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My son always came to my house empty-handed, thinking that he did not understand people's feelings and worldliness, but he only understood it when he went to his in-laws' house

author:Handsome lotus leaf's brother

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In this story full of family conflicts and confusion, we meet retired teacher Li Mei, who faces a difficult decision. Li Mei's son Zhang Lei seems to be not filial enough to her, while her parents-in-law are cared for by their son. In this article, we will analyze the complex situation of this family and explore how to deal with this dilemma in order to maintain the harmony and happiness of the family.

The story behind the family's dilemma

Li Mei, a retired teacher, was supposed to enjoy a peaceful life after retirement, but she faced a heavy debt stemming from the wedding of her son Zhang Lei.

My son always came to my house empty-handed, thinking that he did not understand people's feelings and worldliness, but he only understood it when he went to his in-laws' house

Li Mei decided to work again, mainly to pay off the debt, however, her mood was very ambivalent.

Li Mei felt that her son was not filial enough to her. He never gave gifts and did not want to take responsibility. Instead, she observed her son's very different attitude towards his parents-in-law, who gave gifts and cared and thoughtfully. This apparent distinction made Li Mei feel hurt and frustrated, and she began to doubt her place in her son's heart.

Should we keep my distance or show goodwill?

Faced with this dilemma, Li Mei made a decision: retire completely, no longer sponsor her son, and distance herself from him. It was a difficult decision, but she felt it was necessary so that her son could experience independence and self-financing responsibility.

My son always came to my house empty-handed, thinking that he did not understand people's feelings and worldliness, but he only understood it when he went to his in-laws' house

However, this also raises a series of questions. You may ask, should we continue to keep our distance, or take the initiative to show goodwill? This is a complex issue that requires a combination of factors.

First of all, we can understand Li Mei's feelings. The affection between mother and son is unique and precious, and Li Mei hopes that her son can express more care and gratitude to her, which is a natural expectation. However, family relationships are often complex, and sons may have their own troubles and struggles that may not be able to fully meet the mother's expectations.

On the other hand, son Zhang Lei's filial piety to his parents-in-law is also praiseworthy.

My son always came to my house empty-handed, thinking that he did not understand people's feelings and worldliness, but he only understood it when he went to his in-laws' house

This shows that he has the ability to care for the family, but it does not mean that he is not filial to his mother. There may be some barriers to communication and understanding that need to be addressed.

Balance of family relationships

In the face of this complex family situation, Li Mei not only has to consider her son's behavior, but also reflects on whether she needs to be more tolerant. Family relationships often require effort and understanding from both parties, and balance can only be found through communication and compromise.

First, Li Mei can try to have an open and honest conversation with her son. Understand his thoughts and feelings, listen to his opinions, and also express your expectations and feelings.

My son always came to my house empty-handed, thinking that he did not understand people's feelings and worldliness, but he only understood it when he went to his in-laws' house

Communication is key to solving family problems, and sometimes an honest conversation can help both parties understand each other better.

In addition, Li Mei can also consider taking the initiative to release goodwill. Although she feels hurt, the affection between mother and child is precious, and sometimes it takes one party to compromise to improve the relationship. Giving gifts or caring for your son's life can also be a start, but it should not be a condition, but a genuine concern.

summary

In this story of family conflict and confusion, Li Mei faces an important decision about how to deal with her relationship with her son. Her decision to retire completely and keep her distance was a reasonable choice, but it also needed to consider her son's feelings and the possibility of communication.

My son always came to my house empty-handed, thinking that he did not understand people's feelings and worldliness, but he only understood it when he went to his in-laws' house