"You are so good and beautiful, worthy of a better young man, why did you choose my son?"
"We really like each other, and my family is poor, and I also need to support my mother's family financially after marriage."
In 2012, Dolma met the man's parents for the first time, and the two had the above conversation.
It was the open and honest conversation between the two from the first time they met, which made her mother-in-law recognize her honesty and filial piety, and was not only treated as her own daughter by her mother-in-law after marriage.
She was busy with her singing career, and her mother-in-law helped her raise her three children without complaint.
After marriage, she helped her mother-in-law everywhere, and her mother-in-law was not unhappy, perhaps what her mother-in-law would like to see most was that she never forgot her origin and maintained filial piety.
She was born in 1984 in the Tibetan Autonomous Prefecture of Sichuan Province.
To get from Chengdu to her hometown, it takes 1,500 kilometers of mountain roads.
It can be seen that although her hometown is very beautiful, it is also very remote and poor.
In her hometown, everyone speaks Tibetan, and almost most of them don't even speak Chinese.
According to the Tibetan interpretation, "descending yang" represents amiability and "Dolma" represents green Tara.
Her name is full of her parents' good wishes for her.
Above her there are three older brothers, below her two younger brothers, for a total of six children.
In addition, the parents are a family of eight, and they all rely on their parents' meager income to survive.
Her parents were only farmers on the prairie, earning barely enough to support their family for a year.
When she mentioned her childhood, her heart was full of bitterness, and she waited for the food to come down almost every day.
Her mother digs wild vegetables every day while taking her children and sells them at the market, and the money is exchanged for food.
In her mind, she only had two decent utensils at home, a cooking pot and a teapot.
It is fitting to describe her home with four walls.
Although the life of a family of eight is very poor, it makes them understand the difficulties of life better, and the family is very united and loves each other.
Every day, the brothers and sisters would help their mother dig wild vegetables and sell them at the market, and on the way home, their mother would sing to them, and the song would float on the grassland.
Since childhood, in the immature hearts of their brothers and sisters, the biggest wish is to earn a lot of money and let their parents live a good life.
As the saying goes: Children from poor families become heads of households! Her home is no exception.
The two oldest brothers in the family have only been studying for a few years and have gone out to work.
Because for her family, it is already very difficult to make ends meet, and going to school is a luxury.
But as the only girl in the family, her parents could not bear to let her go to the fields at a young age to do farm work, nor did they want her to go out to work in society early.
Her parents wanted a better future for her, and under this hope, her parents saved money to provide for her education.
Like their parents, the three older brothers also love their sister very much, and they have taken the initiative to let their parents send their sister to school, so that they can suffer less in the future.
In this way, she became the only child in her family to go to middle school.
At the age of 15, the family was even more financially strapped because her mother fell ill and needed medicine and bed rest.
Unwilling to increase the financial burden on her family, she chose to end her studies while still in her second year of junior high school.
After completing the withdrawal procedures, she entered the society.
Her first job was as a sanitation worker.
The job is hard and the schedule is unhealthy.
Even though she worked hard to get her job done, she was still banned because she was too young.
After being laid off, she couldn't find a job because she was too young and no one wanted to hire her.
In desperation, she went to work in the cement factory where her two brothers worked.
When she was in the cement factory, her job was to carry cement.
During that time, she thought of herself as a boy, carrying two large bags at a time.
I worked hard from morning to night, and my salary was only 23 yuan a day.
Seeing that she was young and a girl, his brother really felt sorry for her job of carrying cement in the sun and rain, and finally entrusted her to find her a job as a hotel waiter.
When she worked as a waitress in a hotel, she was paid 400 yuan a month.
The hotel has a small stage for performances, and people are often invited to perform on holidays and major events.
And once when there was a shortage of people in the performance program, she was temporarily asked to come on stage to save the scene.
This chance on stage made people discover that she has a high singing talent, and also let her meet the Bo Le in her life.
When she was singing, the director of the local cultural bureau happened to be eating at the scene.
The director of the Cultural Bureau felt that her singing level was good, and recommended her to become a singer in the Kardze Prefecture Song and Dance Troupe.
What the leaders did not expect was that a good seedling would be found when they went to the local inspection work.
And she, whenever she talks about this, always feels that she is really too lucky!
Entering the Kardze Prefecture Song and Dance Troupe became a major turning point in her life.
After joining the song and dance troupe, she not only performed well, but also was admitted to a prestigious school.
In 2001, she was admitted to the Sichuan Conservatory of Music.
To scrape together her college tuition, two older brothers who work in a cement factory pull out years of savings.
Another brother and two younger brothers also worked very hard, digging for cordyceps while farming, selling it and sending it to her as living expenses.
After entering the university campus, she began to study music knowledge and singing skills professionally and systematically.
In her spare time, she works part-time outside of school.
Although she didn't earn much money part-time, she completed her studies with the help of several older brothers.
During her college years, unfortunately, her mother died due to overwork.
Her mother didn't see her perform on stage, which became a regret for her life.
In 2005, she entered the public eye because of her participation in "Dream Khamba".
After gaining a certain popularity, she covered and recorded many songs, which got a good number of playbacks, and her popularity further increased.
She joined the Tibet Military Region's Cultural Troupe, traveled deep into the snowy mountains with the group, and sang to comfort the soldiers in Tibetan areas.
After that, she appeared on the stage of CCTV, participated in many activities and parties, and brought her unique singing voice to the public.
From 2008 to 2010, he successively released music albums "This Mountain and Water", "Golden Splendor", "Golden Calling" and "Voice of China".
With her singing skills in these four albums, she is known as the "most beautiful mezzo-soprano".
In 2011, she continued her studies at the PLA Academy of Arts.
During her military studies, she released many cover songs, among which the most covered was Dao Lang's work.
After becoming popular, she not only realized her dream of "making a lot of money", but also met love.
After making money, the first thing she did was repay her family.
Her family's kindness for supporting her to study will never be forgotten.
She renovated her hometown's house to cover her father's pension and medical expenses.
She bought a taxi for her eldest brother and a heavy truck for her two younger brothers.
She did not buy a car for her second and third brothers because her second brother was a Tibetan doctor and her third brother was a Thangka painter, so they did not want to leave their hometown, so they did not need a car.
In 2012, at a gathering of friends, she met Ding Zhenquzha.
When the two met, Ding Zhenquzha was a documentary photographer working at CCTV.
Two people who are also from the same area, after establishing one-to-one contact, the relationship also quickly warmed up.
When talking about Ding Zhenquzha in an interview, her eyes flashed, saying that he was the "Kangba man" in her mind.
To some extent, the "Khamba man" has become a portrayal of Tibetan men: tall and mighty, bold and rugged.
After the two came together, Ding Zhenquzha took her home to meet her parents.
Ding Zhenquzha's mother, her later mother-in-law, was very excited when she first saw her.
Because, Ding Zhenquzha's mother is also her fan.
But when the excitement passed, the old lady began to worry again.
At that time, Ding Zhenquza's mother did not plan to hide it, and directly asked her: You are so good and beautiful, worthy of a better young man, why did you choose my son?
After she listened, she first felt that the other party's first meeting was a bit abrupt, but she also answered generously.
She said that the two of us came together because we attracted and liked each other.
It is said that falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, our family is relatively poor, and we also need to support our mother's family financially after marriage.
At that time, she answered the man's parents' questions candidly.
Her honesty made Ding Zhenquzha put down a hanging heart, and for her essence and filial piety, she felt that she couldn't find a good daughter-in-law with a lantern.
In 2014, she married Ding Zhenquzha Fengzi.
The husband did not use the "inconvenience of pregnancy" as an excuse, but married her according to the most solemn etiquette in his hometown.
On the wedding day, the grassland was boiling, and it was said that there were 1,500 people at the wedding site, and the bonfire party was held from about 1 pm that day until the next morning.
In her words, it was so happy to be back home, everyone gathered to sing and dance and forget about time and sleepiness.
After marriage, her mother-in-law was really good to her.
Her mother-in-law, who had never been to her hometown, moved to Beijing to live with her when she was pregnant in order to take care of her.
When the first child came, she decided to ask for a confinement sister-in-law, but her mother-in-law refused.
The mother-in-law said that her body is still very tough, and there is no problem in taking care of her little grandson.
After giving birth, she soon returned to the stage and continued to pick up the microphone to sing her song.
The mother-in-law is at home with the children, allowing her to pursue her career with peace of mind.
When her mother-in-law saw people, she praised her, saying that she was smart and good-looking and could sing, and praised her career as very good.
After giving birth to her second child, she knew that she would soon return to work, feeling that her mother-in-law could not take care of her two children by herself.
She asked her mother-in-law to hire a nanny to help take care of the children, and also suggested that her eldest son be handed over to early nursery.
The mother-in-law said that according to her physical strength, it is not a matter for one person to bring two or three children.
Her mother-in-law treated her like a biological daughter, not only in her support for her career, but also in her attitude towards her family after marriage.
At first, when she accidentally saw her mother-in-law when she secretly stuffed money for her brother or brother, she felt very embarrassed, but her mother-in-law said that it was normal to honor her parents and return the kindness of her relatives.
Seeing that her mother-in-law was really unhappy with her own family of helpers, she was able to generously help her father and brother.
In fact, her mother-in-law not only did not oppose her to help her mother's family, but even supported her in practical actions.
Her two brothers work in Chengdu, and sometimes her brother goes to her home to look for her, but when she works at work and has not yet returned home, her mother-in-law has already entertained her brother.
Moreover, from time to time, she also took out a thousand yuan for her brother to bring back to her father, and also showed that she honored her father.
The happiness of family life allowed her to give birth to three children in a row when her career was booming.
With the arrival of the third child, she deeply felt the great pressure of taking care of her, so she once again proposed to her mother-in-law to hire another nanny.
And the mother-in-law accepted the suggestion of a nanny, the purpose is also to make her more comfortable to fight her career.
In fact, it is not difficult to imagine that her mother-in-law is not opposed to her taking over the family after marriage, the reason is not only her love for herself, but also the inheritance of excellent essence.
Because for her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law has never forgotten her origin and the kindness of her family, which will be the best example for her son Ding Zhenquzha and three grandchildren, and it is also the most precious quality of a family.
And to be honest, such an enlightened and righteous mother-in-law, presumably many people hope to meet it.