2023 can be described as the first year of artificial intelligence!
Various artificial intelligence tools have emerged and flourished.
One of the most talked about is chatgpt.
The power of it, with it, you have an omniscient assistant at hand, and whatever you want to ask it, it can give you very good answers.
Therefore, now for the education of children, what knowledge to learn and master, seriously, has become not so important.
Because the ease of acquiring knowledge for children is greatly improved, the difficulty is greatly reduced.
They can get whatever knowledge they want, anytime, anywhere, so that's why I say that learning and what knowledge is mastered becomes less important.
So, in the era of artificial intelligence, what kind of ability is most important to cultivate children?
This is something that every parent must think about and take seriously.
In this article, I would like to combine the course I recently heard - "Li Xiaolai Talks about Family Education in the AI Era" to talk to you about what abilities we parents should focus on cultivating our children in this era of rapid development of artificial intelligence.
I believe that after reading it, it will definitely inspire you to educate your children.
01 Cultivate children's ability to focus on doing things
The ability to focus on doing things is a very scarce and valuable ability, and it is becoming more and more scarce and valuable.
Why?
There are two reasons for this.
The first reason, you should have found, under the influence of mobile phones, children are now becoming less and less attentive and more and more prone to distraction.
Whether learning or doing anything, children will always pick up their hands to look at it, consciously or unconsciously, for fear of misreading some important information. In fact, many times it is just boring to open and close various apps.
When everyone becomes less and less focused, your child's ability to concentrate becomes more valuable.
The second reason, in the era of artificial intelligence, there is no doubt that many people's jobs will be replaced by AI, especially those who master low-threshold technology and have a level of half a pound, which is more likely to be replaced by AI.
If you want not to be replaced by AI, you need to improve your professionalism and be the ultimate in your field.
Because AI is a tool, it can help people do some or even most of the work, but the rest must be done by the people themselves.
If you can do this part done by people to the extreme, not only will most people not be able to compete with you, but even AI will not be able to compete with you.
And to do your job to the extreme, you have to learn to do things with concentration.
Understanding the importance of the ability to focus on doing things, the next question is, how can we exercise children's ability to focus on doing things?
Li Xiao said that no matter what you do, the methodology for doing it is the same, that is, to concentrate on doing it for a long, long time.
This method is simple and straightforward, crude and effective.
Tell your child to focus and sustain everything you do, and make it a habit.
For example, reading, find a complete piece of time every day to concentrate on reading.
For example, running, find a time to run every day.
For example, when you play the guitar, you have to pay attention to it every time you play it.
During this period, the most important thing for parents is to control their hands and mouths, do not interrupt their children without moving, and let the children stay focused and develop habits.
02 Cultivate children's ability to take initiative
Being proactive includes actively learning, thinking, and practicing.
With the development of material abundance and artificial intelligence, the convenience of people's lives will continue to improve.
There is no doubt that people will also become lazier. Not only will behavior become lazy, but even thinking will become lazy.
If you want something, click on your phone, and someone will deliver it to your door; If there is anything you don't understand, check it on your phone and you will have the answer.
So, next, there will be a variety of freelancers to provide consumers with a variety of services to meet their various needs.
These freelancers, with the blessing of artificial intelligence, personal ability and efficiency have been greatly improved. They can live themselves as a team, or a small team into a large team, helping more people and businesses solve the corresponding problems.
In order to reduce costs, companies will outsource projects that they do not have an advantage to these freelancers.
So you see, a lot of businesses are getting smaller and smaller, because everyone is more focused on what they're good at.
Therefore, the best way for your child to live a more nourishing life in the future is to work for himself and become a freelancer who can solve problems in a certain field professionally and effectively.
In order to cultivate this sense of working for children, the best way is to exercise their ability to take the initiative to complete tasks.
Children will learn and grow in the process of actively completing tasks.
So how to develop children's ability to take the initiative to complete tasks?
First of all, the child has to have tasks.
At first, children may not know what they want, so we parents need to take the initiative to arrange tasks for children.
A few days ago, Jinshan Middle School organized an event where parents could take their sixth-grade and third-year children to Jinzhong to listen to various lectures.
I took my son to participate.
I found that from checking documents at the school gate, to guiding the work on the school road, to presiding over the venue and maintaining order, almost all of them were done by the students of Kim Junior High School independently.
Moreover, they will be very active, proactive and enthusiastic to communicate with us and provide all kinds of help, completely regard themselves as the master of the school, treat us as guests, receive us warmly and generously, and have a very good spirit.
This is how children take the initiative to complete the task after receiving it.
Second, the task should have a clear goal, but not too much beyond the child's ability.
Vague goals or too much over the child's ability will affect the child's initiative.
A while ago, in order to let my child know about chatgpt, I arranged a task for my son - to help me register a chatgpt account.
Because the registration process involves circumventing the wall and buying a foreign mobile phone number, and there is no complete tutorial online, it is quite troublesome.
Many people give up using it just because of registration problems.
It took my son a few nights to register and figure out how to use it.
I saw his excitement and joy after completing the task through his own efforts.
Another time, the teacher asked him to make a PowerPoint for the class meeting.
After I knew it, Shunshui Tuizhou arranged another task for him - to study how to make PPT with AI tools.
After the PPT was made, not only was he praised by the teacher, but the teachers of other classes also praised his PPT for being very tall after seeing it.
As a result, he happily contracted the production of PPT in the future class.
Finally, in the process of children taking the initiative to complete tasks, it is necessary to give them positive feedback in time, which can strengthen their sense of initiative.
There is one biggest difference between people and artificial intelligence, that is, initiative - initiative!
We people not only think about how to accomplish something, but also actively think about why we do it.
But AI doesn't, it only passively carries out the commands people give it.
Just like chatgpt, if you don't ask for it, it doesn't respond.
Therefore, in the era of artificial intelligence, your child has the initiative, and artificial intelligence is his best weapon; At the same time, he also lost most people.
Because the vast majority of people are lazy and passive.
03 Cultivate children's ability to think and judge independently
What is the ability to judge?
For Li Xiao, the so-called judgment is to know what is better and what is more important.
Knowing what is better and what is more important, you will naturally know what is bad and what is not important.
The next thing to do is very simple, choose those that are better and more important, and let go of those that are not important.
There is a saying that says that life is the result of a series of self-choices.
If your child can always make the right choice based on his own judgment at the critical juncture, then your child will naturally stand out.
And what is the biggest problem for many of us?
It is that there is no ability to think and judge independently.
If you think about it, you don't often encounter such a scene.
Hearing a person say a point of view today makes sense to you; Tomorrow you hear another person say another point, and you feel that it makes sense.
But, if you think about it, it's not right! These two views are diametrically opposed, and you think they both make sense.
Don't you think it's a creepy thing?
Because this means that you have no ability to think and judge independently, you are completely carried away by other people's opinions.
But what's even more frightening is that we never think about how to change this situation, how to improve our judgment.
So I guess, you definitely don't want the same thing to happen to your own children, right? You definitely don't want your child to be a person who doesn't have the ability to think and judge independently, right?
The answer is indisputable.
So, how can we improve children's ability to think and judge independently?
Method one, give children less ideas.
To improve children's ability to think and judge independently, it is necessary to give children enough opportunities to exercise independent thinking and judgment.
And to do this is actually very simple, that is, in daily life, we parents try to give our children as few ideas as possible, and they make their own choices and judgments.
But in fact, most parents are trying to make decisions and choices for their children.
From what clothes to wear, what food to eat, what interest classes to sign up for, what books to read, what friends to teach, what school to attend, etc., parents have taken the initiative to help their children choose.
Parents take the initiative to choose, and children can only passively accept.
Over time, the child naturally loses the initiative.
Many parents may say that the child has no judgment ability, will choose the wrong ah, should he be allowed to be wrong?
You have to know that to exercise children's ability to think and judge, mistakes are inevitable.
We as parents should give our children enough room for error, so that they can learn from their mistakes, rather than being surprised when their children make a mistake.
Unfortunately, at home, many parents do not tolerate their children making mistakes; In school, many teachers do not give children the opportunity to make mistakes.
Children who commit a crime will go online, and all kinds of criticism, review and punishment, children can only tremble all day long, like walking on thin ice. Don't dare to try anything, try not to do it if you can.
How can children who grow up in this environment have good thinking and judgment skills?
Drucker, a master manager, once said: I will never promote someone who has never made a mistake to a top management position, because people who have not made a big mistake must be mediocre.
Huawei's Ren Zhengfei was even more ruthless, saying: If you have not made a big mistake, not only will I not promote you, but I will also remove you from office.
Therefore, you have to let the child try more and give him enough room for mistakes; And let him learn to face failure calmly, not fear it.
The watershed between mediocrity and greatness is the attitude towards failure.
Although making mistakes is an indispensable part of a child's development, we can let children learn more and learn faster by making mistakes.
This is the second way to talk about how to improve children's ability to think and judge independently.
Method 2: Provide two types of help to children:
1. Find ways to provide children with more basis for judgment.
One of the reasons for the child's poor judgment is that the child does not have enough information and does not have enough basis for him to make accurate judgments.
Therefore, we parents are not greedy to make up their minds for them, but to provide them with more information and judgment basis, and then let the children make their own judgments.
For example, I want my child to study hard and be admitted to Jinzhong after 3 years, which requires him to judge that Jinzhong is a particularly good school.
So I took him to Jinzhong to personally experience the beautiful environment and strong humanistic atmosphere of the campus, as well as the spirit and aura of Jinzhong students.
What he saw, heard, and felt in Kim made him firmly believe that such a school is a truly good school.
I believe that he will work hard for his own judgment.
Many times, the child's lack of action is because the child does not believe enough; Once you believe it, it's natural to put it into action.
2. Find ways to analyze more possible consequences for children.
We adults don't like to think about the consequences of things that haven't happened yet.
Because laziness and short-sightedness are human nature.
Then the child will not even think about the consequences of things.
For example, it is difficult for a small child to imagine the serious consequences of eating junk food for a year in a row.
Because a year is equivalent to 10% of a 10-year-old's life, which is too long for him to imagine.
Therefore, what we parents need to do is to help children think and imagine from multiple angles, if they do or do not do a thing, what benefits will be obtained after a period of time, or what serious consequences will be caused.
This can improve the child's ability to think and judge more comprehensively.
I not only ran with him every day, but I also discussed with my child the benefits of running from many aspects such as health, intelligence, socialization, willpower, etc., and what the consequences of not exercising will be.
When you think clearly about the consequences, it is easier to make choices and judgments.
It can be seen that the process of thinking and judging is actually a process of collecting information and arguing conclusions.
This process, only if the child continues to practice by himself, can become as comfortable as breathing.
04 Improve children's social skills
Social competence is the ability to interact and interact with people.
It is a core element of whether people can achieve a happy life and has a decisive impact on the psychological growth of children.
However, you will find that children nowadays are becoming more and more socially phobic (Internet buzzword, short for social phobia).
They become reticent and do not like to deal with others.
They just like to indulge in the online world.
Why is this happening?
The attraction of the Internet is certainly a reason, when more importantly, the real environment has changed.
What is not available in reality, children can only turn their attention to the Internet.
First of all, many parents are too busy to have time for their children to play and communicate.
Second, many children are only children and have no siblings to play and learn from each other. They become less likely to get along with their peers.
Finally, school is no longer the best place to practice social skills.
In order to facilitate management, many schools have adopted a high-pressure policy, standardizing children's various behaviors to death, and not allowing normal fights and plays between children.
In order to easily manage the class, some teachers encourage children to report to each other and make small reports to each other.
It makes the children's relationship with other classmates at school tense, and every day they either dig out their minds to report others, or beware of being reported by others, always trembling, like walking on thin ice.
Children cultivated in this way are destined to be annoying and despised, how can they have good social skills?
In the Hollywood movie "Smell the Woman", the male protagonist Charlie is a high school student, he faces the coercion and temptation of the principal, and even resists the pressure of being expelled from school, he is determined not to betray his classmates.
At the end of the film, another male protagonist, retired soldier Frank, gave an impassioned speech at Charlie's hearing.
He said: Courage and integrity are good qualities, and we should protect them and encourage them, not encourage people to sell their principles. There are so many things in life that are more important than profit, selling friends for glory is killing the soul, and the real soul does not have prosthetics.
So, here I would like to recommend two ways to improve your child's social skills.
First of all, children must be taught to be a person with the right three views.
The three views are not correct, and no matter how good the social skills are, they can only get some chickens and dogs and thieves.
And to let children have the correct three views, the best way is that parents must first have the correct three views, and then teach them by example.
Second, you need to teach your child to prioritize the good in others.
Li Xiao said that one of the most important bottom lines of social networking is to "not invite people to be bored", and to do not cause people to be bored, as long as one principle is enough, that is, give priority to the "advantages" of others rather than "shortcomings"!
Everyone desires to be respected, understood, praised, affirmed, noticed, valued, and all of these appeals can be implemented in a simple and effective way, which is to teach your children to prioritize the good of others and give sincere praise.
Sincere praise is the toughest icebreaker in the world, the warmest spring breeze, and no one will hate a person who knows how to praise sincerely.
05 Improve your child's ability to stay healthy
Health, including physical and mental health. Both aspects of health are equally important.
But now many children's physical health is really worrying.
A classmate of mine who teaches at a high school said that whenever there was a flag-raising ceremony on Monday morning, as long as the school leaders spoke on stage for more than 20 minutes, there would be students fainting in the playground, sometimes too many to support.
Is it because the sun is too sunny?
You know, many times, it is a cool breezy autumn and spring morning.
It can only be said that the children's physique is too poor.
At the same time, children's mental health is more likely to be overlooked by parents.
According to the "China National Mental Health Development Report (2019~2020)", the overall proportion of primary and secondary schools with different degrees of depressive symptoms in China exceeds 24%, and it increases with the increase of grades. Among them, 24.6% of adolescents were depressed and 7.4% were severe.
This data is really shocking.
However, if there is data for 2021-2022, the results will definitely only get worse.
It is really ironic to say that the material level is getting better and better, but the children's physical condition is getting worse and worse, and the spiritual world is getting more and more empty.
All this stems from our lack of health education for our children.
Therefore, what we parents do is to immediately establish a healthy awareness for our children from now on and improve their children's ability to stay healthy.
If it's not healthy, there's no way to compete; If you are not healthy, longevity is a torture; If it's not healthy, everything is meaningless.
How do you do that?
There is a simple and effective way, and that is exercise.
Allowing children to maintain 30 minutes to 1 hour of outdoor exercise every day and forming habits can maintain children's physical and mental health with a high probability.
Because in this day and age, life is too good, resulting in children becoming too lazy and too inactive.
You know, the human body has been adapted to the high-intensity physical labor of hunting and farming for hundreds of thousands of years, and sitting in the office for mental work is only the way the information age works in recent decades, and the human body is simply not adapted to sitting or lying flat for a long time.
Sitting or lying down for a long time can cause great damage to the body. For example, blood circulating, cervical and lumbar strain, and so on.
Therefore, it is easy to understand that exercise can strengthen children's physical fitness and stay healthy.
But why is exercise good for mental health?
Because exercise causes the brain to secrete various happy chemicals, such as dopamine and endorphins.
These substances can enhance pleasure, stimulate positive emotions in children, and reduce the tendency to depression.
That's why it's rare to see a person who loves sports have mental health problems.
And those who stay still all day are more likely to have depression.
You may ask: So which exercise is best for your child's health?
I recommend running because it's simple, easy to start, and easier to stick to; Most importantly, it is the lowest cost and has an all-round workout effect on the body.
Football, basketball, table tennis, badminton, these sports are all good, but they are all limited by the venue and partners, and it is not easy to start.
If you can get your child to develop the habit of running in junior high school or even elementary school, it will benefit your child for life.
However, you must understand that it is difficult for children to spontaneously form the habit of running. This habit must be formed by you to help him.
Almost every day when I come home from work, I take my son for a run.
Of course, he was reluctant at first, but he couldn't resist my "coercion and temptation" and had to run.
More importantly, I led by example throughout the whole process, running with him throughout the process, and there was no reason for him not to run.
Believe me, within a month or two, the child will get used to running and fall in love with running.
But this matter must be led and supervised by you.
If you can't run, you ride your bike and follow alongside.
One way to win is to stick to the end before getting off the table.
Life is the same, if you live longer than your competitors, you win.
And the premise of living long enough is that you need to stay healthy.
06 Written at the end
Under the current education system, school education must be the only way to follow.
Teachers desperately try to instill knowledge in students from various textbooks, but the 5 abilities mentioned above that are essential for students' lives are not valued at all, or even do not teach at all.
That said, we as parents cannot turn a blind eye.
Parents must take responsibility for developing these abilities in their children.
Only in this way, after entering the era of artificial intelligence, can your child become the one who can use artificial intelligence.
Only in this way, after entering the era of artificial intelligence, your child will not be replaced by those who can use artificial intelligence.