We often use "gas bags" to describe those unlucky people around us.
Zeng Guofan believed: "If you want to become a great vessel, you must first be angry." ”
For a long time, Li Hongzhang worshipped Zeng Guofan as a teacher, learning to lead soldiers, study, and be a person.
One day, Li Hongzhang delivered a post to see Zeng Guofan. The servant said, he was washing his feet, please wait.
Unexpectedly, this wait is more than an hour. Li Hongzhang couldn't contain the anger in his heart and wanted to break in.
When the servant led him into the inner room, Zeng Guofan was still washing his feet and reading. Then, he said slowly: "Young and vigorous, how to do great things!" ”
Li Hongzhang had an epiphany and suppressed the "qi".
Before Zeng Guofan was a junior high school, he failed the scientific examination and spent all his money. On the way home, I went to borrow money from a friend of my father's and sat in the living room and waited for a long time. Before entering the house, my clothes were wet by the rain, and after entering the house, the rain slowly flowed down, forming a "small pool" look, and did not walk around at will.
His behavior touched his father's friend very much, and he gave a hundred taels of silver with a wave of his hand.
It seems that this learned of anger must be thoroughly understood, and do not "vent anger" at will.
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Other people's wealth: learning.
The people around you are rich, you don't think that "it's just luck to walk", take the initiative to approach him and talk to him about how to get rich. Or ask what you need to correct and whether the other party needs to be "apprentices".
In the sixties and seventies of the last century, there were not so many training schools, and some craftsmen passed on their craftsmanship by bringing their own apprentices. Those who learn the craft need to seriously worship the teacher.
Several carpenters in our village talked about their experiences of visiting their masters – for three years, in addition to doing things with the master, they also had to help the master's family with farm work.
Some carpenters also help the master wash clothes, cook and sweep the floor.
After learning the master's craft, you can pick the big beams yourself, and thus embark on the road to prosperity.
Of course, in the process of learning art, while being contaminated with wealth, one also bears resentment. If you meet a grumpy master, you have to live as "swallowing your anger".
There are elites in all walks of life, and if they pull you, it will be much easier to succeed. He is willing to pull you, the fundamental reason is that you are willing to learn and take the initiative to bow your head.
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Someone else's sharpness: hide.
A cat that sneaks into the chicken shed in search of a chick that can be bullied.
The old hen rushed out and pecked the cat fiercely, frightening the cat to quickly walk away.
The cat thinks that the chicken can't fight itself, but it doesn't know the truth that "the hen is weak, and the mother is strong".
To snatch the hen's child, why doesn't the hen desperately protect?
Similarly, we see that those and cows with children will be particularly "fierce". Their desire to protect formed a sharp aura.
For those who have a sharp spirit, we have to avoid it. Don't go head-to-head.
Historically, Cao Li's controversy adopted the method of avoiding sharp qi. After the Qi army played the drums three times in a row, he asked the Lu army to beat the drums.
Lu Jun, who was originally in a weak position, won instead.
Sometimes, it's okay to admit it in front of others. Prove that you have the wisdom of "the one who knows the time is handsome". If you don't do this and entangle with the other party, your own losses will be great, and you will lose all the opportunities to rise.
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Own temper: Endure.
To be angry is to punish yourself with all kinds of mistakes. Others pass, you are not used to it, angry; I was wrong and got angry; The storm came, you didn't bring an umbrella, secretly angry ...
As the saying goes, "Anger hurts your body." ”
Being angry is harmful to your body and ruins your future.
In the allusion "Sangu Maolu", Liu Bei was always polite to Zhuge Liang, but Zhang Fei was not used to it, thinking that the famous Uncle Liu Huang wanted to fall at the feet of a white-faced scholar, which was too unreasonable.
It should be that Zhuge Liang did not have the ability, so he hid and did not see Liu Bei.
Fortunately, Liu Bei let his two brothers hold back their anger, and only then did they get a legendary talent with one-third of the world.
Anyone, when angry and corrupted, will make wrong judgments and make impulsive mistakes. The outcome is immeasurable.
The most incredible thing is that Zhuge Liang's "Three Qi Zhou Yu" made Zhou Yu die. It is not so much that Zhuge Liang is smart, but that Zhou Yu is smart and mistaken by being smart - stupid.
You have to do everything calmly. In this way, the mind is kept clear and the ins and outs of things are clear. Any program will not be messed up.
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The bottom of life: accumulation.
As we get older, we become more and more aware that the real growth is to have a decent family.
All confidence in life comes from the family. Lonely and helpless people, with money in their bags, do not live a good life.
But how do you build a good family? I believe in the ancient adage that the house of goodness will have Yuqing.
Many homes, at the beginning, were empty, only sofas, kitchenware, etc., but after a few years, air conditioners, shoe cabinets, etc., were all equipped. The family has since become solid. This is a process of accumulating goods.
Similarly, families should accumulate "love, harmony, and fireworks." In the process of accumulation, it is necessary to bear the contradictions of husband and wife, the academic performance of children is not very good, the nagging of parents, the dilemma of development, etc.
When you get home, you control yourself, and then talk pleasantly and strengthen communication, and the family will continue to get better. As the saying goes, husband and wife are of the same heart, and the loess turns gold.
If the family is actively doing good deeds, then the strength is even stronger. Anyone who does something good may not be able to return to other family members.
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If you think about it, you realize that the best air is air. It is colorless, tasteless, indisputable, but nourishes all things, and is still free.
As a person, you should think of yourself as "air", do not overly look for a sense of existence, and do not take revenge because of who provokes you, and who loves you is extra dependent.
Everyone wants to become a big thing, but they can't withstand everything in the outside world, how can they do it?
A successful life is like carving jade, polished repeatedly, although it is full of wounds, it is warm and easygoing.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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