Qian Liqun, a senior professor in the Department of Chinese at Peking University and a doctoral supervisor, is considered one of the most influential humanities figures in China since the 1980s.
It is not an exaggeration to describe him in the words of the faculty to describe Him: a noble man; a pure man; a moral man; a man detached from lowly tastes; a man who benefits the people.
When Xu Zhiyuan approached Qian Liqun with "Thirteen Invitations", let us deepen our understanding of Qian Liqun more clearly and deeply, and such humanists have become less and less in this land.
In August 2018, after Qian Liqun was diagnosed with cancer, he and his wife Cui Kexin, like the same, chose not to do any life extension treatment, in the program he said: Calculate about five years, do what I want to do as much as possible, after doing it, it does not matter, you can die at any time.
This attitude of being very dismissive of life and death is not something that anyone can achieve.
Remember that there was such news, some rich people went to play what 600,000 yuan a needle of life extension, and the reason why the rich people who have passed away in Hong Kong have lived long is to spend money to buy a life extension needle, spending more than 100 million, but in the end they still failed to beat the biggest enemy of life.
When life and death are looked down upon, it is difficult not to be encouraged to approach Qian Liqun again, a master-level figure.
In this issue of "Thirteen Invitations", in the process of talking with Xu Zhiyuan, Elder Qian talked about many inspiring views, which are worth pondering for everyone who chooses to live seriously.
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My Three Provinces and My Body: Seeking For Others and Not Being Faithful? Friends and not convinced? Can't get used to it?
This sentence is estimated to be familiar to many people, but how many have they done it?
Qian Lao's introspective heart has always run through the interviews of the show, and after talking about his seeming success, he has already reflected: Will he unconsciously use power to suppress others?
In the interview, Elder Qian said a small thing around him, in the process of the student's defense, he knew that the set of students said was wrong, but it was possible that the other party was young, so he was ignorant and fearless, so he was very angry at that time.
Therefore, Elder Qian raised many sharp questions that made the students unable to get off the stage, and when the students looked at him in horror, Elder Qian suddenly woke up.
Elder Qian sincerely reflected on the matter: I seemed to get everything I wanted, but maybe I had fundamentally lost myself.
This kind of self-consciousness of introspection is really admirable.
In real life, I have participated in many large and small workplace or chicken soup training for the soul, and in these training courses, I can feel the mentality of many trainers: I am the most cattle, and everything is done by listening to me.
But what about the actual result? But it is not satisfactory, and these trainers have never introspected what is the problem?
Of course, most of them look at money, not forward, and comparing them with money is wronged.
However, this can also be understood that after reaching a certain level or the height of self-recognition, there are too few people who can really reflect like Qian Lao.
Because of this frequent introspection, he said three things about himself:
Observe, do not jump to conclusions lightly.
Wait, many things can not be rushed now.
Stick to it, you can't follow everyone in the chaos.
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People familiar with the show "Thirteen Invitations" should be able to understand that Xu Zhiyuan has withstood a lot of criticism.
Due to the difference in values and outlook on life, Xu Zhiyuan often asks the person with a torturous tone, what is the meaning of what he (she) does? Is there any guiding significance for other people's lives?
For example, a sentence that often appears in the show is: if the value is confused, how to find its own meaning.
However, in the process of dialogue with Qian Liqun, I basically can't see this confusion of questioning and exploration.
Because Qian Lao's spiritual world is really too powerful.
In the program, in order to fulfill the last wish of his wife Cui Kexin, Qian Lao especially returned to Guizhou, where he had worked and lived for 18 years.
It was a life of suffering and color, and many people who went to the countryside through it regarded it as suffering or avoided talking about it, deliberately forgetting.
However, Qian Lao's attitude toward life is to accept it calmly, as he said: never beautify, do not escape, and "transform suffering into spiritual resources."
At that time, Wang Yangming also had an epiphany in Guizhou Longchang, and Qian Lao's experience in Guizhou was also a flying eyebrow dance, and he did not think that it was a process of suffering, but had a very profound impact on him.
It is precisely because of his experience in Guizhou that his life experience is very rich.
Therefore, Qian Lao said that on top of these life experiences, he put forward an empirical statement: people cannot be sophisticated, but they must understand the world.
Understanding the world does not mean that there is no bottom line for being a person, and Qian Lao has a famous "three bottom lines of speaking":
(1) Strive to tell the truth;
2. If you cannot tell the truth, you should remain silent;
Third, when you have no right to remain silent and have to tell a lie, you should not harm others.
In the process of talking with Xu Zhiyuan, perhaps after years of precipitation of life experience, and the three bottom lines of speaking have been expanded, when talking about how to speak, Qian Lao said that people can tell lies when they have to, but there are three bottom lines for false words:
First, distinguish between right and wrong, and it is wrong to tell a lie;
Second, it can only be forced, can not take the initiative to tell lies;
Third, you can't hurt others by telling lies.
Elder Qian's attitude toward life and the history of suffering is indeed awe-inspiring, just as there is no road in vain in life, and every step you take counts.
However, how many people really regard the road they have traveled as their valuable experience and draw nourishment from it?
03
Here is just a brief description and expression of respect for Qian Lao, from him did learn a lot, and there are some classic scenes in the program that directly make people tear up: the farewell singing of Qian's old lady Cui Kexin, the scene where Qian Lao and his former friends in Guizhou get together, and so on.
Some netizens said that this interview program has been brushed three times in a row, and this program can make people shed tears unconsciously.
After all, suffering or suffering itself, although the parties can face it calmly, the onlookers cannot be calm.
I have to sigh that the end of this episode is more interesting.
Qian Lao said that the performance was once shown to Xu Zhiyuan, and then took Xu Zhiyuan for a walk to feel the nature.
At this time, there is a sentence that is very aptly described: looking at the mountain is the mountain, and looking at the water is the water.
Elder Qian said that seeing that there were dead leaves and yellow leaves among the green leaves, Xu Zhiyuan looked at the leaves and colors on the trees.
Xu Zhiyuan asked: Which tree is most similar to the spiritual temperament of the inner world?
Elder Qian said: At this time, leave all this alone, you are still habitual to this kind of thinking. In fact, it is appreciation, it does not have any knowledge involved... Enter into a purely individual life and the encounter of nature.
But Xu Zhiyuan still didn't understand what Qian Lao wanted to show him.
Qian Lao is actually a process of feeling the natural world with a childlike heart and curiosity, and does not require any knowledge.
So when Xu Zhiyuan looked at the scenery that Elder Qian was pointing to, he asked again: Aren't the changes of our times also like this? The whole can't see that it is changing.
Elder Qian said: Don't think about this, it is an inner feeling when you are opposed to nature.
Seeing this, think about how long it has been since I felt nature like Elder Qian, when I felt inner peace, I didn't say more, or I went to see the scenery and listen to the sound of the wind...
You don't have to think about anything to see and hear, and keep a childlike heart.
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