After the college entrance examination, it is often the "blowout" period of children's psychological problems!

Before the college entrance examination, candidates are under intense study pressure, and their psychological state is still controllable. As soon as the college entrance examination is over, candidates unload the overload of study pressure, from extreme tension before the exam to extreme relaxation after the exam, but it is easy to lose control.

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After the college entrance examination, students and parents seem to be able to breathe a sigh of relief, unload the pressure they have carried for many years, and finally let go of their hearts that have been hanging for many years.

However, adolescent psychological counselors remind that the exam is often the "blowout" period of candidates' psychological problems! From the end of the college entrance examination to before entering the university, it is a period of high incidence of psychological problems, and the proportion of candidates with psychological problems is no less than before the college entrance examination and during the college entrance examination. A few weeks after the college entrance examination, students' mood will undergo complex changes, and many students will feel strong emptiness, boredom, confusion, anxiety, depression...

The reason for this situation is that candidates are under intense study pressure before the college entrance examination, and their psychological state is still controllable. As soon as the college entrance examination is over, candidates unload the overload of study pressure, from extreme tension before the exam to extreme relaxation after the exam, but it is easy to lose control. Many candidates "collapse" due to excessive pressure or too relaxed, and have symptoms such as depression, autism, and gastrointestinal discomfort. Experts remind that these are all manifestations of "post-college entrance examination syndrome".

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　　Xiao Li: I feel a little more relaxed after the exam, but I feel heavy at the thought of getting results after a while. I feel that I didn't do so well in the exam, and I am worried about my future. When asked about my grades by my parents, I was very irritable and didn't want to talk to anyone. When I'm idle at home, I don't want to do anything, I brush the Internet drama over and over again, I want to pass the time, hey, the mood is still very irritable.

      Being at a loss, feeling empty and irritable are typical inner feelings of candidates after the college entrance examination. During the preparation for the college entrance examination, candidates abandoned almost all hobbies and devoted all their time and energy to preparing for the exam. And after the college entrance examination, there is no need to do anything, no need to study, no need to read, the huge "blank" after the college entrance examination is in strong contrast with the tense rhythm before the college entrance examination, and the long-term spiritual sustenance is instantly lost, and the heart will suddenly produce a sense of emptiness, not knowing what to do next. Some people fill the gaps in their hearts by playing, indulgence, and overeating, while others are immersed in depression and autism and find it difficult to let go of the huge baggage they once carried. As a result, some emotional distress, such as depression, autism, or overexcitement, are all manifestations of "post-college entrance examination syndrome".

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The typical state of post-gaokao syndrome is divided into two types:

First, excessive excitement

Most students have adapted to the rhythm of carrying the burden of the college entrance examination, when they suddenly let go of the baggage, free from high-intensity control and restraint, but there is a mental "famine", do not know what to do, and suddenly relax psychologically. The huge psychological contrast state makes the candidates psychologically and physically unadaptable. Some students seemed very excited, chasing dramas or watching discs day and night.

Second, pessimism and depression

Some students usually have average grades, but they have strict requirements for themselves in their hearts, have great expectations, and have great hopes for the extraordinary performance of the college entrance examination. After the college entrance examination, I was disillusioned, felt that the test was not ideal, felt lost, pessimistic and even sorry for my parents and family, and faced teachers and classmates without face, and all kinds of anxiety caused excessive pessimism.

After the results are announced, candidates have huge psychological differences due to different test results: self-blame, guilt, hatred for not working hard, and feeling sorry for teachers and parents; It is easy to indulge in a good test, surfing the Internet, swimming, singing, partying all day long, excessive catharsis, and causing adverse consequences.

The body itself is a balance body, and absolute relaxation and tension can upset this balance. Not only is it not good for their physical health, but they also tend to form an empty and numb mental state psychologically, resulting in the destruction of their normal psychological state.

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How to help children get out of this state as soon as possible, get rid of negative emotions, prevent depression or even more serious psychological problems, and face future life with a positive attitude?

The prevention and regulation of "post-college entrance examination syndrome" is directly related to parents' educational methods.

Many parents intentionally or unintentionally ask their children to undertake their unfulfilled life pursuits, and also pass on their anxiety and lack of confidence about the college entrance examination or the future to their children. Although parents do not say anything, attitudes, expressions, and mantras will affect their children's feelings. In addition, many children are now only children, growing up under the careful care of their parents, who will not do anything but study. In this parent-child relationship, many children set their life goals as study and exams, and regard the college entrance examination as a "battlefield", and once they fail the college entrance examination, they cannot face it at all. Children will pay too much attention to the college entrance examination, feel that "one test determines life and death", if you can't get into a good university, you can't find a good job, so your future will be miserable...

In fact, as a kind of selective examination, although it is relatively a fair and just competition, its result can never be "win-win". Not to mention that a large number of candidates will be eliminated due to unsatisfactory test scores, even if the scores are online, the final admission result may not be as desired. After the college entrance examination, parents should first make self-psychological adjustments and influence their children with their emotions and attitudes.

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1. Flexible view of the future: For children who do not have ideal tests, parents should not blindly rebuke and complain, reduce the importance of the college entrance examination for themselves and their children, flexibly view the future of their children, positively influence children, help them reduce pressure, and find reasonable catharsis suitable for children. Wait until your child is emotionally stable before talking about future plans.

For children who do well and indulge in catharsis, parents can communicate with their children to see what they think, or give their children some suggestions, such as going on an outing with classmates, doing some things that they wanted to do but did not do before, doing summer vacation work, etc., and more contact with nature and society, which can not only enrich life, but also help regulate mood.

2. Give affirmation and support: There are many options for the future road, affirm the advantages of children, help children "make up for their strengths", make feasible plans for the future according to the actual situation of children, and let children have more confidence in this society and the future.

3. Learn to separate from children: Children will eventually have their own lives and will grow up to be independent people, they need to learn to be responsible for their future, and they also need certain opportunities to exercise themselves so that they can stand independently in society. Parents, especially mothers, should let their children deal with their own problems.

Guangzhou Psychological Counseling Conclusion: Although the college entrance examination is over, many tests in life have just begun, and children's lives have just begun. If the child has emotional distress, anxiety, depression or confusion about the future during this time period, parents should learn to accept and accompany, give the child support and energy, and if necessary, accompany the child to seek professional psychological counseling help, better pass this stage, and prepare for the next stage.