In the mature years, the reality of Hong Yan, the frustration of Chunmei, and the philistine of Ersu are the beauty of real human nature
Recently, the hit "Mature Year", in this typical Chinese family, it seems that every woman has an imperfect life:
The eldest daughter-in-law Wu Ersu (played by Song Dandan) has a mother-in-law who is sick, a son and daughter-in-law who gnaw at the old, and marries a husband who "pays but does not take", and she has to worry about planning while carefully calculating the frivolities.
No matter how much you pay, the image of the eldest daughter-in-law in the Ni family can only be determined by the word "philistine", and her mantra is "you are all good people, just me a bad person." ”
The second daughter-in-law Zhang Chunmei (played by Hao Lei), who should have been in middle age for the "autumn harvest", all the glamour and beautiful in her life were shattered - her husband forced her to divorce, her son dropped out of school, she thought she could not keep up with the situation of the unit, and resigned to maintain her dignity.
Half a lifetime of hard work, not only can not be exchanged for the slightest bit of good... The word "frustrated" is the most appropriate way to describe Chunmei.
Ersu's daughter-in-law Hong Yan (Tang Yixin), a young and beautiful foreign girl married a local lang with a household registration and a house, which is a beautiful thing, but who could have expected her embarrassment? The family is crowded in the old and broken, the mother-in-law is too calculating, the husband is unambitious and Ma Bao, in order to achieve the independence of the small family, Hong Yan forced herself from a female petite to a realistic and shrewd "Wang Xifeng"...
The "Panorama Family Three Generations Traditional Family Dilemma" shown in "Mature Year" is too real! But the good thing is that it is only real and not anxious. Although the dilemma is "chicken feathers in one place", there is no lack of warm and beautiful ways to solve the dilemma.
For example, Er Su pretended to be a nanny and was exposed to go home to face Ni Weimin, this was originally a poor couple mourning, but the two drank small wine, tears and felt sorry for each other's hearts, it was so heartwarming, and finally ended with "sleeping with the old man on the bunk hunk happily".
Life is really like this: not necessarily when there is a hurdle, but there may be joy and happiness behind the hurdle... This is the magic of "Mature Year", netizens said:
"This short drama in parents interprets a different beauty."
Ersu: When people are hungry, they only want to eat enough, and I am philistine but I am honest
It is not unjust to say that Wu Ersu's image in the Ni family is "philistine"! You see what she did: calculating her mother-in-law for her son's marriage room, setting up a scheme to "cheat" her in order to earn more money...
However, Ersu's image also has a tall time, that is, when others are in trouble, she can always help with special pleasure.
In episode 27, the second elder Ni Weiqiang returned from Tibet, and the "disease" was almost cured, but the family was also scattered.
The old mother asked him to reflect, his ex-wife had emptied his clothes, and after two nights of insomnia, Weiqiang took chess to his eldest brother to find warmth, who expected that his eldest brother was also busy, and no one paid attention to him, a "redundant and hateful person".
The second man is bitter in his heart! Depression is not fatal, but the suffering is "unable to speak to people". All friends and relatives will not understand: you do not lack arms and legs, why are you sick? You hid in a corner, who forced you?
Normal people cannot understand the pain of "walking on an emotional island" and "being isolated from the whole world". At this time, Er Su Weiqiang said:
"I'll cook you a bowl of hot noodle soup!"
This is called sending charcoal in the snow! With the words of the sister-in-law, Wei Qiang fell asleep against the bed railing while waiting for the hot noodle soup.
Netizens commented in the barrage: Family affection is really good medicine.
Ersu also helped Chunmei in this way.
Weiqiang and Chunmei divorced the family banquet: the woman repeatedly tolerated, and the man repeatedly escaped. The family reader couldn't say a reason, only Er Su quickly said a few fair words:
"Chunmei's temperament is sometimes annoying to me when I look at it, but this does not affect, the second elder did this, selfish and irresponsible! You look annoyed now, why aren't you annoyed when you first married someone? It's been almost twenty years since this marriage, and you're gone. Looking back to find one twenty-eight regeneration two, people can only find fifty or sixty, can people stand it? You can't just think about your own reason, you will leave if you are bored, where is this kind of thing under the sky! ”
(This line is really too down-to-earth!) ）
Ersu said and stood up angrily:
"You think she controls you, how does she control you? You give an example! Going home twice a week, this is called control! ”
Haha, remember the relief when watching this paragraph, Ersu said everyone's heart. Of course, she didn't just scold for the sake of scolding, but also to let Weiqiang recall the happy days in the past:
When they first got married, the first thing the second man said when they entered the house at a dinner was accurate: What about Chunmei? Can't find a walk under our house, why didn't you earn her to control you at that time? Then why should you ask for control! ”
In the end, Enwei and Shi said that no one in this family could control him!
"If I were your eldest brother, if I had a younger brother like you, I would beat you!"
Haha, the most fair, penetrating, and cool lines in "Mature Year" are often said by Er Su.
If Chunmei is the spiritual pillar of the Ni family, then Er Su is the cynical "heroine" of the Ni family.
There are two reasons why Ersu can play the role of the Ni family:
First, she is a woman who accompanied the boss from difficulties, and although the culture in the Ni family is not high, she has the right to speak and can empathize with everyone: only when she has her feet full of mud can she know when others need help.
Second, compared with the rest of the Ni family, Er Su is still on the food and clothing line, and she lives a less leisurely life" - when people are hungry, they don't have flowers and intestines, they just want to eat.
Therefore, Ersu's philistine is also very real, and this character is simply on the tip of the audience's heart.
Restless Hongyan: Women should be self-reliant, and her "reality" breaks the situation for the Ni family
As a "Beipiao family", Hong Yan is realistic and restless: the in-laws let the old man, the commuting to work has hot food, and the husband is spoiled like a treasure, not bad! But Hong Yan wants to change the status quo.
Hongyan's struggle is not only for herself, but also for her husband, mother and even in-laws to strive for a "better life".
Imagine if Hong Yan is the kind of little daughter-in-law who does not stand on her own, she and Ni Jun will inevitably gnaw old to death, and Ni Weimin and Er Yu are likely to have to live on and off for a lifetime.
The only savior is the old lady's will, if he really gave 2.5 million to the boss, then Er Su used this money plus sold the old house to change to a large house. But the Hongyan two will still gnaw the old, make a bad trouble, one day the little two will lose their jobs and the old two will repay the loan...
Therefore, Hongyan's lack of contentment is not a bad thing, she is the only person who can "break the game" for Ni Weimin's family.
In "Mature Year", Hongyan's three choices revealed her "clear" nature, which made people fall in love at once.
First, when Ni Jun lost his words because of his inferiority and sensitivity, Hong Yan stood in the perspective of his lover and thought about him.
Ni Jun saw his father delivering takeaways, and said to Hongyan, "Are you marrying me for me or for our family's hukou", and got out of the car angrily.
Hong Yan chose to ignore her husband's "stress reaction", analyzed the reasons behind it from the perspective of her lover, and also bought wine and vegetables, let her husband and father-in-law drink a drink, and eliminate the knot in her heart.
At this time, Hongyan has surpassed her husband in financial ability, but she does not forget her original intention, which is touching.
After getting a commission of 50,000, Hongyan also bought gifts for her in-laws that they were usually reluctant to buy, and she really regarded Ni Jun's family as relatives.
Second, before the big right and wrong, Hongyan chose to give up interests and save people's lives.
A mother with cancer wants to cheat on insurance – commit suicide and leave the premium to her children. Hong Yan could take this insurance commission with a blind eye, but after she found it suspicious, she did not hesitate to save her mother's life and return the premium.
When her mother got lost, a smile of relief appeared on Hong Yan's face. This shows that Hongyan's bottom line is very high, and Ni Weimin's family is really "not a family, do not enter a family".
Third, knowing that her mother-in-law's family coveted the property bought by her mother, she reacted hard and decisively.
Hongyan's mother bought a suite for the little couple in Jinbei.
The matter was done urgently, did not consult with the in-laws and the two, and the name of the household also fell on him, which caused Er Su's "delusion", thinking that the other party had a premeditated plan to take away his son. Even once the two divorce, their son will be "empty".
For her mother-in-law's malicious speculation and Ni Jun's mom and baby's reaction, Hongyan decisively told her husband:
"You used all your savings to buy a house for us to live in, what did you do wrong? It's that they (the in-laws) don't treat us as a family! The first time you went to their house, what can't be discussed well, they directly throw their faces, isn't it too bullying? ”
She told Ni Jun: "My mother bought the house, she can write whoever she wants, and no one wants to hit the idea of this house." ”
Hongyan is protecting her mother's property rights on the surface, but in fact, she has stated a reason and declared a high-voltage line: the other party did not regard herself as a family, or used herself as a fertility tool before, she will not bear it. The woman is not a vulnerable group, and both parties must respect each other in order to live this life.
Hard when it should be hard, soft when it should be soft, red and bright to carry!
Chunmei: In the face of a midlife crisis, perhaps we should surrender and wait for a bigger gift
Chunmei's problem is not selfishness or attitude, but that she has lost herself by working too hard.
"I thought that as long as I worked hard, everyone could have a happy life. Unexpectedly, there was no happy person in this family. ”
So, the lesson that fate gave her was "surrender."
All the things she thought should blossom, fate arranged for her the opposite outcome. She was not convinced and continued to work hard, but fate continued to make her accept the blow.
When she finally learned how to "break all the plates", fate finally ushered in a turning point - her husband Weiqiang went to self-healing because of her letting go, her son found a way to self-consistent ideal reality, and she also found a job that could give full play to her value.
It turns out that the big hand of fate is so loving: those midlife crises are broken and painful, and it is to make a person learn to surrender and rest in order to welcome the greater gift of life.
When she left the magazine where she had worked for 20 years, Chunmei said with great understanding:
"I remember watching a movie before that said that life is divided into three realms: seeing yourself, seeing heaven and earth, and seeing all sentient beings. It took me twenty years to see my true self. Am I an oppressive wife, a mother whose children cannot be trusted, or an editor who has been eliminated by the times... But it doesn't matter, it's because I finally saw all this, I can face my failed self, my imperfect life. ”
Chunmei's words echo the theme of "Mature Year" very well: life is imperfect, the shortcomings of human nature are not ugly, those are all an experience of life towards "mature year", and it is the beautiful youth before the flowers bloom.
Don't be anxious, live in the moment, everything is just right.