Gong Linna's words broke Xie Na's "shallowness"

Xie Na's strength and shallowness are the most conspicuous scales in her self-defense mechanism

In the latest issue of "Riding the Wind 2023", Xie Na cried, more than once, from private chat and crying to the rehearsal scene, although she endured it during the official performance, her eyes were red, her emotions did not rise, and the energy that was whistling on weekdays was somehow taken away, and the whole person stood there, unusually quiet, and looked like she couldn't extricate herself from the song.

Many people said that she was acting and did not want to see her footage again, but I thought it was quite a surprise, because after a few sobs, Xie Na, who was hard as iron and claimed to be Sun, finally began to "look like a person".

"Sun Goddess" Xena is actually a crybaby

Her tearful "Sister Lang" this time was promoted by two factors.

The first song from this performance "She She She", the song depicts the transformation and growth of women with delicate brushstrokes, which itself is easy to resonate with all women. In addition, this performance also invited three professional dancers, which added to the power of the stage to touch people's hearts.

As soon as the music sounded, the dancer on the opposite side walked lightly, and as soon as the lyrics came out of her mouth, Xie Na suddenly couldn't hold back, and choked several times during the rehearsal. In the stage interview after the performance, she also said that through the interpretation of this song, she saw herself who did not know what the future would be, but has always been fearlessly moving forward.

Arthur Liu, who was watching the battle backstage, immediately sent an "impromptu comment": "She has finally begun to express herself!" ”

It seems that the sisters, who usually get along politely, still have a basic understanding of each other. Cutting open the soft side of the heart, suddenly deep, suddenly "serious", not only the audience looks fresh, but also a rare sight for them ~~

The second "tear gas" came from teammate Gong Linna. As a member of the echelon of older sisters, Lao Gong automatically played a warm and pleasing role in the show this time - the big sister who knows her heart.

Previously, she had successfully "transformed" Mei Yi Liya and Xu Huaiyu with her keen and profound insight and 200% sincerity, and this time it was Xie Na's turn.

Gong Linna said that we usually see that strong you and happy you, but in fact, I have long seen the you who wrapped myself.

After poking at the soft underbelly, Xie Na, who called herself the "goddess of the sun", instantly cried.

After that, she also took the initiative to share her experience: although she was born in a small county, she was very happy since she was a child, and she didn't have to worry about anything, until she once came home for the New Year, the door was smashed, the furniture was gone, and the small home that had always been strong and warm in her impression suddenly collapsed. Her father propped up a table of Chinese New Year's Eve meals with furniture he had beaten by hand, and as he ate, he told her that the world was not only about kindness.

This experience, which she also mentioned once in Jiang Sida's interview show, may really be an indelible past for her. Jiang Sida also asked her this question: If you want to clear ten years from your life, which decade will you choose?

Xie Na chose the decade when the family came out of the difficult situation little by little after the accident.

She wanted to erase painful memories. But the more you want to clear it, the more you care, but the more profound it will become, otherwise you won't cry when you mention it in your forties.

Although it has passed, overcome, and succeeded, the shadow cast on her by that sudden change has not yet dissipated. When she was young, when she encountered this unprecedented blow, panic, confusion, and fear struck at once, and she didn't have time to digest these emotions, so she could only use "strong", "happy" and "high-spirited" armor to lock them up, and face the unknown and ups and downs ahead with a superhuman posture.

Coupled with the strengthening of the character of the variety show, over time, the armor seeps into the flesh and blood, and it is difficult to separate. The fear and vulnerability of those who were blocked behind the armor turned into desperate beasts, and the hard armor delayed their emergence indefinitely, and after a long period of suppression, they would gush out at the right time.

Friends who grew up watching the mango stage should have the impression that Xie Na actually loves to cry and is easy to be poked in tears.

I still remember that ten years ago, when she was wearing the costume of the snake essence in the cartoon "Hulu Baby", she just finished playing with all her strength, when she heard He Jiong casually greeting: "Aren't you tired?" ”

As soon as the words fell, she wiped her tears.

There is also the famous "Longing for Life" once, Huang Lei said that her "life is shallow", Xie Na also cried at that time, she curled her neck and retorted: "I have worked hard all the way from a small place to now..."

Wearing the armor of strength and happiness through thorns, it is really tired; Being forced by life to swallow so many last resorts, and being criticized for "you have not done enough", grievances are also true.

The words that poke the pain point are kind care, and she just uses this to release her emotions; If mixed with a certain level of judgment and preaching, she will cry while skillfully opening the fortifications she has been accustomed to for years—"I'm hard, I'm strong, I'm good, I'm sunny," and so on. As everyone knows, this shriveled self-perception and single value just confirm Huang Lei's judgment.

Trapped in place by "positive energy"

Of course, the powerful wrapping of negative emotions and years of self-brainwashing are not all useless, on the contrary, they are also very credited, after all, all personality patterns from the beginning of their birth are designed to allow us to live well, but later become out of place.

Xie Na has indeed cultivated a super fighting spirit and action ability, and she has a simplicity and swiftness that can be rolled up at any time, which is a trait that is generally lacking in contemporary lying youth. Moreover, after hard work again and again, she has reaped rich feedback, including fame and fortune, as well as the recognition and liking of a large number of audiences.

On the one hand, the horror in the memory, on the other hand, the sweetness tasted later, "coercion" + "temptation", the two-pronged approach, she has tightened her inner package, the armor she has worn for so many years has become more and more solid, and she is more proud of the titles of "Sun Goddess" and "grassroots heroes".

But at the same time, confinement and limitations have always been and intensified. The authorities are fans, but her friends around her and the audience and friends are clearly in their eyes.

Zhihu's post scolding Xie Na has covered an unknown number of floors, netizens scolded and analyzed the strings, quoted scriptures and scolded, calling her superficial, petty, and vindictive, scolding her for being vicious, eyeless, and self-righteous, and their disgust for her stretched endlessly.

will also pull other female comedian out to contrast and scold, scolding her for not being as generous and cute as Jia Ling, and not as strong and cultured as Xiao S.

This time on "Sister Lang", or as always, she was ridiculed by the group, ridiculed for using too much force, and scolded for not being worthy of the position, her own strength is like that, why do you want to take advantage of any benefits?

All of the above is a harsh statement, but many of them are indeed normal perceptions as bystanders.

It is indeed not profound, when I was young, I started with "hahaha", now I am in my forties, I still can't move "hahaha", she is not tired, the audience is also aesthetically tired, she is not embarrassed, and the audience has also cut out of the three-room and one hall;

It is true that the force is too strong, and the way it dances is either like a riffraff or like a foreman moving bricks and shouting. But dancing is not a strong man's hammer, not empty strength can dance out of the beauty of depression and priority.

How greasy is it? You want to exert strength, but the power of the flood can't make a little, and then this ineffective and excess energy overflows into greasy!

What is the opposite feeling of relaxation? It is a kind of flexibility that comes and goes freely, I can be left, right, up or down, hard or soft, can put or receive. It reflects a kind of ease in playing with what I do in the palm of my hand, and a high acceptance of self - "I am allowed to stretch my branches in all directions, and I don't have to be like a clockwork doll, I can only turn in circles in one direction, and I can only laugh at one frequency." ”

In this issue, Zheng Xiuyan and Zhu Zhu, who collaborated with Xie Na on "Midnight Cha", are typical types with a sense of relaxation, especially Zheng Xiuyan. The part where she taught Zhu Zhu to dance and slow down while eating snacks was simply beautiful. Walk a few steps around at will, and then stuff a snack into your mouth, and spread the charm five miles away without hurrying.

In contrast, Xie Na's shortcomings are becoming more and more miserable.

Yes, the basic skills are not solid is one thing. But not being able to tear off that layer of armor and not being able to make a more real and richer "me" shine is the root of the problem.

Easier said than done, how can it be easily torn off? The shell of "shallowness and hard work" helped her get through the trough and rush to the top of her career, and it was naturally difficult for her to switch another set of modes to cope with pain and cope with life in an instant.

With a sense of relaxation, it is possible to advance or retreat, to chase and let go, but in her inherent cognitive system, retreating is the abyss, the sea of fire, the tiger's den, and the forward is the misty forest where demons are haunted at any time. Restraining her also protected her, she had to stop there, happy and inspirational, even if she couldn't be the most dazzling one on the stage, so as to get a moment of peace of mind.

One thing is ten thousand times more important than winning or losing

It is precisely because of how deeply ingrained the old pattern is that Xie Na's collapse and tears are especially precious this time.

After being said and crying by Gong Linna, she chose to open her heart to share, rather than erect fortifications and go back like she did with Huang Lei.

When singing "She She She", she was moved to tears several times by the lyrics and the performance of the dancers, indicating that the magical power of art pried open the door of her rusty heart.

Why has Xie Na stayed in the literary and art circle for so many years, and has not been smoked with a taste of literature and art? It is because she limits her emotional dimension too much to happiness and positivity, and does not give her heart enough space to embrace pain, and embracing pain, expressing and integrating those messy emotions is the greatest function of art.

Art is not the lace of life embroidered by the rich and idler, but a net that is born when we have no way to live.

Life is not as good as it should be, tomorrow and the unexpected will come first, people will encounter failure and accidents, disasters and misfortunes at any time. It is such a complex thing that it is impossible for our lives to simply bring it with "laughing is no big deal", nor can it be solved with "positive energy that always pays off", but also the hypocrisy of "Jiang Feng's fishing fire to sleep", the open-mindedness of "right and wrong turn the head empty", and the dashing calm of "a smoke and rain in your life"...

Oncoming dancers and heart-to-heart melodic lyrics awaken the pain, fear, sorrow, or more of being imprisoned by Xena. Perhaps at that moment, she began to realize clearly: along the way, she also had countless stumble and unbearable looks, not sunny, not funny, but actually quite cute, compared to this wonderful journey, losing and winning seem to be less important.

Therefore, she rarely went to canvass, she should be immersed in the stage and emotions just now, or she was guilty of "planning" into this group, just wanting to prove herself but regardless of the overall presentation.

In short, at that moment, Xie Na, who briefly took off her armor and did not open her teeth and claws, was quite beautiful, and for the first time revealed my temperament.

Author: Miss Bovary

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