day, I had just opened the door, and my mother threw the door in, and said in an aggressive tone: "Zhang Xiaoming, hurry up and give me 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses, do you hear!"
I was stunned by my mother's yelling and demands, and I was stunned at the door, at a loss for a while. Although there were small conflicts before, my mother had never been so arrogant and unreasonable.
"Cost of living? Five thousand pieces? What are you kidding!" I frowned, slammed the door slammed the door, and shut my mom out. I paced back and forth in the room, trying to quell the sudden outburst of anger. My mother banged on the door outside, yelling for me to open it. I endured it, not wanting to say a word to her.
After more than ten minutes, my mother finally stopped scratching the door, and I reopened it, asking with a cold face: "What happened to you, why did you suddenly make such an unreasonable request?"
"I'm your mother, shouldn't you feed me if you earn money? Have you forgotten my kindness in pulling you up?" Mom said justifiably.
I knew that my mother was stubborn and difficult, so I tried to soften the tone: "I can give you a little household expenses, but five thousand yuan is too much."
"Excessive? Five thousand is not too much!" Mom immediately said, "If you don't give it, you won't be filial!" I pulled you up, worked hard to get you to school, and now you repay me like this!"
I couldn't bear it any longer, slammed the door hard, and my mother was shut out by me again. I paced back and forth in the room, rubbing my temples hard in an attempt to calm myself down. But my anger was completely ignited by my mother. Years of grievances suddenly came to my heart, and I couldn't wait to open the door, grab her fiercely, and ask one by one!
"Don't think about leaving today, I must ask clearly!" I yelled out the door.
"You let me go! You ungrateful son of a white-eyed wolf!" Outside the door came my mother's sharp scolding.
I couldn't hold back any longer, slammed the door open, grabbed my mother by the arm, and dragged her into the house.
"My tuition and living expenses are all earned by myself, and I have paid off so many debts for you, why are you blackmailing me like this!" I said through gritted teeth.
"You come less! How many clothes and books I bought you! I didn't pay the thesis tutoring fee for the year of your college entrance examination!" Mom yelled hysterically.
"Clothes books? Have you ever paid a penny for my own living expenses? The thesis tutoring is all paid by my own part-time work, don't talk to myself shamelessly!" I retorted with red eyes.
"You! You unfilial son!" My mother was speechless by me and her eyes widened.
"It's you who don't filial piety!" I was completely excited, "When I first worked, you took half of my salary and said what is filial piety!" The year I bought the house, you had to change the name of the house to half of you! For so many years, I didn't know where you spent your family's money, and now you are blackmailing me, who are you!"
When my mother heard me turn over the old accounts, her face turned pale, but she still said strongly: "That's how it should be!" I've raised you for so many years and spent so much money, can't you repay me?"
"Return? Is it not a return that most of my own money has been robbed by you? Don't try to fool the past today!" I forced my mother into a chair and blocked the door.
Just as our relationship was on the verge of a break, a sudden change broke the deadlock.
The mother suddenly burst into tears, choked and said: "Son, in fact, my mother has been hiding one thing from you..." The mother suddenly burst into tears, choked and said: "Son, in fact, my mother has been hiding one thing from you..."
I was a little surprised to see my mother's emotions suddenly out of control. We were still arguing fiercely just now, why was she suddenly so heartbroken?
"Mom, what the hell is going on? You say slowly, don't worry. I swallowed my anger, helped my mother to sit down, and handed her a tissue to wipe her tears.
Mom sobbed for a long time before she confessed the truth intermittently. It turned out that she had invested a sum of money this month to participate in a friend's investment project, and not only did she lose her money, but she also owed usury. Lenders violently force their mothers to encroach on her property if they can't pay the principal. My mother was so desperate that she thought of asking me for help.
When I heard my mother say this, I immediately understood that my suspicions and thunderous jumps were superfluous. My mother didn't mean to blackmail me, but I was forced to do nothing to ask for funding like this. I was deeply ashamed of my gaffe.
"Mom, don't worry. I understand your difficulty. How much money you owe, tell me specifically. I gently persuaded my mother to calm down and tell her all about what happened.
With tears in her eyes, my mother told the whole story intermittently. She was induced by a friend to participate in a loan investment plan with a principal of 300,000 yuan and a monthly profit of 20,000 yuan. Who knew that it was a scam in the third month, and the mother lost blood and was required to repay the loan shark immediately, otherwise the house was seized. I felt sorry for my mother who was deceived, and blamed myself for not discovering her abnormality in time.
"Mom, you go home and rest first. I will find a way to solve this problem, you collect the evidence of investment failure as soon as possible, and we will go to the police to deal with it. I reassured my mother that she would stop worrying about money.
Early the next morning, I applied to the bank for a loan shark and barely scraped together 500,000 yuan, temporarily solving my mother's urgent needs. I began to replan my family expenses, trying to make extra money, hoping to pay off this debt as soon as possible. In order to solve the problem in the long term, I also began to help my mother manage her finances to prevent her from being deceived again.
This twist and turn took a turn in my relationship with my mother. I realized that as a son, I should not doubt my mother's motives, but should support her in times of difficulty. I can't be overwhelmed by the pressure of work, and I need to treat my family with a more tolerant attitude.
My mother also learned from this lesson that I should not invest in risks without permission, let alone make a game behind my back. We both owe each other our understanding and trust. Based on this lesson, I believe we will re-establish a more harmonious mother-child relationship.
In this way, after misunderstandings and quarrels, we regained the warmth of home. I often go out for walks with my mom and go to the park together on weekends. Instead of talking about money, we focus our time and energy on strengthening emotional communication.
One day, we were sitting on a park bench looking at the children playing on the lawn, and my mother suddenly held my hand and said with tears in her eyes: "I'm sorry, son, this time it was my mother who made a big mistake and failed your hard work..."
I shook my head and whispered, "Mom, you don't need to blame yourself, I'm also at fault." We both owe each other understanding and trust. Everything else will pass, and now as long as you take care of your body, we will be satisfied. ”
Mom wiped away her tears and smiled. The warm autumn sun shone on her face, washing away the haze and sadness of these days. I also felt peace that I had lost for a long time. We walked slowly down the tree-lined path, and I pushed my mother's wheelchair and listened to her chatter about the situation and thoughts.
This is the power of home, even through hardships, it will bring back warmth and tranquility. I know that my loved ones are my most precious asset.
Through this misunderstanding, my mother and I gained a lot of insights.
First of all, I realized that I can't alienate my family just because I'm busy with work, and I can't be cruel to my mother. In fact, over the years, I have been too focused on my career and rarely cared about my mother's thoughts and needs. This time she failed to invest and ran into trouble, and I didn't care about her situation for the first time, but angered and scolded, which was really undeserved. As a son, I should often visit me at home, communicate calmly with my mother, and not be self-centered.
Second, I also learned that money does not determine the degree of alienation in family relationships. In the past, I often felt that my mother did not spare me for money, but after this misunderstanding, I found that family affection should not be covered by money. I'm angry with my mom because she asked for funding, and it hurts our feelings. I have to learn to understand her suffering from my mother's perspective and give tolerance.
Again, it made me realize that getting along with my family can't be done on a whim. I need to learn empathy and not to act aggressively because I am unhappy. In fact, I can calmly ask my mother why, instead of a rough confrontation. I will remember this lesson and use more love than resentment when communicating with my mother in the future.
Finally, I thank my mother for her generosity and tolerance. Although my tone was rude, she chose to forgive and took the initiative to explain the reason so that we could reconcile. This fully demonstrates the mother's great love. I want to spend more time with my mother in the days to come, so that she can feel my sincere care and respect.
Through this conflict and reconciliation, I value every moment with my mother even more. I began to take my mother out regularly to relax, and actively accompanied her to do health check-ups. After my mother understood my suffering, she stopped talking about money, and we were all trying to repair the relationship that had been estranged for some time.
I took my mother to many places she longed for. Take a boat cruise in West Lake, climb the Yellow Mountain to overlook, and also go to the old houses in your hometown to see. A healthy flush and smile regained on my mother's face, and I knew she was starting to feel the beauty of life.
I also revisited what really matters in my own life. Competition, money, status, are not the things I should care about the most. As a son of man, what I should cherish most is this precious family friendship. It is more precious than any wealth and success. I will no longer let work take up all my energy, but will leave time to my family.
This misunderstanding was like the sky clearing after a storm, washing away the regrets and estrangement between our mother and son. No matter what happens in the future, I will remember to treat those closest to me with tolerance, understanding and love. I believe we will have a more harmonious time.
This argument gave me a deeper understanding of my mother. I began to reflect that for years I had been unilaterally asking for my mom, but almost never considering her inner needs.
Mom is strong and stubborn on the surface, but I know that she is also fragile and sensitive inside. She cares so much about money, perhaps out of insecurity about her later life. As a daughter, I should not judge her, but put myself in her shoes.
I started calling home often to find out how my mom was doing. Finding that she was actually lonely living alone, I proposed to hire a carer to take care of her living. Mom readily agreed. With the care of the caregiver, my mother's life is much more regular, and her mental state is much better.
I also often invite my mother to stay with me. When she first came, she was still a little restrained, but seeing my warm and thoughtful hospitality, she let down her guard and became intimate with me.
"Mom, I have prepared a lot of delicious food for you, even if you want to eat when you are hungry, there are all here." I said with a smile.
"Good boy, mom worked hard for you." Tears of emotion flashed in my mother's eyes.
I took my mom to the supermarket shopping, shopping for her favorite ingredients and showing her the recipes I had recently learned. We were busy in the kitchen, and my mom gave me advice from time to time, it was like going back to when I was a kid.
After dinner, I sat on the balcony with my mother and chatted. The night grew thicker, the breeze was gone, and my mother looked at the brilliantly lit night scene and sighed softly: "Tonight's mother-daughter time is my happiest moment in years."
I took my mother's hand and whispered, "Mom, I'm sorry, I've snubbed you too much all these years." From now on, I will often come home to see you and bring you here often, so that our mother and daughter can enjoy the happiness of nature. ”
"Good boy, mom knows you're hard too. I'm old, I'm always awkward, you have to tolerate me more. "Mom had tears in her eyes.
"Mom, I understand you, our mother-daughter affection will always be there." I couldn't help but wet my eyes with tears.
This stay made my relationship with my mother a lot closer. I realized that the mother-daughter relationship, which is thicker than water, needs to be maintained by frequent talk and communication. I will no longer alienate my mother because of my busy life, but I will repair the relationship and be considerate of her needs at all times.
Since then, I have always brought my mother to stay with me regularly every month. We went to amusement parks, movie theaters, and together we prepared dishes that mom liked to eat. Mom gradually came back to life, and a smile was always on her face. I also feel peace of mind and fulfillment that I have lost for a long time.
This incident made me truly appreciate the value of my family. Even if there have been festivals, as long as we understand each other with sincerity, the bond of love will be firmly strengthened again. I will always cherish my mother's strong maternal love and let her feel the respect and cherishment for her as a daughter.
After this incident, I became more aware of the importance of understanding and communication. I began to take the initiative to ask my mother to go out with me to enhance communication and understanding between us.
One weekend, I invited my mother to my house. She was a little inhibited when she first arrived, but a smile quickly appeared on her face when she saw my carefully prepared lunch and room decoration. "Mom, these are the dishes you like to eat, just go." I served my mother hot rice and a few home-cooked side dishes. My mother ate with gusto, and kept praising my craft. After eating, I took my mother for a walk in the community, chatting and saying words that had not been finished for years.
"Mom, I've been too focused on work and life over the years, and I rarely pay attention to your thoughts, I'm sorry." I say.
"Amin, my mother is also at fault, you shouldn't always be embarrassed to ask for money." Mom said, holding my hand.
"I understand your distress now. You live alone, too. I said softly.
"Yes, I'm old, and I'm always a little uneasy." Mom sighed.
"Mom, from now on, if you are lonely, move in with me." I'll be with you, I'll make you happy. I stopped and said seriously.
"Good boy, mom knows you're good to me." Mom hugged me gladly.
This conversation allowed us to resolve our hearts. I started to take my mother out or to my house often, and she felt the warmth of home. My mother no longer mentions money, but takes care of my daily life.
Once, when my mother came to live at my house, she suddenly said that her chest was stuffy, maybe her heart was uncomfortable. I immediately took her to the hospital for a check-up. The doctor said it was mild angina and needed rest. I took a month off to take care of my mom at home. When my mother saw me like this, she shed tears of gratitude. "Mom, your body is mine, you must take care of yourself, don't let me worry." I said, holding my mother's hand.
This time it has strengthened our feelings even more. Mom gradually realized that money could not determine the estrangement of our relationship. She became keen to help me with household chores and often invited me to watch TV dramas together. When I come home from work, I can always smell my mother's hot rice. "Mom, I'm back." "Good boy, wash your hands and eat quickly." We would look at each other and smile and enjoy the fun.
My mom and I learned to understand, trust and be inclusive. Even if we are occasionally unhappy, we can sit down and communicate, instead of arguing. I began to cherish every moment with my mother and show my care and care for her all the time. Family affection should not be buried by money, only gratitude and mutual support can we have no regrets in this life.
After this incident, I made up my mind to give my mother a better life so that she could truly feel happiness and tranquility.
I started adjusting my work and tried to be home to my mom during off-hours. I would invite her out for a walk, visit the supermarket, browse her clothes, and occasionally take her to a fancy restaurant. We strolled along the boulevard, sat on the river embankment and watched the sunset, chatting about what we thought. My mother often sighed that with me, she regained the cheerfulness and happiness of her youth.
Once, during a walk, my mother pointed to the playground in front of her and said, "Let's go ride the Ferris wheel, I haven't experienced the feeling of flying for a long time."
"Okay, Mom, you can play whatever you want." I happily took my mother's hand and we ran to the Ferris wheel like little girls.
Slowly rising into the air, we overlook the crowd of tourists below. Mom looked out the window, her eyes shining with joy. "Amin, thank you for always taking good care of me." She said, holding my hand. I knew she no longer needed money to feel secure because I gave her more love than anything else.
In order to make my mother's life more convenient and comfortable, I changed her to a large sunny room and bought a fully automatic washer and dryer. I also regularly ask a nanny to clean her house and arrange a special car to take her to check her up. My mother was very touched by my careful care and never mentioned anything about anything again.
I often reflect that money is not the most important thing for me and my mother, and the most precious thing is mutual understanding and companionship. Now I spend two days a week with my mom, taking her out for a break and having fun cooking a hearty home-cooked meal. We would sit on the balcony and watch the sunset and chat and share the bits and pieces of life.
"Amin, the time with you is the happiest day for my mother in years." Under the sunset, my mother's warm eyes made me feel her sincere gratitude. I also know that the company of my family is my greatest happiness.
Through this misunderstanding, we learned to cherish the present. I will always be with my mother and let her enjoy her. Life won't always be smooth sailing, but with family supporting each other, everything will become. I also finally understood that the best "reward" for my mother was to give her a warm and happy old age.