At a gathering of relatives, a group of children were crouched in a room, each holding a mobile phone, unable to even shout during meals. From time to time there was a roar in the room:
"Brother, save me quickly!"
"Why are you such a bad person? Do you have brains? ”
"I will definitely win the next game!"
"Old man, 666."
They don't know their surroundings, what's new and interesting outside, or what topics everyone is discussing. A pair of hands only holds the phone, guarding the charging cable, and a pair of eyes are staring excitedly and intently at the flickering screen.
They "dropped" into their phones.
The situation of 9 million left-behind children
According to a report released by the China Rural Governance Research Center of Wuhan University, half of the left-behind children use their grandparents' mobile phones, and 40% have their own exclusive mobile phones.
Mobile phones have many functions, such as being able to talk to distant parents and learn online. But for these children, the main function of the mobile phone is to play games and watch short videos.
In their research, the research team found that some children in a township middle school stayed up late for five days and five nights to play games.
Many village teachers reported that many boys in their classes often got together to play games all night. It is common to play until two or three in the morning on holidays and continue playing the next day.
There's even a 5-year-old with dark circles around his eyes, but his eyes are energetic when he stares at the screen. When the research group asked him what games he was good at, he expertly demonstrated 5 or 6 games.
Among the 9 million families with left-behind children, 67.3% of parents are worried about their children's addiction to mobile phones, and 21.3% of parents believe that children's use of mobile phones is very serious.
The biggest problem parents face today is how to "snatch" their children back from their phones?
The first people to be destroyed by mobile phones were children from poor families at the bottom. Indeed, it is not just left-behind children who are serious about playing with mobile phones. Today, many young children, even less than a year old, already know how to swipe across the screen to find what they want to see.
The heavier the life, the less time parents have to discipline their children, and the more dependent children are on mobile phones.
● The elderly cannot control it, and the parents compensate for guilt
During the research in Hubei, the research group interviewed an elderly person and found that her son and daughter-in-law were working abroad, leaving her and his wife to take care of their grandson.
Since the Internet was installed at home, the grandson could not do without the mobile phone. She played until one or two in the morning before going to bed. In the morning, she brought breakfast to bed. For lunch and dinner, children also put their phones aside and read books while eating.
Don't grandparents care?
"Children are very sensitive and vulnerable right now, what do you think we should do if someone intervenes?" The old man said helplessly.
The grandmother in Hunan will take care of it. She watched her child play with her phone until she couldn't get out of bed in the morning. She tried several times without success. In a fit of rage, she hit her grandson.
And the grandson is unambiguous. She immediately picked up the phone and complained to her mother on the other end of the line. Although she knew that playing with her phone was bad, she still felt that she owed a debt to her children. How could she be willing to let her children be beaten and scolded?
As soon as the child's parents asked, things took a sharp turn.
This made the old man a little puzzled, should he worry? Whatever the law is, whatever the law is, whatever the law is?
● Play with peers
Back in the village, I saw a boy being scolded for playing with his mobile phone. He walked around aimlessly.
I asked him why don't you play with friends?
He looked at me blankly and replied, "My friends are all playing games, I look like a fool and bored." ”
Many children also want to get rid of their phones and return to the real world. But when he returned, he found that his friends were playing with their phones, and he was alone.
In order to find the group, he had to pick up his phone again.
● Mobile phone required
In fact, if we look closely around us, we will see that there are very few children who do not play with their phones.
First of all, mobile phones are indeed a very good "coaxing children" tool. One second the child is still playing and rolling, but as soon as he takes out his mobile phone, the next second the world stands still.
Secondly, many children now have to use mobile phones.
School assignments, group check-ins, link submissions, data uploads, etc. Even if you don't want your child to touch your phone, when you are not working with your child, ask the elders to lend a helping hand through your child's mobile phone.
Once this is done, the child cannot go out.
Dopamine happiness
In psychology, there is a very famous mouse experiment.
The mice were very afraid of being shocked, but researchers Olds and Milner found that placing electrodes in specific areas of the mice's brains made them so excited that they even actively sought an electric shock.
To confirm this fact, they set a lever. When the lever is depressed, that area of the mouse's brain receives an electric shock. The mouse discovered this principle, so it stood in front of the lever and pressed it again and again until it died of exhaustion.
Later, neuroscientists studied this area of the brain and discovered a neurosubstance that makes humans happy, dopamine.
Every time you play a game, every time you watch a short video, the dopamine in your child's brain will shout: "Do it again!" ”
Children who lack self-control are guided by this sense of well-being.
Like stimulated guinea pigs, they swipe across the phone screen, as if pressing a lever, over and over again.
Knowing this, we know that children are addicted to mobile phones, not because they are naturally fond of playing, but because they cannot find any other pleasure than this simple and relaxing thrill.
Watching the adults laugh and push them away with their phones, they feel a deep sense of loneliness. At the same time, they feel that life is so empty due to the lack of company from their families.
Without parental control, children who feel the joy of dopamine in their phones will be completely out of control like wild horses out of control.
Childhood is the most important period for establishing three attitudes and behavioral habits. We should not let mobile phones destroy children's self-control, fighting spirit, and effort.
Because once you develop the habit of laziness from an early age, it is difficult to change it when you grow up. #家庭关爱季#
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