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Almost more than ninety percent of the betrayers have never thought about a real divorce!
However, not nearly ninety percent of these betrayers can be forgiven by their original partners!
Although, the rational original partner will jump out of the emotional circle of love or not, and use the current reality to observe whether marriage still has the value of existence, but some people will never regret it even if they seem to have no brains to give up their self-interest and turn around!
Such an original partner has its own certain principles and has zero tolerance for betrayal!
For this kind of original match, life can be hard, life can be difficult, as long as the husband and wife are begging in one place, it is also a kind of happiness! But if you betray me, even once, I won't forgive you!
Even, after the divorce of this kind of original partner, life is too bad to be revealed, and there will be no regrets!
Come to think of it, this is the ultimate backbone of a person!
You can say that this kind of original partner is stupid and doesn't know how to calculate gains and losses, or you can say that this kind of original partner is crazy and doesn't know how to pave a better quality life for the rest of your life!
However, how can a real backbone original match be rare?
There is a kind of original match, once betrayed, he will not forgive for the rest of his life!
This type of original comes with the following features:
1: Extreme
When facing marriage, this kind of original partner will completely let down his guard, and will be overloaded after going all out for marriage and love!
So much so that after the betrayal of the lover, this kind of original match is absolutely unacceptable!
For this kind of original partner, there is nothing in the relationship that cannot be tolerated, but only betrayal cannot be endured, as long as the other party cannot remain loyal, he will definitely leave decisively.
The betrayer betrays the betrayal, which is equivalent to poking the scales of this kind of original match!
Therefore, once the betrayal comes out, no matter whether the betrayer repents or not, and no matter how sincere the betrayer shows to make amends, extreme original matches will not be rare.
and the betrayer, not only will the relationship between husband and wife not be continued, but even friends can't be friends!
In other words, if you don't become an enemy, you are already a traitor!
The reason why this kind of original partner is extreme is because in the face of feelings, there is really a "cleanliness habit", and the desire for exclusivity makes this kind of original partner unable to convince himself to continue to live with the person who betrayed him!
If the betrayer insists on forcing the marriage to continue or pestering such an extreme original partner, then such an original partner will definitely take extreme measures to retaliate!
At worst, both sides will be defeated, and at worst, lives will be harmed!
2: Personality pride, sincere and hot original match
What kind of person has the hardest time to bear to be betrayed?
That's a person with a proud personality and a sincere and passionate attitude towards feelings!
In such a person's concept, love and non-love are black and white worlds, and there is never any gray area!
Therefore, when the lover betrays him, this kind of original partner will use the attitude of "no sand in his eyes" to make a quick break to the marriage!
For this kind of original partner, if you don't love it, you can say it, you can divorce peacefully, but you have betrayed me, this is a provocation to my dignity, and you are slapping me in the face......
Is it tolerable or unbearable!
The pride of personality is destined to allow such a betrayer who does not allow himself to be frustrated, and continue to live in his own life!
Being betrayed is the shame of the original partner who is proud of his personality, and it is the consumption of his own feelings!
Self-esteem and pride, so that this kind of original partner can not tolerate betrayal, and even in the divorce, he would rather leave than be entangled with the betrayer for one more minute!
Because, this kind of original partner feels that it is "disgusting" to say one more word to the betrayer!
If you disappoint the original partner who is proud of your personality, don't expect this kind of original partner to forgive, as soon as the betrayal comes out, it means that the marriage is over!
3: The original partner who has a strong emotional cleanliness fetish
During a relationship or after marriage, we all know that there are two forms of betrayal – spiritual betrayal and actual betrayal!
Either way, it's a sign of infidelity to your lover!
It's just that, in some people's perceptions, as long as there is no actual betrayal, it is not a betrayal!
However, spiritual betrayal is an ambiguous and transgressive period, and it is a prelude to actual betrayal!
That is, a betrayal is a betrayal, and there are no "stages" to speak of!
But for some original partners, betrayers who have not yet reached the actual betrayal stage can still be accepted by themselves!
However, it is absolutely unbearable for the original partner who has a strong emotional cleanliness fetish!
What is a strong emotional cleanliness fetish?
That is, as long as I find you and other people of the opposite sex, I will never allow the behavior of intentionally blurring the boundaries!
In particular, after the evidence of ambiguity, transgression or actual betrayal has been truly grasped, the original partner with a strong emotional cleanliness habit will not look back at all and choose to divorce!
And when you get divorced, there is a chance that you will make things bigger, so that everyone can see the ugly true face of the unfaithful!
In the face of such an original match, no matter how many promises the betrayer gives for the future, it will be useless - dirty is dirty!
Just want to say:
Marriage is a responsibility, a morality, and a conscience!
If you don't love it, you can really say it! Don't have the mentality of having both fish and bear's paws, eating in the bowl and looking at the pot!
Man's greed is doomed to the fact that his own well-being is compromised!
And the forgiveness who will not forgive once betrayed, you must also understand that if you can maximize your interests as much as possible, it is not too late to turn around!
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