The middle school entrance examination is divided, and most of the eliminated are boys? The truth is too heart-wrenching
Because of the difference between the brains of men and women, the secondary school entrance examination triage is often more cruel to boys;
How to help boys through this growing crisis is a compulsory course for all parents.
Author | Tomato Mom
A few days ago, I was shopping outside and happened to run into a former colleague I hadn't seen for a long time.
After chatting a few words, I found that the other party's words were full of melancholy.
After careful questioning, I learned that her son took the middle school entrance examination this year, and the child studied in a local key middle school, and his usual grades have always been in the top 20 of the class, so it is reasonable to say that it is not a problem to be admitted to high school.
However, in this middle school entrance examination, her son miscalculated 2 big questions in mathematics because of sloppiness;
The Chinese essay was written directly because the examination question was not clear, and only 28 points were scored out of 50;
Even the physics he is best at was affected by his mentality, and in the end he didn't even finish the question...
After her son finished the exam, he directly locked himself in the room and cried.
She was not good at that time, sure enough, after the score came out a few days ago, it was unprecedentedly bad, not to mention key high schools, even ordinary high schools.
She is looking for relationships everywhere these two days so that her child can have a high school school, which can be described as anxious.
According to her words, although her son is a little worse in liberal arts, the teacher said that he is very talented in science and has a quick brain response, and he can show his strength when he goes to high school.
However, I did not expect that the high school entrance examination failed in details that were usually not paid attention to, such as "sloppiness", "poor comprehension", and "poor mentality".
Don't talk about showing your strength now, it's hard to say whether you can go to high school or get into college in the future.
To be honest, since I finished talking to my friend, as a mother of a third-grade boy, I've been tossing and turning all night.
Secondary school entrance examination streaming
It is often more cruel to boys
Have you found that the parents around you who are worried about their children being "diverted from the middle school entrance examination" are the overwhelming majority of boys' parents.
This anxiety is not unfounded.
You see that the one who wanders in class, gags, and sits on pins and needles, must be a boy;
That writing has a headache, and it is difficult to memorize a text, it is also a boy;
As for writing a homework sharpened, scribbled, so-so question, it is still the boy who never checks.
My girlfriend once complained to me:
Her son is in the fifth grade this year, and every day when he comes back from school, he has to watch TV for one hour, urge him four times to write homework, and find an excuse to come out and walk around in less than 10 minutes, and his blood pressure will soar at the sight of homework.
As for my younger sister, who is in the third grade, she consciously starts writing her homework without her urging, sitting for 2 hours, and each homework is neat and impeccable.
Compared to girls, boys are like unenlightened skin monkeys, can this not be worrisome?
And in recent years, the overall test questions are simple, once the degree of differentiation of the questions is small, then it is more than careful, than memory, than the completeness of answering the questions, at this time the boy will suffer even more.
Especially when boys reach adolescence, self-control is particularly poor.
What is active, playful, likes to watch TV, play games... It's a boy's common disease.
A friend who is a head teacher said:
There was a boy in her class, who was smart and had always done well.
But one summer vacation in the second year of junior high school, parents fostered their children at grandma's house because of work, and as a result, the children were addicted to mobile games.
After returning, the boy completely changed, he was inattentive in class, his whole person was in a trance, and his grades plummeted.
In the end, the results of the high school entrance examination were disastrous, and he was shunted to a local vocational school to study high school.
Mo Yan has publicly expressed that he hopes to "delay the diversion", one of the important reasons is that most boys mature late, and they are not very sensible in junior high school.
He also admitted frankly: "The middle school entrance examination stream is indeed a bit cruel to late maturing boys. ”
The middle school entrance examination stream is a severe test for those boys who "open late".
Boy "Night Starter"
It's because their brains are so different
Of course, they can't be blamed entirely on the fact that boys are late to enlightenment, mainly because of their brain development.
First, boys' brains develop more slowly than girls' brains, and the left brain, which is responsible for language and logic, is even later in the evening.
Especially in terms of language, logic, fine motors, etc., all are half a beat slower.
Therefore, boys are slow to do homework, careless, and generally inferior to girls in writing, memorization, language expression, reading comprehension, etc.
Secondly, the frontal lobes of the boys' brains also develop more slowly than girls, so boys are easily impulsive in case of accidents, mood swings are also large, and self-control will be worse.
And boys secrete more dopamine in their blood than girls, so boys have more energy than girls.
In class, girls sit quietly even if they don't like to listen, while boys look around and jump up and down.
In the documentary "The Secret Life of Growing Up, When I Was a Teenager", it was pointed out:
Because of the difference between male and female brains, girls will quickly "take the lead" on the road to growth.
Therefore, generally in primary and junior high school, girls are more likely to be good students in their classes.
My friend said that in the junior high school class she led, only 2 of the top 10 in the first year of junior high school were boys, and girls were almost always in the top 3, but more boys were in the scumbag at the end of the crane.
Fortunately, although the boy started later, his stamina was generally greater.
Professor Raquel Gur of the University of Pennsylvania found that the development of brain modularity increased significantly in boys after the age of 13.1, which they believe represents the beginning of brain restructuring and optimization in boys.
Just like the son of one of my seniors, when he was in junior high school, this child was still hovering at the bottom of the class;
But since I went to high school, I seemed to have been opened up to the second pulse of Ren Du, and I worked hard all the way to catch up, and finally successfully admitted to a decent 985 college.
Boys do have strong stamina, but the most important premise is that you have to have the opportunity to counterattack.
Even this senior admitted that if her son was born 10 years later, he would also have to go through the diversion of the middle school entrance examination, maybe he would have been brushed down a long time ago, and there was no chance of getting on 985.
It's not that the vocational high school is bad, but the learning atmosphere, faculty, teaching environment, and majors available to students are extremely "limited".
Once diverted, it will be difficult for boys to advance to higher education or fight back in the future.
There are boys at home
It must not be left unchecked
I saw a mother ask questions online:
"My son entered a local vocational high school after the middle school entrance examination last year, and now he is messing around every day.
But I never figured it out, children have always been very smart since childhood, why can't they even pass an ordinary high school? ”
Some netizens hit the nail on the head:
"Parents are attentive, children work hard, but if they occupy the same, it is difficult for children to fail to enter high school."
Yes, diligence can make up for the weakness, no matter how good the boy is, he can't resist the hearts of his parents and his own efforts.
In order to successfully pass the "triage" test, the boy's parents must put in more effort and sweat.
Those boys who look good and dazzling are indispensable to the careful companionship, continuous supervision, and strict discipline of their parents.
In view of boys' weaknesses, I recommend that boys' parents do these 5 things well in elementary school.
Cultivate children's interest in reading
Anyone who has read the questions in recent years should know that the high school entrance examination has high requirements for reading comprehension in various subjects.
Children who do not read well will not only not get high scores in Chinese, but also in politics, history, and even math that needs to read the meaning of the question.
If you want to cultivate boys' reading ability, you must accumulate it bit by bit from an early age.
Interest is the best teacher, love is the biggest motivation.
Don't force boys to read obscure books, let children start with books that interest them.
Always remember to put down your phone, create a reading atmosphere, and be a good example.
Once a child's interest in reading is cultivated, it is not only beneficial to the future understanding of the topic, but also will benefit for life.
Find ways to learn that work for boys
The same is memorizing the text, the girl may memorize it in 15 minutes, and the boy still stumbles in half an hour.
Brain science research has confirmed that boys are more likely to be stimulated by charts, images and even moving objects than monotonous verbal stimuli.
If you think boys learn slowly, it may just not be the right way.
Parents can try this:
When reciting ancient poems, you can guide him to close his eyes and imagine a picture;
Attract boys to participate in discussions and create a lively atmosphere;
When teaching boys, more hands-on practice and more games can be arranged in the activity.
If the method is found correctly, the boy's learning will naturally be more effective with half the effort.
Cultivate a stable mindset
Boys are affected by testosterone, mature more slowly and are a little more vulnerable than girls.
Especially for large-scale exams like the middle school entrance examination, many times rely on the presence and mentality.
To help boys develop a strong heart, parents must create a relaxed family environment from an early age:
When he fails the test, do not judge him, and give him full of love and acceptance;
When he fails, comfort him in time and teach him to be optimistic about winning and losing in life.
In this way, he will not lose control of his emotions due to temporary failure, and maintain a normal heart at all times.
Develop good study habits
Many parents have said things like this:
My son is actually quite smart, he is sloppy;
He actually can do this question, but the previous answer is too slow, and he didn't finish writing it later;
He memorized this knowledge point, but he forgot it during the exam...
In fact, such as slow answers, carelessness, poor memory... In the final analysis, the knowledge is not solid enough and good study habits have not been formed.
Therefore, it is important to let children develop good study habits and lay a good foundation from an early age.
For example, the habit of consciously writing homework, the habit of planning, the habit of independent thinking, the habit of checking frequently, the habit of preparing and reviewing...
Parents must pay close attention to their children's study habits as soon as possible, so that he can quit laziness in behavior and thought, so that he can consciously learn and make continuous progress.
Improve self-confidence
Before high school, many boys in classes were crushed by girls.
And this outstanding performance of girls will also sting the self-esteem of many boys, and it is easy to make them feel inferior.
To develop self-confidence in boys, parents can guide boys to do something they are good at.
Allow them to go on adventures, support their hobbies, and encourage them to participate in competitive sports such as climbing, swimming, playing ball, cycling, etc.
Confident boys have a greater sense of purpose and rise to the occasion in the face of difficulties.
Heard a quote:
The process of raising a boy is destined to be tortuous, and on this path, the boy is a playful elephant who can only see the present.
The parents were the mahmoth riders with maps in their hands and able to look into the distance.
Raising a boy is always full of anxiety and challenges.
Only when parents understand the growth law of boys and educate boys in a more scientific and suitable way can they achieve twice the result with half the effort.
May every parent be patient, guide carefully, and water carefully, believing that one day, our boys will blossom and amaze the four seats.
Let's do it together!