Li Min, passed away.
The message is first seen in the circle of friends.
I don't believe it, and I'm even angry that someone is talking nonsense, and I ran to Weibo to verify,
Li Min's second sister, Li Silin, posted a message:
I read these words word by word for a long time, and I still can't believe that this is true.
It wasn't until a few minutes later, when the news came flooding the Internet, that I knew that the she, who sang "I feel good when I see you," had really left.
It turned out that Li Min, who was cheerful, enthusiastic and always energetic in front of everyone, had been struggling with depression for a long time.
Until recently, his condition took a sharp turn for the worse, and he died at home on July 2.
Her family and team took her to the hospital for treatment, but she died on July 5.
Since then, this world has less a vigorous Li Min, and heaven has one more coco who loves to laugh and dance.
Everyone reacted to the news of her death as I did, feeling incredible in addition to sadness and shock.
No one expected that she would end her life in such a way.
Obviously, on the day of her suicide, she also sent a voice to fans in the group, saying thank you for loving her, and she would cheer on.
Now that I think about it, this voice text is the last swan song that Li Min left in the world.
In the impression, she is the king on the stage, always so alive and unrestrained.
However, a person who looks so sunny actually suffered from depression many years ago!
It wasn't until the news of her death came out and we looked back at her past news that we realized that all this may have been traced for a long time.
Li Min was exposed to marriage in the early years.
Li Min and her husband Bruce met as early as 2004, and after 7 years of love running, they married in 2011.
The man is more than a decade older than her, has been married once, and has two daughters with his ex-wife.
The beginning of this marriage was affectionate and sweet.
And Li Min was willing to sacrifice for this marriage.
In order to have a child, she had 9 test tubes, but all failed.
The body has suffered greatly.
Injections are needed every day, long and thick needles are inserted into the stomach, and bed rest is required every day.
This experience was extremely painful and could not bear it once, and she actually endured it 9 times.
The physical pain, coupled with the mental impact of the test tube failure, constantly tormented her.
And her husband's successive cheating at this time made her even worse.
Li Min's girlfriend said: Her husband was so arrogant that he cheated three times, and when someone found out, he didn't care, and he admitted it himself.
Married for many years, Li Min has always regarded her husband and the two daughters of his ex-wife as her own.
But after marrying her husband, the two stepdaughters did not have the slightest sense of gratitude, and in a blink of an eye, they cut off the table with her and stood on the side of their cheating father.
She fell into a lonely and lonely dilemma in her marriage.
But Li Min never responds to his feelings in front of outsiders.
She is still the person who is positive, full of love and faith.
She enjoys good food, enjoys holidays, and more often shares her stage.
She was trying to heal herself.
But the sky did not go as expected.
In February this year, she was once again hit hard by fate.
She shared a secret of her body on Weibo:
It turned out that Li Min, who seemed to be all-round in singing and dancing, was born with a defect in his left leg.
I have had surgery before, but it has not been completely cured, and the stage for so many years has all been supported by the right leg.
But last September, because the line dance was too hard and touched on old problems, she could not support even the most basic walking.
So she decided to have surgery and start practicing walking again.
Not being able to return to the stage, not being able to present that energetic self to everyone, this is undoubtedly the most painful blow for a singer and dancer.
But Li Min still showed his strongest side:
I am a female warrior.
Last year, when she went to Wuhan to perform, the stage effect was not as good as expected because of the problem of ear return.
At that time, many viewers were extremely disappointed in her.
But at that time, no one knew that she was already holding on to her breath, suffering from depression;
No one knows how she endured physical ailments in order to be able to achieve the ultimate on stage;
No one knows how she endured her inner despair and collapse to become that familiar self.
It is clear that it is full of holes, but he still smiles and shows people;
Obviously, the inner self has been broken into pieces, but still tell others: I'm okay, I'm strong.
She seems so positive and optimistic, but she has been fighting trapped beasts in her heart.
After Li Min died, we understood:
It turns out that not all laughing people are happy, they are just too good at forcing themselves.
Just a few hours after Li Min left, the term "smile depression" rushed to the hot search.
It turns out that there is a depression, which is different from what we imagined.
It gives the illusion of optimism, happiness, but the patient's own heart, perhaps negative, is painful and pessimistic.
Psychotherapist Jack Anderson said:
Smile depression is more dangerous than the average depressed person.
Because their uncertainty is much higher.
While they smile and thank you for your help and say that they are getting better, they may have decided to kill themselves in their hearts.
In June 2017, a 16-year-old girl named Maisie in the United Kingdom died mysteriously.
The family was overwhelmed with grief and could not accept this fact.
When the police came up with the conclusion that she had committed suicide, the family even found it incredulous.
Because, in the eyes of anyone, Maisie is a particularly cheerful and lively girl, who does not have to worry about her parents at all in terms of learning, and almost all her homework is A+, and she is definitely the "child of others" that everyone envies.
At home, she is cute and well-behaved, kind and sensible, and is her mother's intimate little cotton jacket.
At school, she also had a lot of fun with her classmates.
She has several diehards and girlfriends who often party, picnic, or travel together.
How can such a girl, as if she already has everything that ordinary people want, commit suicide?
Even before the tragedy, she was enthusiastically discussing her summer vacation travel plans with her family, full of anticipation.
Until early that morning, the 16-year-old girl said "goodbye" to her mother, who was leaving for work, and disappeared.
When I saw her again, it had turned into a cold corpse.
While sorting through her belongings, the family accidentally found a note.
The note reads: "I'm fine."
But when the family carefully examined the note, they found that:
The note turned out to be "Help Me."
It turned out that people who looked so optimistic were suffering and tormented in their hearts.
It turned out that another meaning of "I'm fine" turned out to be "save me".
Their smile is no longer an outpouring of joy, but a habitual disguise.
They are like a group of dying drowning people, obviously they may drown in the next second, but they still wear a mask of smile on their faces.
Comedian Stephen said:
Sometimes I stand on the stage and say "haha" and "yes", but what I think is: I really want to die.
They no longer identify with themselves, but their good education and tenacity make it impossible for them to let go of their defenses and ask for help.
So, in the case of worsening depression, they uncontrollably self-loathing until they collapse.
They are mired in a whirlpool of pain, hopelessly waiting, and their acting skills are too good to hide from everyone.
Then, on an ordinary morning, they died peacefully.
Until the last moment of their lives, they did not want to cause trouble to others.
In the mainland, there are about 95 million people diagnosed with depression, equivalent to one in 14 people.
Among them, smiling depression, in these groups, also accounted for a large proportion.
It is not hypocrisy, it is not depressed, but a mental illness that cannot be avoided.
I will always remember a small incident shared by a netizen.
"When I came home from school, I saw my 7-year-old sister putting candy with my antidepressants.
I was angry and asked her loudly what she was doing?
My sister smiled and said to me: Candy is sweet and can make me happy. So I put the candy with your medicine so you can have fun!
At that moment, I felt like my sky was dawning. ”
Why am I impressed by this little thing?
Because netizens who are deeply depressed, in the naïve sister, feel that they are being loved.
In the past, she was afraid of exposing her vulnerability, worried that she would not care, and the continuous internal friction beat her heart.
But my 7-year-old sister told her, "Share my happiness with you."
This world, even though there is a lot of sadness, darkness, pain and ups and downs,
But there will also be a lot of good, hopeful, bright and gentle around you.
If you are unfortunately suffering from depression, please believe that the people who love you will not give up on you easily.
Don't suppress yourself, life is a process of chasing joy and happiness.
Don't be shy about your situation, no one can be strong all the time.
Halo aside, each of us is a mortal, with a life full of holes and dust to face.
Fate has never spared anyone, and at the ferry of life, we are all our own ferrymen.
Winston Churchill said: Depression is like a black dog that bites me at every opportunity.
In front of it, any of us can be weak, whether you are a star or an amateur, whether you are a commoner or a rich man, you may be seized by it.
However, any of us can be strong. Even if you can't defeat the "black dog", don't give up the possibility of coexisting with it.
Hold on one more time, go a little further, and the sky will dawn.